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If he was them, then you likely do too. Unlike herpes, genital warts are eaisly transmitted even when theres no occurrence, as the virus is contained in the blood, which is transmitted not only into the semen, but also onto the skin of the penis. With herpes, the virus is mostly contained in the actual lesions, and if there are no outbreaks, the chance of transmitting is much smaller. Not sure why you mentioned crabs in your initial post, but thats not an STD, and its very rare for it to be transmitted, even it if was, its eaisly curable. As for having unprotected sex.....Please, please please, I hope your pro-choice. I woudl get a pregency test along with a test for warts, and for god sakes if your smart enough to have sex, why the hell cant you be smart enough to go to planned parenthood and get free birth control pills. I dont care what kind of familiy background you have, I know that your smart enough to be able to take one little pill the same time every morning.

Hmm good adivce, the only thing I would add is that, if you are going to actually ask her out, then use the words "go out". believe me, girls will instantaly pick up on the difference between "Would you like to for a walk in the mall" and "Would you like to go out for a walk in the mall" To her, the first generally implies you just want to hang out, where the second implies that your intrested in being more than friends. If your just getting to know her than dont worry about it. But if you allready know you like her...

Yes if I was with a girl who I found out was married, I would definitaly go to the husband and tell him.....err depedning on how big he was, I might just send a nice E-mail. As for why people do it......Theres a number of reasons. A lot of time it's because they got married too soon, and they wern't prepared to be with someone all the time. It could be that there having marital problems, but a lot of times, the marrige is fine, and they truly do love their spouse. For guys, it is often simply sex. They get bored with having sex with just their wife, and they become attracted to other women. Monogomy is aginst our primitive reproduction instincts. In nature, when the male is done with the female, it moves on to another one. Soem of that is still left in us, and for guys that part is lust or sexual drive. This isnt saying that guys cant control themselves. It's simply saying that guys cant turn off their intrest in other woman completely. They can lower it, igonore it, and suppress it, but never turn it off. For woman, it can be about the sex too, but it's usually emotional. Some women simply like the excitement of being with another person, others are missing something emotional in the bedroom. Also, suprisingly, woman are more likely to cheat to fulfil a fantasy than men are.

Face it, you were an a-hole. She probally really does believe that your sorry, but that doesnt change the way she feels. She has told you no, and what your doing now borders on stalking. Find someone else, and dont be nice next time.

It probally is over. It sounds like that the issue isnt that you went out on a double date, and if that is the issue, than it's not the only one. I think that when you told him about the double date, he began thinking. It all of a sudden hit him that there were other people both of you could be going out with. And while it may of hurt him to know that you were going on a date with someone else, it also made him realize that he could do the same thing. If you want the realtionship to last, you should think about agreeing to see other people. Set some basic boundries, like maby no sex. That way you both can get enjoyment from the opposite sex, and then when you too are closer together (or maby when one of you gets a car) you can resume your realtionship. If you have to insist on being completely faithful to each other (no dates, no kissing, no anything) then you have to be the same way. You can't go on a double date with your friend, you can't do anything. This will be hard for both of you, and will likely not work. Especially for a fifteen year old guy.

Yep, both pretty much stopped all breakouts on me. I would occasionally get one of thoes small redish zits, but none of the puss filled onces, and never more than 1 or 2 at a time. For me the accutate had less noticble side effects, but both were good. The only difference, is that the accutane stopped the blackheads where the other stuff diddnt. I stoped using accutane when I was 19 and switched to some over the counter cleanser that I use now, which works. I still get a few more zits/pimples than I used to when using the accutane but nothing noticble. You will likely only use it until you completely stop developing, which can be anywhare from 17 to about 23.

Wow inteligent conversation, this is rare....... Yes being selfish is ok, and should be embraced. The pope, arguably one of the most holyest people in the world is the pope because he enjoys being it. He may not like it all the time, but every action he takes, every thing he does, he does it because he feels that it's right, and good, and because it gives him enjoyment or satisfaction doing it. When someone embraces god, lives their life by the bible, ect, they do it because, for them, it feels right. If it didn't feel right, they wouldnt do it. It's an incredible simple principal, yet I think the majority of people fail to realize it. Again, about free will. I agree, no one has any kind of true free will, however, in order to function as a society we have to pretend we do. If no one believed in any kind of freewill, there would be no change. Afterwall, why change somethign that can't be changed. We would go through our lives, knowing that someone else knew how everythign was going to end up. And since it was allready determined how we would end up, there would be no point in doing anything else. Again, I'm an athiest but playing the devil's advociate (no pun intended) does God know the furture? If there is no free will, and God is all knowledgeable, then he allready knows who is going to heaven, and who is going to hell. thereforeeee there is no such thing as redemption. If you fate is known by God the moment you are born, then you can't change it. It's for these reasons that I think free will is defined as a furture that cannot be determined. Not by man, not by God, not by anything. So while we don't truly have Free Will, as everything we do will always be a sum of our experiances and bilogy, we will never be able to predict the furture, thus allowing us to change. When I speak of free will, its from a fundemental principal, the lowest form it can be broken down to. What you refer to, is free will in a society. For that then yes we do have free will, a person can do anything they want, and yes there our consequences, both perceived good and bad. But thoes consequesns serve only as a deternat, and not as an absolute block to our actions. Society judges what actions are good and what are bad, there are no moral absolutes, and societ's morals are constintanly changing. As for the media, yes is has a huge ammount of influence, but not as much as so many other things. The meda is only one small source we get our personality from, family is much much larger. So is the society in which one lives. As for sharing your ideas, please please do. My own philosphy cannot grow unless it is chalanged, and I hold no notion that my ideas and philosphy will always be this way. As I gain more information, my philosphy will grow, change, and adapt, I may even one day find God, or religion. However, right now, there are too many inconsistencies in all religion to allow me to believe in one. I peronally believe that religion was invented as a way to explain the unexplainable. As humans evolved, we developed inteligence, and along with that, a sense and purpose of life, beyond that of eat, survive, reproduce. All of a sudden humand evolved into self-aware beings. And with self-awarness comes the reality that we, as an individual, are going to die. Once humans began to realize this, they feared it, feared it because it was an end, and feared it because it was beyond their control. To avoid this fear, to get past death, the human mind began to see a devine force in things, a power greater than themselves, something that would allow them to exist beyond death. Thus religion is created, along with all of it's values and ways. Every single religion, (there are over 700 docuemented relgion's sects) have some form of an afterlife. From the simple release of energy into another plane, all the way to reincarnation. All religion has a way for our experiances and "self" to survive death. For me, I couldnt accept this. It seemed like the easy way out. I have instead come to accept the fact that when I die, I will cease to exist. My experiances, memories, and everything else that is me, will be no more. This is ok, and once I really started thinking about it, it reveled some marviouls conclusions. The most important, was that I actually feared death less. As when I die, I will be no more, thereforeeee I will not be able to experience anything. The moment I die, there will be no more pain, no more happieness no more nothing. I dont fear death, because death is nothing. That aside, I still have a very healthy instinct to avoid death at all costs. Finally, as for truth, this is where my views differ. Truth is philosphy unobtainable, truth is the only true constant. It's hard to explain....truth is what something is, regardless of wheather anyone knows it or not. Truth cannot be messured, because any messurement, no matter how percise, will always be someome distorted by the way the messurment was taken, or the way the society views things. We say that the sky is blue. Is that truth? No, philosphcy we cannot know the sky is truly blue because we cannot accoutn for every known varible, every known fact in the universe. We only know that the sky is blue because we can observe that it is, and we can create knowledge that it is. This does NOT mean that absolute truth doesn't exist, it just means that we will never be able to perceive it. Because of this, we have an unreachable goal, a reason to live. I live for knowledge. My goal is to know everything there is to know, I understand that this will never happen, but it is my goal none the less. Knowledge gives us more enjoyment, and increases our chances of survual. Knowledge, and enjoyment are my highest and only moral pursiuts. The way you view God, is the way I view the universe. The only difference, is that I dont apply human standards and reason to the universe. The universe exists, independent from anything anyone or anythign does. There is nothing outside the universe, as my definitation of the universe is everything. Everytnhign is resides in, and has been created by the universe, however the universe is not inteligent, is not alive, it is simply there, because without it nothing would exist. There is no purpose to the universe, other than to exist.

First off, the chemical steralization would be perfect. It would lower the crime rate by a huge amount, raise the poverty level, create more jobs, and in general be an awsome thing. And this is coming from a guy. By steralazition, I mean fully functional, but not be able to get anyone pregnant. Second, your girlfriend does have issues, but there not as severe as they could be. If she was sexually abused, one of two things would have happened. She would either be completely turned off by guys, and would either never date/ be with a guy, or she would becoem intrested in girls. Or she would go the aposite route and would choose abussive guys. She would onyl be attracted to abusers, as that was what she grew up with. The fact that she seems to be in a stable realtionship with you, and that she has only has two other boyfriends, shows that the abuse either wasnt very severe or that it happened to her later in life (past the age of 12ish). I would suggest that the two of you attend therapy together.

Free Will: This depends on your definitaion of what free will is. My definitation of free will is that the furture is not pre-determined in such a way as that it can be reveled. This is different than simply saying that the furture is not pre-determined. The difference is that under my view, if one were to be able to some how calculate all of the varibles (an infiniate ammount) of the universe, they would be able to predict the furture. Do we have free will?: ""f on any given day our "choices" are made on the basis of knowledge, inclinations, urges and attitudes -- and if inclinations and attitudes and urges and knowledge are based pretty much entirely on sensory input, past experience (learning) and biology past and present -- and if we can't be expected on any given day to be able to "choose" what past experiences, attitudes, sensory experiences and biology we've had and have -- then would that mean that what we call "choice" is really just the experience of finding out the result of the compution our brain does when faced with a decision to make?"" In other words, without a purly random element (which is philisophically impossible) everything is, at it's lowest form predetermined. We cant choose what information to use when we make a descision, nor can we choose what experiances to utilize, because as soon as we change the way we think, our thought process has changed, and the a new equation for our decision is made. Back to the original post: Man is selfish, it's a survial insticnt, the highest evolved instinct. Every single thing we do, every action we take, we do it because we either enjoy it, or we we would enjoy the altertinitve less. If I were to donate all of my money and cloths to the poor, when I broke it down, I would be doing it because it made me feel good. So then, what is self reflection, if everything we do, is for our own good above all, then how do we change our behavior. This is were a society comes in. Through society we can change what we perceive as being good or bad, and thereforeee change our actions. These thought of what is good and bad for ourselves eventually turn into morals. I am an athiest, but yet have morals. However, I understand that my morals are not absolute, and that as I gain knowledge, my morals and principals will change. So live your life for yourselv, and only foryour self. Do whatever makes you happy, likely that will envolve carying for someone else, loving someone else, and generally being a good person. But never forget that you are ultimaly doing everything for yourself, as that is the best way to survive.

It's sad that Im the only one who is actually giving a serious response. First, off, is your sister older or younger? If younger, how big is the age difference. If she is uder 11ish then I wouldnt't try it becaue she wont really know what is happenening. If she is older than you, then you dont have to worry about it being considred rape. As far as approaching her, be honest but gental about it. Hopefully you come from a fairly sexually open family. Spend a few weeks just hanging out with her, and then start complementing her on her looks, makeup, ect. Tell her that you love her and if she doesnt immeditaly turn away. tell her that you find her very attrictive. Eventually tell her that she excites you sexually, and if she would consider the posibility of anykind of sexual realtionship. As for everyone who shouted at this guy saying asking how he could even consider such a thing, think about why you woudn't consider it. Society says it's wrong because........umm becasue it's wrong. The only solid physical argument is that there is a higher chance of receiving a double recessive gene if two realted people have a child. The chance is greatest between father-daughter or mother-son, but is only slighly higher between brother-sister. And that issue can now be adressed by simply not having children. So why is incest wrong? The strongest argument is that it creates emotiontial and mental damage. However, this damage is caused by the fact that society views incest as wrong. So lets see, incest is wrong because society says so, because incest is harmful because its wrong. Hmm.... The emotional and mental troubles can eailsy be resolved as long as both people understand limits. You can have sex with someone and not become largely emotionally envolved. You can even have sex with someone you love and not become romantically involved. Wow what a concept. You just have to talk it out, and understand that there will be challenges, and that the challenges will be hard. They will be hard because they are new, because you will have to work these new feelings out for yourself, instead of relying on society to tell you how to feel. Please dont bring up the legality argument. It's illegal for a 16 year old to have sex with a 15 year old too, but for the most part everyone agress that thoes two can consent. In a lot of states sodemy is still illegal, but everyone agrees that anal sex can be fun if both peopel agree.

Eh, I say go with it, but I dont think anyone else will like that answer.

Lets look at this from a different point of view. You were very close to your mom. You were very close to your friend. You lost your friend. You experianced a lot of pain from it. You dont want to experiance that pain again. You know that you cant stop your mom from dieing, just like you couldnt stop your friend from dieing. If your not close to your mom, you won't be as pained by it if she dies. I agrree that its more likely that you are just going through the normal period where you grow apart from your parents, the fact that you realize it, is quite amazing, and shows that it will come back. However, I would still talk to your psychatrist about it.

Michael2 would you mind posting a few references for all your facts, not that I dont believe you, but I would like to use a couple of them in a paper I'm working on. I'll probally start my own topic on this later so I wont get into much detail now. Society puts way too much emphsis on sex, and on special situations, and on how it can and cant be done. Society creates more problem by saying that sex causes problems. As long as both people consent, both people are of sound mind at the time, and both people have a least a basic understanding of what there doing sex is ok. Sex can be just that, sex. Sex can be much more meaningful in a realtionship, and even more meaningfuil and fufilling if two people love each other, but people can have sex just to have sex. It doesnt matter how old the people are. It doenst matter if their related in any way. It doesnt matter if there the same gender or not. It doesnt matter if they like having sex weird ways, using weird things. As long as they dont force anyone to participate or watch them, its all good. If society would accept this, all of the problems with sex would suddenly disepear. The only sex crime would be rape, and everything else would have to be delt with by the people involved.

She wont care...... SHE WONT CARE!!! hmm, err wait..............nope, she definitaly wont care. Dont get cut, the benifits are amazing. Its so much eaiser to jack off. No lube, no friction burns, can jack faster, its great.

some guys wont be able to cum from a handjob. This happens mostly if they are used to jacking themselves off a certian way. I know that I jack off the same way every time, and if I try somethign different it takes a lot longer (although it feels better). I would give him a bj, if your worried about the taste, ask him to clean himself off first, and tell him to let you know when hes going to cum so you can take your mouth off. believe me, the guy will be so thrilled about getting a BJ, he wont care what you ask him to do.

other way around. A guy can orgasm without having any semen come out. This can be due to a number of medical reasons. The most likely is that a guys balls simply do not produce any semen or sperm (forgot the medical condition but its fairly rare). A more serious condidtion occurs when the semen somehow gets trapped, this can lead to pain, inflamation, and loss of blood. Ejaculation implies orgasm. Some orgasm's are stronger than others, even for guys, there have been times where I've been jacking off, have gotton soft (due to an intruption in my jacking) but have been on the verge of orgasm. When I resumed I came very very quickly, had a little mini orgasn, but still ejaculated (even though I was soft). The orgasm triggers the ejulation.

I disagree with the above comments. I think that kind of attitude is what creats all the problems with women lossing their virginity. If you think your ready, then you are ready. Just be prepared to accept the consequesnces (both good and bad) of having sex. Your not too young, and your not too unsure about yourself. If you really felt unsure then you wouldnt be considering having sex. Above all, wheather you descide to have sex or not, be confident in your decision, and you will do fine. As far as it hurting, first find out if your hymen is intact. A lot of girls/women loose their hymen before ever having sex, often from the repeated insertion of a tampon. If you do have a hymen then yes sex will be a a bit painful. As a guy I can only say what other women have told me, and my own single experience at having sex with a virgin. And that is that from what I've read and been told, its a fairly shard, intense pain, that goes away quickly. So it hurts a lot but ends right away. I asked a good friend what it was like when she lost hers and she told me the best way to describe it is like pulling a loose tooth. If you push on it and play with it it hurts and aches afterwards. And when you finally pullit out, the best way is to quickly yank on it, and there is that sudden sharp pain, but wihtin seconds it feels normal again.

This is one of the fundemental differences between guys and girls that guys just cant seem to understand. Woman can enjoy (and often do) sex without having an orgasm. This is a completely alien concept to most guys. Sex without ejaculation? What? Impossible. For a guy, sex is ejaculation, sure getting there feels good, but if it doesnt end with something coming out, then there really wasnt a point to it. Studies show that younger woman (under 26) rarely have an orgasm while having intercourse. Only about 33%. And only have 68% can have an orgasm during oral sex. I will go look up the site where I got the info, cause I hate when people post statictics without referenging them, but Im at work right now and dont have it book marked. Talk to her, make sure that she is enjoying sex, and like everyone else said, if the emotional part of the sex is there, an orgasm is only a nice bonus.

girls arnt that different then guys as far as physical reactions go. If you were "playing" with your girlfriend and you noticed or she told you what you were making her wet down there, would you be disgusited or would it turn you on. Personally, as a guy, having a girl tell me that I was making her wet is one of the best compliments I can receive (only heard it once, lol). Girls are the same way. If she is intentionally flirting sexually with you then she will be thrilled to know that she is exciting you. Ohh and the stuff is precum. Its basically semen with a lot less spearm in it.

I used the doxycycline for about two months. It was effictive fairly quickly, within a week and a half. Actually, after about the 4th day of taking it I got a huge breakout, the doctor said it was normal, and that the stuff was working, i guess it kinda purged out my pores or soemthing. After that, I didnt have anything majour, althogh it didnt to a very good job of stoping blackheads. I took some over the counter stuff for that. When I went to the accutane, everything stoped, althoth it took a bit longer for it to become effective. I think it was a few weeks,

What??? no no no..... Assuming he is fully developed (like me) you will have no trouble pulling the foreskin back when you give him oral. In fact, most guys (myself included) wouldnt be able to get off without it. The head, especially the underside of the head, of a guys penis is the most sensitive, just like a womans clit. Without direct stimulation to that part, or rapid movement along the shaft, a lot of guys cant ejaculate. If you giving him head, carfully pull back the skin by pulling at the base of his shaft and hold it there with one hand. Dont pull it extremely tight, but pull it tight enough that the foreskin doesnt move when you start sucking on the penis. Then just give him head like normal, just make sure you dont let go. As for having intercourse, depends on how much skin is there and if your on top. If your on top you need to be carful cause your downward thrust can pull back the foreskin hard enough to cause it to tear. A condom is a huge help in this situation. If your on the bottom, then the guy needs to be carful thrusting into you for the same reason. Its a good idea not to let him fully exit you, this way the foreskin will stay in one spot, mostly. I love not being circumcised, it lets me jack off much easier, and without the need for any kind of lube at all.

1. Read in health magazine that 50% of woman lost their hymen before having sex for the first time. 2. If she still has her hymen then it might be a bit painful. If she is on top, then she will break it herself, and whatever pace feels comfertable. If she's on the bottom, then I would talk to get and suggest that you break it quickly. Ease in to her, and then when you feel it, pull back and jab forward, jab hard but not long. You want to break through in one push without pushing hard enough to hit her cervix. 3. If your using a comdom then it probally wont hurt you much, unless your fairly large, and shes fairly small, then you need to be a bit carful that if you start pumping quickly you dont get your forskin pulled back painfully when you enter her. (it can happen even with a condom). If you for some reason dont use a condom (shes on pills or soemthign) then you have to be carful, as you can tear the foreskin. 4. Definitaly try to get her off first. If you havent had oral sex I would suggest that you bring it up. If she is willing, have her get you off first thing, either with her hand or mouth, then while your "recooperating" kiss, rub, lick, play, ect with her. Try to go down on her if she doesnt mind, most women have a better chance at having an orgaim through oral sex. By the time your ready again (should only be about 20-30 minutes or so) she will be ready too. And since you just ejaculated, you will last a little bit longer having sex. Even if you dont do the oral thing, try to jack off an hour or two before you too have sex. You will last longer. 5. If she isnt on top, I think the pest position for your first time is the "T" position. Have her lay on her back with her legs slightly spread. You then lay perpendictular(sp?) to her, with her feet resting over your thighs. You wont be able to have as much physical contact, but you will be able to A. see what your doing and where to aim. B. not have to support your weight on either her, or your arms the whole time. and C. still be able to grab your dork and help it in.. D. be able to control the depth of each strole eaisly.

This is definitaly the right guy. Im a guy and know that most 20 year old guys would break up with their girlfriend if they haddent had sex yet after seven months. You said you've done everything else.........does this include oral? If yes, then I think it's definitaly time, sounds like you just need to talk to each other. Talking does steal a bit of the romence out of it, but it more than makes up for it in confidence and trust. If you have't had oral yet, then I'd go there first, if your comfertable with it, next time your in the shower, after words just slowly go down on him. I can almost guarintee he wont stop you and will likely return the favor.

Keep in mind that the kind of people who post to these fourms are not your average bunch. In general, these forums express a fairly liberal attitude, and while the country is slowy becoming more and more left wing, your average person is still fairly conseritive. Currecntaly in society, it's ok for the guy to be older but not the girl. I think this is slowly changing, but it's still considred slightl taboo. This comes fromt he fact that historicaly the male is perceived as the initater and agressor. He pickck the woman, and if the woman responds they date. In the realtionship, the male is the dominent one, he makes the money, and most importantaly makes the decisions. This leads to an older male filling the roll of the domintant person much eaiser. This doesnt mean the the feamle is the lesser of the two, but it doesn show that traditionaly the female is the one who looks for direction from the male. This is furthur supported by the fact that females get alot of there romantic acceptance from their father, as he is in the leading and teaching role. Males get it from their fathers too for the same reason. And since the father is alwasy older.......... the circle goes on and on. I believe that in the next two or three generaltions much of this will change, but for now, even I would feel a little weird about being with someone that was substantialy older than me.

Yes she has issues, but you can work through them First, she might just in the experiemental phase that mose people go through. For me it was psychic powers. I went through a perioud of about 4 months where I read every book the library had about telepathy, telekensis, ect. I never truly believed that I had them, but I sure tested my self, and others. I had friends who were into wica, and one friend who worshiped demons for a bit (not the devil, but multiple demons However, you said one thing that makes me think its something more than that. You said something along the line that she told you that you here her first nice boyfriend. This can and almost always means only one thing. She was abused as a child. Emotionaly, and probally sexually. A funny thng happens when a child is abused by their father (or other strong male figure), as the child's brain develops the abuse become engraved into them as normal feelings. Even tho the person realizes that the abuse is bad, there brain associates it with something normal. If the brain didn't do this, we wouldnt be able to learn things at the required pace. What exactaly this causes isnt for certain, but what is certain is that girls who are abused (especially between the ages of 3-12ish) is that they either go to one of two extremes. 1. They turn away from men completely, often not having to have ANY realtionship and someimtes experimentign and being involved with other girls. This happens when the father is abusive and although the mother doenst stop it, she appologizes and still loves the child. When the father is abusive and the mother is either un-responsive or also abusive or alacholic, the child then is attracted to peopel like her father. Guys who will emotionally and someine physically be abusive. Eventually the couple will break up and the girl is then attracted to the next guy, who is also abusive. Once in a while she gets involved in a realtionship with a nice regulary guy (in this case it's you) and while one part of her likes it, the other part of her that was messed up from her childhood tells her that this kind of realtionship is wrong, that she shouldnt be in a realtionship with a guy that treaters her good. So she will start sabatoging it. What better way to sapatoge a realtionship, without telling yourself that your sapatoging it, then telling your boyfriend that your a vampire. You can rationalize it to your self, that your doing the right thing by telling him the truth, and you can justify him breaking up with you, as him not accpeting you for who you are. But a part of you knows that he is going to break up with you, and that this is normal, because the only realtionship you know is an abusive one. My advice, find out about her past, and then try to get her to realize what she's doing. This probaly wont be successful because she's young. (Most people dont start getting help for their abuse until there into there twenties). Give her a choice, ether she has to get professional help, you you cant be with her.