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  1. mmackenna
    how lucky to be in such a position! But I think it's more than luck. There's a reason you're involved with this person and I am not, and that's because to this family you are set apart from every other ordinary person. You must be a good person and congratulations for it. I think if you would ask this person where you stand it might be uncomfortable. like if that nerd in high school came up and said "im you're friend right?" You'd feel obligated to say "of course you are" whether you could stand to be around the nerd or not. Think about what happens with your other friends? Do you and this person exchange personal details? If you do, there's a good chance that Mr./Ms. B list thinks of you as a friend.
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    it really should be her decision to get back together with you. As hard of blow as that is. Sorry anyway, i'm going to tell you something that my father always told me not married are ya" It has some truth. It sounds like your life is completely centered around work and her. When do you get to have fun? If you go to clubs, have a good time. Maybe she'll be there and you can help her to remember what a good person you are and why you guys were together in the first place.
  3. mmackenna
    This is my advice, don't jeopardize the time you are able to spend with her now! you said yourself you have a car. USE IT! lol when she gets to college, drive your little self up there when you can. She'll be a free woman, and you can see her as much as she allows time (remember she has to study too). You'll see college is a good time for freedom. And it's good that you're talking about marriage, however with how her relationship sounds, give it some major time. Think about this. I bet he's not for sure what you're doing behind his back (even though it may be nothing) He was an 18/19 year old boy once himself and he remembers what little thoughts crossed his mind. He's worried about that and PLUS his baby girl, his pride and joy is leaving him, how sad is that?
  4. mmackenna
    her friend would probably put you in your place if you ever tried to persue her. there's rules about dating your best friend's ex and that rule is you just don't. if you are no longer interested in your girlfriend, that's perfectly fine... i say tell her what you feel. But please, don't go after her best friend.... there are other fish in the sea
  5. mmackenna
    wow impressive routine, I may have to try it!!!! do you buy chicken breasts? thanks for the post
  6. mmackenna
    have you talked to him about the way you feel? It can't hurt. Tell him that you are feeling that he isn't contributing. Ask him why he's gotten so laxed with the relationship.
  7. mmackenna
    ha! that's pretty harsh. It's been my experience that women never know what they want and they can't even figure out themselves, so how are guys supposed to figure us out? Just keep trucking along and be yourself. If a person can't like you for who you are... you know the rest
  8. mmackenna
    hey thanks for the tips guys, just one question... how do i uh flush myself out? (ps i have started doing those excersizes that were suggested my muscles hurt but i feel great)
  9. mmackenna
    I don't think you're a coward. I think you're normal (maybe a tad bit extreme, but mostly normal). There are STILL exes of mine that I will run away from. I think your real problem is confidence, not jealousy. Ask your girlfriend why she is with you (only once though cuz it gets kind of annoying after awhile). Or better yet, have her write them down so you can remind yourself what you have going and what you can offer her. It's great therapy. Also you should write down the good things about you. Don't try to convince yourself otherwise. You are a good person with a lot of talents I'm sure. Just don't forget it.
  10. mmackenna
    I have that problem too. They used to call me the "second dun" at school cuz I was so pale I could blind people with my whiteness. I know I still can't get over it, but I suggest sunless tanners (remember you get what you pay for with them) and a WHOLE lot of sun screen. You can keep your tan up and still be safe.
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    there's gotta be a fitness guru in here, so why not ask? Anywho. I've got about 2 months till I get to see my boyfriend again. My big problem is my gut. I'm pretty thin everywhere else. My lower abdominals are the worst. Anybody got any fantastic exercises that help the flabby tummy syndrome? Can I step up my crunches any? Thanks bunches p.s. diets suck
  12. mmackenna
    Breakups are always hard. I think in your case you just need to give your relationship more time. Just wait it out and then you'll know what both you and she want.
  13. mmackenna
    aww that's sad that you can never trust her again. I think maybe since you do love her so much, that you could possibly try to trust her. Try to find out exactly what happened that night. If nothing happened, what's the difference of her staying at a girlfriend's house? I know I almost broke up with my current byfriend (that would have been a huge mistake) because I know he's better than me. I was just afraid he'd get to know me and realize what an unworthy person I am and break up with me. I didn't want to delay the process any longer. Girls are just like that sometimes. Anyway, good luck with your relationgship and thanks for sharing.
  14. mmackenna
    most guys or boyfriend material guys?
  15. mmackenna
    I had a vocal teach last year who would touch and hug and even kiss his students (not on the mouth but other places on the face). He would touch me too. I know it's not easy to stand up to an adult especially your authority figure. Direct confrontation might not be the best plan of action for you. Maybe you need to tell someone you trust who you know won't fly off the handle (like my dad did). it doesn't have to be another adult at first. Just gradually gain a group of supporters you know who can help you through this I know avoidence is not a healthy way to deal with anything, but if standing up to him isn't an option...
  16. mmackenna
    People naturally WANT to find their other part of their couple. It's instinct. I'm one of those people who think there is one person for everybody. I'll never forget what somebody said to me once. He said "normal people are not destined to be alone. There is someone for you, and you will find each other no matter if you have to crawl through the desert, cross the ocean, or scale mountains."
  17. mmackenna
    I know that you are at your wits end about your son. I would feel the same way. But maybe he hangs out with her because you don't want him to. After all, he's a teenager. It's in the rule-book to do the opposite of what your parents want. I've got some more ideas too. What if Alyssa is depressed and she needs him? I remember I had a friend with depression, and I lived at her house pretty much for awhile because she "needed me". How could I tell her no? Think about the reasons why you're upset. Do you not like the fact that Alyssa's a girl? My best friends are boys; I relate to them better because I am the only girl in my family. Maybe he relates to her well. Or they could be doing something naughty like doing drugs (probably unlikey), but it's up to you to find out before he gets in trouble. Maybe you should try to get to know Alyssa better. I know it's nearly impossible, but just try to see it from his point of view? Once you've accomplished a point of view change, you can talk to him one on one about your point of view and come to an understanding.
  18. mmackenna
    aww guys come on, that's harsh. I think that once a cheat always a cheat is true until that person grows up and starts realizing that the world doesn't revolve around he or she. Maturity will fix a lot of the cheating problem.
  19. mmackenna
    Maybe instead of kissing, you should take it slow. hold her hand, be ultra romantic, let her see how much you care about her (e.g. open doors, kiss her hand *sigh*, you know stupid stuff you see in the movies). After tomorrow you should be able to tell how she feels about her ex, and how he feels about her. If you get the vibe that they are still hot for one another, you just have to give her time to figure out what she wants.
  20. mmackenna
    My friend, two boyfriends her whole life. The first one lasting nearly 4 years. And her current one, the one which is giving her a problem. He is kind of a sexaddict and afraid to be alone. He pressures my friend into having sex with him, and has cheated on her only one time that she knows of. He has been known to cheat but has promised not to and supposedly has not touch another girl for a long time. However, his exgirlfriend wants him back terribly bad. She buys him presents, she calls him, she visits him. This, of course, upsets my friend. Whenever she brings up that she doesn't want him seeing his ex (the girl he cheated with btw) he brings up her ex. My friend and her ex are best friends and even though my friends ex wants my friend back, the feelings are not mutual. My friends current boyfriend explains that is the same way with his ex. So why are they still together? Baggage. My friend feels terribly guilty for sleeping with him, and is worried she might be pregnant. The test is negative thus far, but she feels unsure. What should she do? How can I help her through this mess? What can I tell her to comfort her.
  21. mmackenna
    Well, how many times have I been in that situation??? Too many to count. [Just wait till friends tell you they love you to get you to bed.] This guy could be doing one of two things. 1. He could be a big jerk who wants a stroke of his ego (among other things). If you know he's got that "playa" rep-uta-tion, give him lots of time to tell if his intentions are honorable. 2. He really likes you (probably a lot!!) and thought by joking with you, you would take more of an interest in him. Little did he know that you would be single soon. That kind of a change probably intimidated him, and now he's too shy to admit he likes you. I think once you do a little more searching about your friend, you'll know the answer. Boys that want a f**k buddy should never be your buddy period, they just end up hurting you. However, if he really is a sweet guy, he was just trying to be macho. What do you think?
  22. mmackenna
    Hi there, I was wanting some REAL life real experiences about long distance relationships and how to make them work. I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and he recently had to go back home to the U.K. I knew this from the beginning, but it doesn't make it any easier. I am hoping that this first bit of time is the worst. Trips have been planned, tickets have been booked to see eachother. I have a couple of years to wait for him. I know I can read those relationship articles and books till I'm blue in the face, but it doesn't compare to the real life advice that you all can give me. Thanks so much for the tips
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