I appreciate all of the replies, specialy the one about renting the meet the parents movie. I seen that movie and it was really funny. Her dad isnt like him though, he acts really nice in public and to other people be just seems to be two faced at home. I dont want to steal her away from her family I want to be appart of it but her dad has already said he doesnt even want to get to know me or even try to be my friend and I havent done anything for him to act that way, so I have a feeling its more or less what Gilgamesh said about him still thinking that she is a little girl. I dont think it has much to do with what you said poltergeist about him worrying about her getting pregnant because the few times that he has let us spend time togeather we were alowed to go off on our own. I have a true love waits comitment card that I carry around in my wallet that I signed on 6/13/01 which basicaly says im going to follow gods plan of staying abstinate till im married. The idea of it being ok because boys cant get pregnant is a horrible idea and really offends me. It just reinforces the idea that its ok for guys to act that way and be sexist pigs and that if they have a kid its the girls problem because she didnt say no. Its just as much of the guy's responsibility as it is the girl's That kind of thinking is very crude and selfish. Anyways, I was wondering about something, when I buy her an engagement ring am I supposed to get one for me too or is she supposed to buy one, or is it not really nessary for me to have one. Im not much on wearing rings anyways but I guess I could get used to it. Anyone else have any comments or suggestions? Sorry about all my post being long I just have a lot to say.