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Even if you are on the lease he can sign you off of it or you can sign him off of it depending on who is moving out. Thats what happened when my ex and I broke up. These things happen. Ask your landlord what options you have. Like others said lean on your friends/family for support. You deserve much better. YOu shouldn't feel forced to stay in such a negative relationship.

I agree with Michael. If you are not over your ex and your feelings for the new guy are just someone to be with so you won't be lonely - then it is a rebound. Sometimes rebounds work out. I had a friend who married and had 2 children with a guy who was originally just a rebound. But a lot of the time, the person you are with senses that you are not over your ex and it ends after a short time. Or, you finally move on from your ex and realize you are not in love with the new guy. Both situations can happen.

I am the same way, if a guy becomes too "devoted" to me I suddenly find him clingy and unattractive. Dating is such a game. Its all about chasing and playing hard to get and trying to find a balance is nearly impossible. When you do finally find that balance - its amazing. Don't stay in relationships where the guy is just 'not into you" or where he is not going to commit to you. Even worse is if they treat you badly. Just remember that you deserve the best.

Yes, Mr. Bean is funny - thats why I find him attractive. I can understand - every time he talks about another girl, it kinda gives you that jealous feeling. Please, stop comparing yourself to these girls. I'm not a supermodel by any means either, I have a few extra pounds and may not be the most gorgeous girl on the planet but one day (hopefully soon!) a guy will see me for who I am and love me. ( I have a date tomorrow, wish me luck!!) You will be even more beautiful if you keep a positive outlook on things. There are little things you can do to make yourself feel better, go out and get your nails done, go get your hair done, buy yourself a new outfit, or new shoes (thats my addiction - hey, they always fit!) Every girl needs a bit of that to make herself feel better.

I don't understand. You dont' want to get pregnant, but at the same time you are trying to get pregnant??? You need to be a lot safer, pregnancy can happen at ANY time. Some couples try for a long time before becoming pregnant, while some have one "slip up" and the unexpected pregnancy occurs. Don't mess around with it. Next thing you know you will be posting a month later thinking you are pregnant and wondering how you are going to deal with it. Worry about these complications when you actually WANT to have a baby. And make sure you have protection or birth control pills because like i said before, you just never know. I have friends that are married but weren't ready to start having kids, always used protection, had one "slip up" and now they are expecting a baby, moving into a house, and in a lot of debt because of this situation. Is this what you want to happen?

My first question is - if you are not over your ex, then why are you with the new guy? He is obviously just a rebound. Anyways, best advice I can give you is to go to the party and just have fun with your boyfriend. Try to be amicable with your ex but keep it brief. A simple "hello, howz it goin?" will be fine. No need to spend all night talking to him.

I completely understand what you are going through, I used to be a jealous person too. You said your boyfriend has never cheated or has given you cause to worry about cheating. One thing you can do is to change your mindset. Instead of worrying about "what if", deal with it IF it happens. That goes for anything in life. Are you going to worry every time you get in your car that you are going to get into an accident? No, if it does happen, you deal with it then. As for having a low self esteem, your boyfriend likes you for who you are. Continue to be YOU. That is why he is with you. If he is constantly making the comments saying "________ is hot" then ask him to stop. It is, after all, disrespectful. Just tell him that it bothers you. One way I started dealing with this is I started joking around too and replying back with "Rowan Atkinson is hot, I'm in love with him" (don't ask, I'm a little weird). It did get some good laughs though. Anyways, its common for guys to think actresses are hot but they are all made up, they are not REAL, and for some guys its normal to fantasize about it. I'm sure there are actors/people in real life that you think are HOT too... but of course you would never act on it.

I once had it hurt for me too cuz a guy didn't have his nails trimmed down.

Just from reading your post - I can tell you have a GREAT personality. I usually don't read the really long posts, but yours was interesting, funny, and kept me intrigued. I like that Now, I may be just speaking for myself, but I like a guy that has personality over insanely good looks. Most of the time I don't even give the "HOT" guys a chance because based on my experiences they are jerks. I know not all of them are, but thats just me. Now if a guy came up to me at a party and won me over with his wit and caring personality, I would be in. That being said, sometimes when you are out looking for something, and expecting something to happen, life plays this game with you and it just doesn't. Don't give up hope. You have a lot of good qualities and one day when you are least expecting it you will meet someone. I know this from experience, because when I am out searching for someone I am NEVER successful, but I always meet great guys when I am least expecting it. Like when I'm just out with my friends having a good time.

I don't think it is a bad idea. The only concern is that if the relationship does not work out you may be sacrificing a friendship over it. But it is a good thing because you already know each other really well and have a solid friendship to base the relationship on.

It depends on the employer and how long she has been working there. When I was working on part time I could only get health benefits and options for maternity leave after I had gotten permanent part time which would happen after 2 years of employment. But it varies from place to place so have her contact her employer. ( I too am in Canada). If she us unable to get mat leave, she might be able to go on EI --- I'm not sure for how long or how much she would get - she would probably have to get her employer to lay her off and then she can claim EI.

Tell him you are seeing someone else. Get call blocking and block his number from your phone so he can't get ahold of you.

thanks guys - this is all really great. I will have to go to my doctor and see if it could be one of those things. I have to clean my house tonight because i have company coming over tomorrow. There is about 4 hours of work to do. All i can do is sit in front of this damn computer. Any suggestions for getting motivated and getting off my butt to get it done??????????

how is he being annoying? You could start by asking him not to contact you anymore. If that doesn't work - change your phone number.

0% chance on the pregnancy thing.

thanks i will look into the anemic thing. It IS a possibility as I don't have a very balanced diet and don't really eat a lot of red meat. I'm not on medication -haven't been for 3 months. I was on antidepressants for awhile but they were messing with my anxiety. So i don't take anything now.

If you want your CD's , DVD's back, ask for them back. Do it as soon as possible - the longer you wait to do it the harder and more awkward it will be. So just get it over with. After that, give youself time to get over him without seeing him. It'll get much better as time passes, believe me! I've been through this, and the first couple weeks are always the worst. Just make sure you are taking care of yourself and that you are HAVING FUN!! Rely on friends and family for support during this time. Sometimes it helps just to have some company or someone to talk to.

I usually find that things are better in bed if I have chemistry with the person I am with - regardless of looks.

Oh, and coffee is not working either. It makes me feel more tired.

Lately - I have absolutely NO energy. I'm finding that in the afternoons all I want to do is have a nap - so I'm totally unproductive at work --- I have a pile of stuff to catch up on. I come home feeling overwhelmed. My house is a mess. I try to take time to clean it everyday but I do a couple little things and then i'm tired and i go back to sleep again. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to increase my energy, or how to get things done even if I'm toooo tired to do it? I'm sleepign A LOT - so its not lack of sleep that I'm suffering from. I usually get about 8 hours of sleep in a night. Some afternoons I nap for 2 hours.

argh.... anywhere but walmart... that place is insane!!!!!!!!!!!

You're doing great. Now all you need to do is start living your life and enjoying yourself. Every day it will get better.

I like getting txts at work when I can't answer my cell phone. It sends a little smile to my face and helps me get through the day At the same time I used to have bfs/friends that would only txt and nothing else. It was annoying. It shouldn't be a substitute for talking on the phone or meeting up for coffee.

I don't like to tell my boyfriends about past relationships or who i have slept with, whats in the past is in the past.

No way - he would probably end up doing the same thing 3 months later and have the expectation that you will be there waiting for him again. I would tell him you are seeign someone else even if you aren't.