yeah i'm the same way, except i'm the rock/goth/drama kinda guy buy yeah army cadets might be a good way to find friends, my best friend is in the ROTC at out school and he made a lot of friends that way, some of them weird but some of them are really cool, and try to meet friends first before looking for a bf because if you meet a good friend they could either be a good bf or maybe introduce you to a good guy so just go for the friends first you still got plenty of time for bf's. well hope this helps and goodluck with meeting friends, i am sure you will meet some good friends.