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Yeah she's going to cry if she loves you, but you have to do it. I lead a girl on for awhile cause I was scared of hurting her. Not the greatest feeling... Wait to do it in person.

I'm pretty confused as to what to do. I've been working on gaining weight and building muscle for quite some time, but I've always ignored, or never paid much attention to cardio endurance. So naturally, I don't last very long at running, or things that take a lot of energy. I know I can run more, bike more, etc. But how can I build my cardio endurance without it affecting my weight? I have a very fast metabolism and I really can't afford to lose any weight. Right now I stay on the cycle for about 12-15 minutes, sometimes a little more.

Thanks for all the replies everyone, I really appreciate. Like I said, I only heard the negative stories, never anything positive, so thanks again. I got nervous about it because I didn't think I could fit exercise, fire explorers, volunteer work, and social time into my schedule with working, but after reading all of what you said and reconsidering some things I think it's possible. Just limit myself to at least 10 hours a week. And yeah RayKay, it would definitely add to my resume. Thanks again everyone.

I'm currently a full time student and I usually only work in the summer, but I've been offered a job during the school year. I don't know if I actually have the job yet, because I have to pass my background check first. Anyway, I'm pretty confused as to what to do, if I am offered the job. I've never worked while in school, and my friends who do work during the school year don't do all that well in school. I need the money, but I don't know if it's worth the risk. I'm already pretty busy as it is. Anyone who can tell me what it's like and if it's really that hard to do? Thanks.

in the middle, not too big not too small.

I'm in a similar situation. My girlfriend and I get along great except when it comes to religion. She swears by the bible, I don't. It shouldn't come between you, but I don't think it's healthy for the relationship for her to be in denial about it. It's going to come up, and you're going to have to deal with it somehow...she can't ignore it forever.

Hopefully I'll be a firefighter/paramedic for SF, have something paid off in my name to help my credit score for a house, and still having time for art and writing.

have you talked to him about it?

There's another thread like this that might help you, can't remember where though. It all depends on the couple and their wants/needs. When my girlfriend and I did have sex it was maybe 2-5 times a week. I've heard the same thing about sexless marriages, probably a number of reasons why though.

I'd say ignore her calls until you feel ok with talking to her, it doesn't seem like they're helping you too much.

Sorry, I meant it sounds like she has feelings for him.

Emotionally yes, but according to the note it doesn't sound like they've done anything. Sorry man

You should only call yourself a christian if you feel like it. Personally, I disagree with a few beliefs of christianity, so I don't consider myself christian anymore. Do what you feel is right for you.

How long have you been lifting? How much have you been lifting? And how often? Try protein shakes like the other posters said, twice a day if you can, one right after your work out. Instead of the 3 meals a day, try 6 smaller ones if possible. Someone else in another thread said putting more carbs into your diet will also help, so maybe try that. And if you do try protein shakes, putting oatmeal, peanut butter and milk into it will give you a little more protein. It's not impossible for someone your size, so don't give up. It just takes time and patience. I'm around your size and I'm gaining weight and muscles. Slowly, but surely. Hope I can help.

Hey, happy new year to you as well What kind of site is it if you don't mind me asking? I only ask cause if it's something like myspace I wouldn't confront him, but if it's like a dating site, then yeah I'd ask him about it.

My girlfriend and I are the same way. It hasn't affected us in a negative way though. She brings out the "party" in me, and I tend to calm her down a bit. So don't let it eat away at you, it shouldn't be a problem.

Well, thanks you two.

So it is flirting then? She doesn't know about my girlfriend though, not cause I'm hiding it, it's just never been brought up. And she has a boyfriend as well, didn't mention that cause my girlfriend says it doesn't matter if she does or not. I def. don't have a thing for her though.

I got a message from a friend on myspace and it made me think, "let me get some opinions on this before it becomes a problem again." I only see this friend in the summer and sometimes when school is out (she's away at college). We spend more time together in the summer because we work together. We've worked together for 3 summers and my girlfriend has always had a problem with her cause she says she flirts with me, but I can't see it, and I want some opinions other than mine and my friends. I'll call my friend Ashley. Ashley and I would always joke and play around with each other. At work she'd throw water on me, come scare me from behind, pretend like she'd run me over, tackle me from behind, just playful things. And I thought nothing of it cause they were playful things, but my girlfriend thinks otherwise, and up until this past summer Ashley and I never really did anything outside of work. She took me to a baseball game, introduced me to her friends, went to some parties with her, had jamba juice with her, and that's about it. But it really bothered my girlfriend. Maybe I'm dumb, but I can't see her flirting. And she's never really flirted with me. She's asked me out to dinner once and she kind of grinded on me once when she was dancing--it was at work so it was kind of weird--but other than that nothing. I think my girlfriend is intimidated by her because before we started dated I would tell her I'm tired of the same party girls and I want someone who has ambition, wants to go to college, down to earth, respects herself and body, etc. and that's exactly what Ashley is. And I think it bothers her cause she isn't going to college, is still undecided about what she wants to do, and used to be a big party girl. But that doesn't matter to me, I still love her for her. Is she flirting with me or is she just being playful? She's one of the few good friends I have so I don't want to have to stop talking to her.

- do more volunteer work - study more - put an inch on my biceps - be a nicer person - more organized

It's a hard thing to do, to stop linking love with sex. My girlfriend and I had a great sex life up until a month or so ago. Now it's non existant cause of her religious views. It's a tough thing to deal with. I'm still having trouble with it. I don't see anything wrong with you being frustrated about it though, I get the same way. As for controlling your anger, like I said, try doing whatever you can to get your mind off of your anger and frustration, otherwise it'll come out. Or atleast it did for me, not physically, but it definitely affected my mood, which affected our relationship. And as denise said, you def. need to compromise for it to work. Good luck to you.

I know how you feel. What's worse is being rejected by your partner. When I start getting mad about it, I try to find something to do, something that I enjoy. Or something that relieves my stress and anger, like working out. Not too much to really do besides take your mind off of it somehow. I know that's easier said than done.

If this helps any, I threw out all of my stuff that was from an ex or that related to them. Not because I was mad, but because I had no use for it. I didn't really want the memories so... I would give it to her. As you said, it's better than throwing it out.

I agree with the last two posters. You're right to be upset, if that's what you consider cheating he should respect that. And as for looking at other girls, he can control that. I look and that's that. It isn't anything more and I didn't/don't intend to look.

congrats, good luck to you both.