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  1. candy604
    yeah you should mention to him again that he needs to wear a condom. If you said it once and he didnt' take it seriously and you let it go, he won't think your comment was that valuable.
  2. candy604
    hey just wondering, if you do meet that person you want to marry, would you be willing to have sex with her if she wanted to? It sounds to me that your self-esteem is low in performing and perhaps you don't want to be embrassed again hence the fear or even then, you may not have been ready for sex. Sex is a huge step and if your not ready to take that step, i guess it can have it's consquences if your taking it when ur not ready. Sorry to hear about your last relationship. or you can say hey " i'll wait for marriage to have sex"coz then it has meaning and something valuable you can share with your wife.
  3. candy604
    instead of sex, can you both start off with just cuddling or making out etc...see if that is still there?
  4. candy604
    agree to this statement
  5. candy604
    hah yah tell him no bj for him if he doesn't wanna go down on you Or tell him you like it when he goes down on you blah blah... or perhaps you can suggest you guys try new things in bed? buy some books or videos?
  6. candy604
    give counselling a try, i mean they are trained to deal with people that are stubborn etc.. Why can't she hang out with women? i'm sure there are women who can be her friends or tell her to go volunteer somewhere!! HEYY I GOT AN IDEA, why can't she make friends with elderly people!! ( at old folks home or things lke that). Those people have life long experiences are interesting to talk to. But she's blind and she should not be hanging out with her guy friend. She's wrong and no matter how much she tries to convince you it's okay, just say no. You are suppose to be her only best guy friend/partner in life. Why is she turning to another guy for support?
  7. candy604
    hey xmrth, sometimes guys are silly and they don't know. I had to ask my bf to write me letters or do lil surprises for me...aha i call it training. But eventually he thinks of it himself now for some occasions. So i guess it can work out. I still hafta remind him though s..lol it's been 3 years already. Guys get comfortable, it happens. Don't make sex the first thing when you see each other. Perhaps it has become the focus when you see one another. heh luckily u get surprised every few months. The last time i got a surprise was last year in June! Perhaps instead of expecting surprises each week ( which is alot) move onto doing things together that you both enjoy. Romatic dates, play some sports, games night etc..just enjoy the time you have together
  8. candy604
    what type of porn is it? perhaps those educational videos on how to spice up ur love life is okay. but i'm totally not fine with my bf looking at those jap porn stuff and those x-rated sites. I thikn it's degrading and promoting the sex industry..sigh.. but you should be able to talk about it with your partner if it bothers you. Set the boundaries, if you find that porn is replacing your partner..u have a big problem.
  9. candy604
    your wife says she's lonely..what does she mean? is she one of those desperate housewives sitting at home doing nothing all day? you need to talk your problems out. Her guy friend needs to go and keep out of her life. I don't really believe in " oh he/she's just a friend" and hanging out one on one. Hanging out as a gorup of friends is fine, but sounds like this is serious. She's obviously mad at something, but her actions of going out and talking to this new friend of hers isn't right. Well i think just drop the emotional affair thing b/c it'll just make matters worth. I thikn it's just best to focus on fixing the problems in your marriage. Tell her not to talk to that guy friend as well. That's just heading into a red zone there.
  10. candy604
    sounds like your bf is too comfortable with you. happened to my relationship as well, been 3 years but my bf hardly does anything sweet anymore, well neither do i i guess. For a change, why don't u set up a sweet date and surprise him or set a date each week where one of u plans something nice for the other person ( eg. skating, or going out to a nice restaurent , or hte beach..etc..). But you do need to voice urself if you are sad b/c guys cannot read minds. Trust me, and he's probably clueless and if you seem fine with it, he won't know that you aren't.
  11. candy604
    i think you just need to find that special someone for marriage and you'll probably change your view.
  12. candy604
    huh? but sex is made for a man and women to share within the marriage.
  13. candy604
    she needs to get birth control pills though. It's probably better than her getting pregnant.
  14. candy604
    Hey my advice : find a single guy then you won't have all these problems. This man doesn't know what he wants and you should not be involved witha married man. lol would it be funny is that he's not even married?
  15. candy604
    hey ask him to use a condom or else you have a huge change of getting pregnant. He should take precaustion himself. Tell her mom that she needs to put you on the pill and this guy has made u stop drinking etc... There are other methods of birth control for for women, such as shots or diaghrams etc..
  16. candy604
    dump him if he's not treating you right. If he's allowed to go through ur phone etc..why can't you? As for washing himself off, that's disrespectful, something is definitely going on. I watched this dr.phil show once where this guy stalked his fiance all the time but had gf's on the side. Claimed he loved her etc..but in the end, he just had alot of anger and emotional problems to deal with. hrm..i definitely think there's something going on. If you dont' think he's the right guy for you, break it off. There's so many guys out there to meet that will treat you right
  17. candy604
    maybe she loves two people and she's confused at the moment on what she wants.
  18. candy604
    GO TO YOUR DREAM UNIVERSITY, don't give it up for your high school relationship. Trust me, there are soo many guys out there. If you and your bf break up, you'd be so unhappy about your choice to stay with him. It's very diferent when both of you go to uni, you may meet new people etc.. Career first..you are blessed to have such an opportunity! take it, also talk to your parents about it as well. If I were you, i'd move to new york and do what you always wanted to do. If you guys are meant to be, then the relationship will work. But you do need to thikn about your future and to have such an opportunity..well..plz go take it.
  19. candy604
    A person stays with another person who abuses them for different reasons. Alot of vicitms feel trapped etc..it's a viscous psychological cycle. So she probably doesn't understand? She's been treated badly in the past so it becomes a cycle of acceptance to her and she doesn't know better ( perhaps trying to make the best of what crappy situation she has) until you came along. Also if she loves you, cares for you etc..i wouldn't worry too much about u being good enough for her. Obviously your good for her b/c she is still with you. Don't break her heart! Leave the past alone and just focus on your relationship with her or else it'll become a big problem. Just take down your ego and be proud that you have such a wonderful gf.
  20. candy604
    heh i always believe that any secrets that are hidden will eventually surface, whether you tell her or not, some how the truth will reveal itself. Be a man and tell her.
  21. candy604
    maybe you should seek legal advice from a lawyer who knows more about this stuff than we do. Do you love this man?
  22. candy604
    are you able to see a counsellor on how to deal with this situation?
  23. candy604
    did you let her know about your affair as well? if you haven't, i don't think it's fair that you are all rowdy and making her the bad person if you are as well. Both of you are wrong, but you need to let her know as well.
  24. candy604
    i'm sorry to hear what has happened to you, you don't deserve this at all. I really think your wife is being immature and this " take a break thing" should not include dating other people in between. She should understand that both of you are still married and marriage does not involve another person. If she doesn't..well I have no idea what to say.
  25. candy604
    is your job stressful? it could be depression as well. Many factors
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