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mmm...maybe ur not attracted to him anymore. Also do you have any issues in your relationship that are a problem right now? usually for me, i feel pleasing my bf a chore b/c there's so many things in my relationship that are not fixed. Maybe ur not emotianal satisifed by ur bf.
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Need someone to talk to about a potential breakup :(
candy604 replied to Buttermaker's topic in Breaking Up Advice
this girl is trouble, you deserve better. Cut it because she's just playing games with you and its not healthy. -
sometimes girls are cold to deal with the hurt or confusion they are feeling. i remember seeing that movie, moulin rouge where the girl told her bf she didn't love him anymore to keep him from being hurt. ( but of course she did love him. sorry you have to go through this.
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hrm..you should go to marriage counsuelling and really work on ur marriage. Don't give up! there's so many obstacles to go through- good and bad times don't forget about the those vows you both took at the alter. remind her of that!
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sorry to hear what has happened to you mike. But your only 19, have so much to look forward in life, don't think about marriage right now. Get your career of the ground ( go to the marines if that is what ur dream is to do). Just don't do anything stupid while u've broken up ( i.e, sleep around or drink/drugs). Rather just think it as a time for you and for you to be independent and see what else is out there. Build up ur hobbies, call up old friends or make new friends. Just be the best! You said this is ur first gf, it'll be hard to let go but we all hafta go through it sometime. Your ex-gf doesn't sound mature, she needs some growing up to do and you don't deserve to be treated unfairly when u haven't done anything to deserve her treatment.
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wow that sounds like me when i'm cold towards my bf. well right now i'm like that b/c we are on a break. I think the girl is confused and yeah don't call her anymore and just leave her alone.
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im glad to hear ur experiece catgirl82, makes me have a brighter outlook on meeting ppl etc..
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Manipulation or am I just not good enough?
candy604 replied to cc2006's topic in Relationship Advice
your being taken advantage..you need a break from the relationship. that's too demanding of her -
How do you break up with someone? HOW DO I BREAK UP WITH HER?
candy604 replied to Massari's topic in Breaking Up Advice
yeah i agree, after exams or else u'll do bad in school = marks can't change and they are stuck on ur transcript forever! -
thanks for the inpsiration! i have to do that as well.
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yeah i hope she isn't playing games with you...that'd be very immature.
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hey don't worry, i'm in the same boat as well..sulking on how my bf is immature and insensitive as well. Just hafta think that you deserve someone that cares for you and more mature.
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okay thanks heatlessromantic. yeah i can take some but not the same old ones like how i don't photograph well..that one really stuck with me till this day ( i've been told by him many times in a joke form) n now i'm quite conscious of taking pictures. thanks so much for all ur help though. I'll be able to get through this.
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yeah i know what has to be done. so hard though, i want things to change but i guess i was seeing if i'm over reacting or if its normal to crack fun of ur gf. yeah one thing i can't understsand is that he makes his coworkers laugh n my friends, ppl around him ( but they aren't personal attack jokes though), but when it comes to me it's jokes that make fun of me. My friend tells me its b/c he doesn't know how to treat gf's sinec he doesn't have one nor any good girlfriends and one brother, which they tell each other how much they are loosers n stuff. ugh n he tells me that girls he knows tell him he's charming with his humour. it's so odd! i don't get. thanks guys...it's sad though to realize things probably won't change.
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hehe yeah i guess its hard b/c its my first relationships. I was usually told i'm too senstive n i shouldn't take these jokes to heart. But I just think some guy jokes are so mean it's hard not to be hurt by them. About the gifts I gave to him. We were talking about what to get each other for christmas and then he started asking me which past gifts I didn't like that he gave me. I refused of course b/c i like them all even though i may not use all of them ( one of them i just upgraded b/c it was on sale -a golf club). Then he went on to saying his poker chip set ( since poker was in back then n all the guys play it) i gave him was not a very good gift, nor was the blanket i gave him or the stuffed annimals as well. but the funny thing is he used them all ( for a long time)and now his brother uses it. So I don't see why it's crappy? i was so offended even though it was in a joking tone. Then he constantly tells me my phone is crappy and his is better etc.." like ur phone sucks, why'd u get it." he says it usually when i am talking to him on the phone. so that's a taste of what i'm getting. But i'll do the list : pros and cons as barbiegirl87 said and take ur advice catgirl 82. Just wondering if any of you two had bf's that made fun of you and how'd u deal with it?
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I'm on a two week break with my bf, with no contact until dec 14th. I'm finding it hard not to talk to him ( coz he txts me n leaves msgs on msn). Anyway we have a few problems that I don't know will change. 1) he jokes too much eg. makes fun of my clothes, my phone, my weight, what i eat, how im not photogenic in pictures, told me waht gifts i gave him that were useless..etc...it's all in a fun joking tone but it's way overboard and it just doesn't stop no matter if i cry or how serious i tell him. 2) he's insecure i think so he talks about how other girls like him at work( in this giggly tone)or how him n his guys will go pick up girls ( even though i know he's not the type, but his friends are - they always check our girls n try to hit on them). I'm not the jeolous type so I don't care if he talks to girls or whatever ( i even let him sleep over at his good girl friends place with roomates house b/c they were studying for an exam.But he does it to bug me and assumes i'll get mad if he talks to a girl etc..it's so weird! 3) our familes may not be compatible - pretty different. 4) our dinner coversations are so boring , so is our conversations. so i dunno waht to do, we both are 23 and it's been 3 years. I have to decide whethere to continue or not. I don't know if im being over sensitive to guys jokes. I don't know how i'm gonna get thru the NC for break-up. I'ts so hard and i feel like i'm being a * * * * * b/c i'm so cold to him now if he tries calling me.
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How do you break up with someone? HOW DO I BREAK UP WITH HER?
candy604 replied to Massari's topic in Breaking Up Advice
if u can't break up..just take a break and tell her to put the relationship on hold so you can think about what is going on. -
i think you should talk to her about it. It does sound like red flags though. Something is definitely not right ( from the fact she hides it from her friends etc..). have u asked her if she wants a bf or not or what she's looking for right now?
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yeah thanks for help. I guess its a bunch of things i realize. I'm just loosing attraction. I told my bf i need a break for 2 weeks until school exams are done b/c i don't know if i want to be in this relationship. Stressing but its reality. But i realize that physical attraction isn't everything, i think i'm lacking the emotion side , which then i loose the physical attraction.
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um..just different families and ubringing, communication is a problem ( we don't have alot to say to each other except the normal : hows ur day, balh blah), quite boring and my bf isn't that driven in life. I don't really know what to do.3 years is a super long time, but its so hard to let go. He always talks about marrying me etc..but I don't know.
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we are 23. Well personally, I can wait till marriage. I mean we all have those feelings too but I stick to what I value- christian upbringing. ..marriage is not until i'm older. We both are young and starting out our careers. Well yes we are in love, but lately i'm just pondering of breaking it off b/c i don't know if i see a future for us. ( also parents are on my back, they don't really approve n my mom is always trying to find boys for me- yes annoying!).
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Yeah he has stuck with me for 3 years. well he's a virgin as well. But I guess it bothers me b/c its most of the time and it feels like i hafta keep saying "no" and tell him you already know my values. but i guess it is a complement to me haha. yah i didnt' see it that way. Thanks annie24
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Anyway been going out with my bf for 3 years. He's living with my standards of not having sex before marriage. But usually most of the time we see each other he's also joking how he wants to "stick it in there." It bothers me , and i've told him. Also it seems everytime he does that it just makes me less attracted to him that now, i'm just comfortable with just kissing and hugging. I don't really care for anything more than that. Seems like a chore if I have to give him a BJ or something like that. Does it stem from the fact that it's rubbing against my values? I'm not really sure.
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he's not ur perfect match girl. If he's cheated and doesn't see why its serious, you've got someone that doesnt' respect you and probably won't be faithful to you even if you do get married. Cheating is a big deal and it does cause alot of problems ( eg. trust issues etc..). Man cheating from the start..that's bad and he hid it from you too. So thiink about it, if he cheats again, he'll just treat u better again to resolve the problem? could end up like a viscous cycle. was this cheating emotional or physical?
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i say put a lock on the tv, buy a cabinet and put the tv in it and put a lock and you keep the key. I do that to my tv when its distracting me lol. or just take away the remote from the tv and his ps2 games. he has to grow u pand learn that this lifestyle isn't healthy.