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can you see a sex therapist or buy ur bf some books??
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one word : baggage. She has a lot to deal with right now in life and I'm thinking she is stressed out and she may not be ready to commit.
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is he breathing properly? perhaps sometimes nausea is caused by lack of oxygen
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have you asked her on her views of sex? is she religious? perhaps her parents said sex is bad etc.. Maybe she has something hidden in her past that she doesn't want to let you know about. Also it sounds like she doesnt' see sex as an intimate thing to share with you, especially if you are to marry. Not sure how you can change her views on that. Perhaps look up dr.phil articles? I found one for you. There are so many on that site that deal with this issue. link removed
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sounds like your depressed. Perhaps your mixing around with the wrong crowd as well?
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take a break, maybe u guys spend too much time with each other so it gets boring
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sex isn't everything in a relationship. Remember that. You both will be growing old and other things other than sex are more important. So I wouldn't end it with her b/c of that. Your hormones do settle down though when u get older. I don't think you should be pushing for sex, coz she'll just push you away. As for the vacation thing, personally if I was staying at someone's home I'd feel uncomfortable having sex. It's just for respect. You can look at it in a different angle that it's a time to spend and relax with someone you love ( you don't have to expect sex). heh just try to control yourself, as cardinal said. Take control of your body, don't let your body control you.
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haha maybe he's a virgin!! or he's super scared. There goes that saying "talk is cheap" Personally, he shouldn't be saying those things to you if he's not ready. It's just leading you on and you should ask him what is going on. Sounds like games to me. Do you guys kiss or make out? at least that.
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hey at least u can look it in a more positive light, that after 6 years of dating, he's still very much attracted to you
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perhaps he should understand that sex isn't everything in the relationship. I guess the object is sex. If no sex = not wanted. He has to change his reasoning. If he's breaking up over b/c of sex, that's just silly. I don't know but seems like he has a different view than you. Find some articles on that subject and show him.
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can u buy her some books on how to be romantic? is she busy around the house or has a job that takes up her time? perhaps she might be the old fashioned lady that the man does all the intiating and likes that
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hrmm.yeah my bf asks me the say thing " why don't u intiate it?" and i gave almost the exact answer as ur gf. I guess i like it that way or i view that the man does the job. so i dunno..maybe that's what she thinks as well? or perhaps u can just tell her u like it when she intiates coz its hot..something like that.
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perhaps you can set up a romantic date for her? or even take a bath together and have candles around. or you can be like, i like it when you take charge in bed etc... blah blah.. but honestly, school and work does take a toll on a person ( stress = lower sex drive). there's so much more to do in life than just sex. heh
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heh yah, sometimes guys can just get hard holding a girl's hand or even a hug. depends..i think it's normal. He's probably thinking of something more than a kiss when he kisses you.
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just a thought..is his porn becoming an addiction and replacing you? Not sure if you should ask someone if they want to get freaky..My bf always asks me " do u want to play?" i get so annoyed with it b/c it seems like i am an object.
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ha it is normal, he is definitely attracted to you
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good point!
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ahha at least u can look at it,he wants you alot maybe he felt left out? but he shouldn't be cussing and getting overly mad about it.
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sounds like he does need help with anger and depression. Perhaps he wants to shut people out of his live b/c he's angry. I hope he gets some help soon.
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yes i guess all you can do is show her a new view on life and be the best for her. It's sad what people through and it makes you think how fortunate you are at times. Sounds like she is a strong girl for getting past her chilhood.
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Sorry one more question, how long did you date and did you love her? But i think that explains your turn off. Sorry to hear that. Sounds like you were not ready at all for the next step when the things you wanted were not in place. If i was in your situation, i'd feel awkard being put in that situation. heh sounds like your the type of guy that needs emotional connection first before getting into the physical stuff that's great! we need more guys like that around. I'm sure when you find the right girl when the time comes you'll be over this ordeal
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Be Smart and don't contact this lady anymore. If this lady was truly smart, she would know not to mess around with a married man. You should also realize this as well and this lustful feeling for her. You need to stop it and realize what you are doing is wrong. There will ALWAYS be other people in the world that can be a good match for you but you need to draw the line.Will you go after every single person you meet that may be right for you as well? No coz it'll be ridiculous. There will also be interesting people you meet that intrigue you, but you again you need to keep your distance. Like when you first met your wife, think of those times of what you loved about her and why you wanted to marry her. Be faithful to her You need to be a man and say, hey leave me alone, i'm married. Don't give the excuse of " i am not very good with rejection." b/c that's lame. Its your marriage your talking about and you should be willing to stand up for it. She is not your friend, you both have feelings for each other, that is more than a friend. You shoulld just stop talking to her, or tlel her ur busy etc..or tell her i can't be friends with you b/c of what is going on and it's wrong. I'm married and i need to be with my wife and child.
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wow your wife sounds like she's over reacting though. I guess she's making her point never ever do it again. I do agree with the others that giving up porn for your family is admirable. I hope your marriage works out.
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hm..were you emotional and physically attracted to your ex-gf? if you weren't, it's hard to get arounsed then. Hopefully when the pressure is off, you'll be okay. Perhaps with pressure, your fightening against it so it makes you turn away from sex. Just best to quit worrying about it and when the time comes you need to settle down and have a wife, someone will appear for you This shouldn't be a concern right now, perhaps focusing on getting ur career going, enjoying life while your young is more important than worrying about your low sex drive. Right now, i'm 23 years old same as you, my sexual needs are low right now coz i'm just focusing on getting my goals sorted out and finishing up school to get my career started. I'm not gonna threat over whether there's a guy for me or not or keep worrying that I won't find someone. heh i do have a bf though, but we hardly see each other or do anything itimate anymore. Perhaps you can just make friends with women? you don't neccessarily have to have a gf.
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is she getting treated for her eating disorder and compulsive disorder? she better coz it's serious and it does make a person think differently about life. - usually the symptomes that come are depression, fatigue and mood swings as well as Loss of sexual desire or promiscuous relations. So depending on how severe her disorders are they are affecting her judgment. She really should see a doctor or something to help her. yeah sounds liek your wife needs psychological help and issues to deal with. link removed
