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I contacted her for the last time. I tried to keep it short. While I think it worked, I was called a liar, and heartbreaker. She thinks I led her on and since my heart is broke, she thinks I needed revenge. Which points to the fact that I probably did it to late. However, beyond this issue, I do feel better and more pure. I feel like it made my commitment to my family stronger. Yet I am still bothered. I feel like I should tell my wife. Is this a good idea? I know it will upset her, considering that she has never liked this woman in the first place. I am worried about the unneeded stress on my child. SHould I wait another 3 months for the baby to be born? It's not that I am afraid she will find out ( I live in a small 50,000 pop town), I just feel like she needs to know.

Thanks to everybody, this has been a help. This is perhaps the only helpful forum I have ever stumbled upon.

Yes, she does know i am married, I have also told her that I am in love with my wife.

I am looking for some honest opinions, no offense will be taken to any suggestions. I have been married now for over a 3 years. My wife is pregnant. Before I was married I had a co-worker whom we had developed feelings towards each other, yet my professionalism prevented me from ever acting out since I was her boss. I no longer work with her and lost contact with her for the first part of the marriage to my wife. However, recently, we have regained contact. On a business trip out of state, I talked to her on the internet. While having a conversation, a feeling of euphoria overtook the both of us and we told each other about our feelings. Since then in the span of only 3 months, we have hung out a couple times, yet have never been physical. She has told me on numerous occasions that she wants to be with me. I have tried to cut off the friendship (or so I call it for justification purposes) by not e-mailing her back, nor talking to her. That would work for a couple weeks yet she would show up to my work and we would talk. I don't know exactly what my feelings are towards her. She is very smart, and has a major future in store for her. I believe that I couldn't ever trust her or be a relationship with her. However, alongside the little emotional feelings, I also have a major physical aspect for her as well. She is extremely attractive and gives me a feeling of lustfullness towards her. I am a good-hearted person towards many and have never been good at giving rejection. Yet, I know that if I did commit a physical affair, I would feel unbelievably guilty and betraying to both my wife and unborn child. This other woman is a very kind-hearted girl that could have her heart hurt very easily. While my wife has no college education like this other girl, and may not be as smar, I am in love with my wife, yet don't know how I could be if I have these feelings towards another girl. I want to only concentrate on my wife. I don't no exactly what I am asking for advice on here. But I need to break contact with this other girl who has been a friend for a long time. And if I do, how can I do it lightly, or is that out of the question? And as a note, my wife does know this girl, but only on an acquantance terms. Thanks for any suggestions, or notes -Randy