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Well...I would like to ask for his number as I stated earlier. The problem is...I don't know a discreet way to pull him away from the group to ask. Of course I am a bit afraid he will say no....but if he does, I would rather he say no to me, than to "reject" me with an audience. Further...it would be worse if he just gave it to me because everyone was watching and felt pressured. Any suggestions? Also, I have been out of the dating game for quite awhile......does anyone have any tips of what I can do (in addition to the number), that would make it MORE obvious to him that I am flirting/liked him? I know that I am a subtle flirt...so any tips would be great. I am not an outrageous flirt....so I am not comfortable going over the top, and I think he would be uncomfortable if I did.

I have read many articles, and many opinions about men and women's body language, and almost all believe that it is a true indicator of someone liking you or being attracted to you. I would like to discuss my situation.... 2 weeks ago, my best friend got a call one night when we were out for coffee. It was from a friend that she hadn't seen in a few months....so we went up to meet him and his friend. Here are the things that me and/or my friend picked up on... I was sitting accross from him -Whenever I made a joke..or said anything he looked at me and laughed -under the table his foot/feet would be touching...without him moving them -Would mirror his body like mine -If he wanted to get my attention in the midst of conversation, he would tap my arm -asked me directions to a place my friend knows far better (and he KNOWS that my friend knows the place better) -Was a bit nervous -Only had known him for an hour and a half....and when we left, he gave me a hug, and not just a quick friendly hug -Both the guys said they had a good time, and we should all do it again sometime. From there...we made plans to go out with them this week. We did...what happened... -When he was talking to me, or laughing at a joke he or I made, he held eye contact longer than "socially normal". -Brought a male coworker with us when we went out...didn't tell him ANYTHING....to see if he saw anything going on between this guy and myself. Within 5 minutes of being there...the coworker leaned over to my friend and asked what was with all the flirting me and this guy were doing -Would look at me when I wasn't looking, and when I looked at him, he looked away -Mirrored my body language -knees touching under the table slightly...for various periods of at least 5 minutes without moving -Stands next to me, always with his shoulder touching mine -Looks at me "differently" than the others who were there -Hugs me goodbye, closes his eyes and rubs my back Yes, I am very attracted and interested in him. Normally, I would have just asked for the guy's number in a situation like this. HOWEVER, I am not convinced that he likes me. I am not sure if he is just being friendly or interested. After I met him, I asked my friend about him...his likes, dislikes etc. Maybe I am wrong, but I assume that if he liked/attracted to me, he would of asked our friend about me. Could he be interested if he isn't inquiring about me? I don't really know what to do here. I would like to hang out with them again, but my friend and I made the initiative last time (to go out), should we do so again? Or wait for them to invite us somewhere. For the record, my friend has a bf...and this guy's friend has a gf. My friend says that normally he is very shy, and doesn't talk much, or hug people when he doesn't know them well.....she also tells me she is surprised he was like this with me. Maybe I am insane, but regardless of all the body language...the fact that he hasn't asked about me, makes me think that he isn't interested. Does anyone disagree?

I have really light skin as well....and it has a very pinky/red tone to it...so I don't look as light as I really am. I use Covergirl in Ivory...which balances it out very nicely. Generally, what I do is use a triangular sponge. I put some on the the fat end of the sponge....and put a larger dab on my nose, forhead, both cheeks and chin. I then blend again with the large part of the sponge in the particular area...then use the thin part of the sponge to blend so it is even, non-blotchy and thins it out. I use covergirl powder as well (Ivory). What I do though...is use a large puffy brush and lightly put that on my face (I never use the thing they include with the powder. Hope that helps!

Sometimes it depends too if you are on any meds. I am asthmatic...so for years my reasting heart rate is 82 BPM because of my meds. I also weigh more than you though.

Alright....I can see where the two of you are coming from, very good points! Exactly how are you supposed to have an "exclusive" talk?

69_King, I was curious...if you walked down a dark alley, and 4 huge guys jumped out from behind a garbage bin, beat you up and then stole your wallet...would it be appropriate for me to say you were "asking" for you wallet to be stolen? That it is all your fault that you walked down the alley? That you deserved to have your wallet stolen? I do not believe so. There are 2 kinds of rape situations...one where the perp jumps out of the bushes and rapes someone (a stranger), and the other, which they call "date rape", this occurs at parties or at someone's house...ie you know them to some extent. The problem with date rape is there are so many people that blame the female. REGARDLESS of the situation, it is not her fault for putting herself there. It is the MEN'S fault for taking advantage of her whether she was sober or not. And just to be technical, NO ONE can give consent when they are intoxicated. You can't walk to the bank and sign a loan when you are drunk...you also cannot give consent when you are drunk. Place the blame where it lies, with the men. It doesn't matter what she was wearing, drinking or doing...the fact remains she was raped. Once this society learns that rape is about control and power, and not about SEX, the better off we will be.

Iceman, Actually, it is a myth that women reach their peak in their 30's and men at 18. I do have references if you need them. A peak would have to have an incline and a decline, and I am sure most men weren't warming up at the age of 9, hit their peak at 18, slowly decline to 27 then stop having sex. I agree with the poster, women are as horny as men, it just may not appear that way due to social conditioning. I should add...that there is no "peak" for either sex.

Okay...not to be graphic or gross...but the reason that it is too sensitive...is probably because you are touching her clitoris too directly. Try rubbing her on top of the clitoral hood, and not the clit directly....that should clear the problem up too. Also...just ask for some direction for what feels good.

Alright...I know this sounds corny...but before you do that, make sure your fingernails are trimmed and your hands are clean. If you nicked her...she could get an infection from the bacteria on your hands. Please make sure she is turned on enough (lubricated) before putting your fingers in.

Well...if it makes you feel any better....I would certainly keep chatting to you!

My friends and I were discussing sex earlier today...and we came to a general consensus what makes sex mindblowing for women. We didn't have any men around to ask....so I thought I would post here. We have heard many negatives about sex....like men consider it "bad sex" when the woman just "lies there". So, what makes sex absolutely mindblowing for men? Thanks in advance for posts!

Thank you for your post rvr350! Does anyone else have any opinions....yes I am fishing here....lol

Maybe I should have clarified....in terms of going over to his house...I didn't mean to sound as though it was for sex. I meant it as...hanging out, watching a movie or whatever. I have already made my decision about the perameters of sex in my life. The reason I ask about dropping me off...or going to hang out if asked....is that I am aware of safety issues. Often I have seen people try to make a difference between meeting online...and meeting in a bar, or first dates etc. Obviously ANY of these situations can be dangerous. Heck, you could go on 10 dates with someone....and they can still be a "predator". I am on the fence....as I am not in the situation yet (I like to be prepared before I get into situations). I am looking at for example if I said "No" to either of the situations above...there is a potential for him to think that I am not interested when I am. So, I am aware of the safety issue (and I am NOT tossing that idea out the window). Looking forward to reading more if anyone else has a thought or advise....

hello! I completely applaud you for being so upfront and honest! Those are incredibly great traits to have. I understand that it is very frustrating when guys go "okay bye". However, the way that you want to conduct your life is your way. I would consider this to be a way of weeding through the players and finding someone genuine. Sleeping with someone after a date or a few or whatever is a personal choice....and you are mature enough to have made it for yourself! IMO, I think you should be very proud of who you are.....and although it is frustrating, there are many, many really great guys out there who will like you just the way you are. Don't be ashamed!

Alright, here is the scoop. I have been chatting with a guy online, and on the telephone for the last couple of weeks. Anyways...we are going out for coffee sometime on the weekend (first time meeting I should add). And I need some advice! The last time I went on a date, or anything remotely resembling a date was when I was 19, I am 25 now. The lack of "dates" was due to a long term relationship of 5 years....so I was out of the loop for a reason!...lol. Anyways....I am almost clueless as to what I am doing! So far we seem to have really good rapport....we talk for 2 hours at a time and laugh the whole time....apparently we are both really funny. Anyway there are a few things that I am thinking about....in terms of situations that I am not sure what to do with. I should also add that so far he is the only one I don't get a "creepy" feeling from. 1)If he asks to drive me home should I accept? 2)If he wants to hang out as his house after....should I accept? That is all I have so far......any advise?