candy604

you need to tell him that you like being asked questions, some people are bad at communication and only answer questions. i met my girlfriends bf' and he's like that type that just didn't ask any questions about u but onli answered questions, it's odd. they just need to be taught, don't joke about it though. tell him he needs to be aware and to get a convo going he needs to ask questions.

you have to leave him, i think he needs time to heal and seek alot more help. Probably living with abusive women has changed his eventually told him, " its okay that i can be like this since they treat me like this." Take him to anger managment class etc..and none of it is your fault and he should not be calling you degrading names ( not good for your self-esteem for sure). my dad calls my mom names, horrible ones and i tell her to ignore it now and i get mad at my dad b/c he just crazy sometimes ( brought up in an emotionally abusive family). If you want it to work, you BOTH need to go to counselling for couples. There are effective ways to deal with anger etc..

she is getting abused by her father and i bet her mother has no control in the family. Does she want a life of cooking and cleaning? sounds like her dad is living in the old age. She needs to move out and decide for herself , i don't understand why her dad wouldn't want her to get an education? is he afraid of losing his daughter? that's so sad though. try the hotline! they have professional people to help you out.

wow that article is good, describes some part of my dad to the tee too.my dad is a verbals abuser to my mom, it's gotten better now, but he did alot of those things listed ( comes from a broken family). that guy is totally a loser, i'm sorry that you had to go through that for 2 years. must have been so awful.

that is not normal at all, your bf has to consider your feelings that being too friendly isn't good and leading girls on is WRONG. If he keeps doing it just have your own good guy friends and see how he feels if they keep calling u "babe" etc.. I'd kicked the nuts out of my bf if he did what your bf is doing.

she's not happy with her marriage. but you really need to end this b/c it isn't healthy for you and her ( even though she doesn't know it). Sounds like her husband isn't home and she loves having a guy on a side ( thrills). Don't be her toy! find yourself a great girlfriend and move on with life.

i'm really sorry to hear bout that! but how did you have a 3 year relationship with someone that lies, cheats etc..? i mean you don't deserve that type of man.

well i talked to him, he feels bad and realizes how he should change this jokes and the way he should treat me with his words. ( this is the last chance) I only make fun of him if he makes fun of me, my jokes are mean though. I tried being mean to him and it just gets shrugged of b/c he doesn't get hurt by it, so really my mean jokes don't make him feel bad. I know what u guys are saying but it's so hard to let go and especially if he's apologizing and saying he'll change etc..

i dunon, i just talked to him and bascially he thinks girls are too sensitive. He said he meant to say that i look better in real person than in pictures. I told him he only said that b/c i was getting angry. I think he won't learn until what you said " annie24". I mean he said " oh but my friends joke like that etc.." ( again another justification for jokes). OH well. not sure, he just shows me by driving out to see me all the time, etc..other things, but he just likes to make fun of me.

i will have a talk with him again, i already talked to him about this jokes and stuff so many times throughout the year. He tries thne it goes back to the same old thing. He claims he feels like he's not being himself and being fake when he can't just joke around and say what is on his mind. But i realize i shouldn't be making excuses for his actions. I'm trying to understand why someone who is told so many times that as a gf, she doesn't want to hear mean jokes etc..( i don't care if he pokes fun at his friends). he treats his mom and dad fine. Odd. I am scared to leave and hoping things will change. It's hard to let go. I mean we do have our great times, but do you think he'll out grow this stage? or with more experience he'll learn ( i.e he dates other girls to understand etc..). Also i'm thinking his group of friends encourage behaviour like this ( like his friend that cracked jokes at my friend's house). What really gets me is that if you meet him, he's very easy to get along with, has lots of friends, and alot of my friends like him.

i hope everything works out for you. I'm dealing with my bf who doesnt' keep his mouth shut but loves me. However, his words and jokes are so mean sometimes that we fight alot about it.

if he's never treated you like this, it's probably the alchohol then?? what kinds of things was he saying to you? maybe he thought it was funny to belittle u etc..

or maybe her mom said something about you to her. how long have u been goin gout for? just txt her on her phone saying you want to hear her voice and you're not mad at all and that you want to know if everything is okay say u miss her too!!

he tells me he loves me, never yells at me and he's always wanting to hang out with me etc..the way the guys he hangs out with treat each other is that they crack jokes at each other and make fun of each other ( very mean jokes, like {Mod Edit}, loser...) and he treats his younger brother ( no sister) like that too. He says that's him and that's how he gets close to people and showing them they like them by making fun of them. He know's its bad, but it doesn't change really. He has no close girl friends or no sister, so could be the reason why he doesn't know how to treat a girl. I know, if he keeps doing it, i'm going to ask my friend to talk to him about it ( so it looks liek it's not just me being insensitve). He says " that's the way i am, i can't help what comes out of my mouth).

agree to disagree is better. some men have alot of ego so it's hard for them to see that they are wrong or even apologize or if they know they are wrong they won't admit it to you. my dad is like that so my mom deals with it somehow, but they always are okay after they argue

Okay just a taste of my relationship... It's about 3 years , my bf and I never dated anyone before, so we are our first's first. Lately he decided after i'd threaten to break-up with him if he doesn't continue to stop saying hurftul comments. Lots of them are in a joking manner but some of them are mean ( not in a mean tone) and this has continued for the past 2 years. He doesn't understand how mean jokes hurt a girl b/c mainly he hangs out with guys and most guys don't care if they make fun of each other etc.. So i'm basically like a guy. And he just thinks i'm too sensitve etc..and that's the way he is. Tonight, he just told me i don't look good in pictures or i'm not photogenic. I already know that i don't look like a model or something, i'm just regular ( better in real life though), so i don't understand why he has to say that to me, it's on and off. His arguemnt is " well it's the truth , what can i say, do you want me to lie"? So i'm not sure how to get him to change his ways and see he's hurting me. Another ex. at my friends party, my bf's friend was cracking jokes about my friend's dad, of course my friend was like {Mod Edit} in her head and told my bf what his friend did was so disrespectful etc..then again, my bf and his friend felt bad but justified themselves saying " oh it's just a joke, why take it so seriously etc..." he doenst' get it!!! HELP! is this normal in a relationship where a girl hears these comments? i used to be called stupid, {Mod Edit} loser etc..for fun. It has stopped a bit now, but it comes in different forms. Recently, he likes making fun of my tummy ( not that i'm big, just not as slim as before. so he calls me names jokingly or makes alot of fat jokes ( i'm so far from being fat)