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  1. Well i am still at her parents house. The situation has not gotten better, last night she didn't eat dinner at her parents house as usual with me, her son and her mom. She went to see a movie "charlette's web" with a girl friend from work last night. She got home at midnight, she claims she went with her friend and husband, so she was like a third wheel then she went shopping. I did some research and that movie wasn't playing later on last night anywhere in the area. So it's obvious she lied once again. No doubt she went out with him again last night. Her mom was watching our son and I
  2. That is true, would I want her back if she admits she did anything with him? probably not. Not considering there are other fish in the sea. I do feel for my son though. He deserves better then all this crap. So I found out more about the situation. She has admitted she spent Saturday night with him, at his house. She left at 2am on sunday after I found her on the phone with him, she went to his house then as well. That wednesday she left at 9pm after a fight and didn't come home till 1am. She spent 6 hours on her cell phone with him over the period of several days just from the
  3. I assume you are just talking sexually you are mssing him? I mean having a child will always do that especially if they are sleeping in the bed with you two. Me and my wife sleep/slept in different beds for several years do to my snoring. We quite literally don't have a sex life. If he doesn't want it, then well it sounds like he may not be so interested anymore. Naturally a 21 month old sleeping in yoru bed would ruin the idea for any man. So yeah getting him out of there would be a great thing. I have a 26 months old and he likes to sleep with one of us as well. That can be a
  4. I think marriage in itself is nothing more then a piece of paper that is very expensive to get rid off if it doesn't work out. Being on the spouses health insurance is about one of the only perks and joint tax returns. I will never get married too fast again. Make sure you are with tha tperson quite literally for years, live with them and play house. Because ill tell you honestly if you don't something funny is going to happen after you tie the knot. Peole cheat, little things get on your nerves and family members, your sister, mother father etc all start to paint a picture and it will su
  5. I don't agree with your statement. People can be extremely nice with one person and love life. Be with another person can make them irritable, mean and violent. So in that respect the person is causing you to behave a certain way. Just like a dog scratching a flea, do you blame the flea for the dog scratching? Is it the flea's fault? I think it is. Get rid of the flea, or tell it to stop biting. That is how I look at it. In my situation my wife starts every last fight. She yells at me for something her ocd is affecting her judgement on, I defend myself which leads to more yelling a
  6. You know speaking from my position which is someone who is told by his wife on a regular basis that I am a fat, stupid piece of crap pretty much. I am told I am the abuser on a regular basis, simply by talking to my sister about our problems. I don't sit there for hours throwing every single insult possible like she does but im the abuser. so yeah, if your giving it your all and she isn't even working then sir I would say its the opposite. You like me are the one being abused and women somehow sense this ability to control the man, like in our situations. So, if she claims your abuser
  7. I gotta tell you from a male ponit of view, ky in the bottle feels pretty much just like the real thing. If it doesn't last long keep the bottle handy! I haven't had sex with my wife in over a year so I can't really be good advice on sex, i want it she doesn't, period. For whatever reason, so hense why I know so much about ky lmao!
  8. Ok so my wife who i am currently living separate from as we work out some problems asked me if I was coming home this week end. I said no I was not ready yet. She asked me why not. She also asked me a good question. "Are you trying to punish me"? I guess I didn't know what to say to that. I am mad at her as she spent the night with another man 2 weeks ago, lied to me about it etc. She claims she just spent the night at his house and nothing happened no one cares and why am I making it a big deal. Anyway, so am I being separate from her to punish her? I guess I am but then again,
  9. Well I was referring to stay with them as a temp solution rather then going right out and getting an apartment . I mean if she straightens up I will definitely want this to work. But if not, then well im gone. She has 30 days to convince me it is going to be different. she will quit all this crazy behavior and abuse towards me. Getting to the bottom of it being did she cheat? Is there resolution? She still has given me a guilt trip for her not being allowed to talk to this guy, she has no one now. I won't say I love her and she can't talk to him, so why won't she talk to her famil
  10. The worst thing though is that she is having some issues with melanoma skin cancer right now. So there is the possiblity of her dying from this. Now add that boat load of guilt. It is the biggest amount of pressure anyone or anything could put on you. what would you do in that situation?
  11. It makes so much more sense to leave the person you dislike, and find someone new. Be alone for a while in between. I have never chated on my wife, physically but yes a cyber affair with the women living thousands of miles away I did do. I gues sit was more a of a fantasy then anything. It was with ex gf's from my high school years and im now 26. was I saying I Love you, kind of after awhile. Anyway, an affair is fun if your relationship is not very good, but physically I don't think I could live with myself, physically sleeping and having relations with someone. As for you be
  12. Thanks everyone I appreciate the posts. I have moved out of the house monday and have applied to an apartment. I have moved in with her parents to get to the bottom of all this, before commmiting to the apartment, I have 30 days to move in before the application expires and I can't move in. She still will not admit she did anything with him. But when questions about specific actions she did that night are asked, like an interogation she immediatley says she won't answer any questions. So with that in mind its even more obvious something happened but I probably will never know. I didn't l
  13. Thanks everyone I appreciate the posts. I have moved out of the house monday and have applied to an apartment. I have moved in with her parents to get to the bottom of all this, before commmiting to the apartment, I have 30 days to move in before the application expires and I can't move in. She still will not admit she did anything with him. But when questions about specific actions she did that night are asked, like an interogation she immediatley says she won't answer any questions. So with that in mind its even more obvious something happened but I probably will never know. I didn't l
  14. Thanks everyone I appreciate the posts. I have moved out of the house monday and have applied to an apartment. I have moved in with her parents to get to the bottom of all this, before commmiting to the apartment, I have 30 days to move in before the application expires and I can't move in. She still will not admit she did anything with him. But when questions about specific actions she did that night are asked, like an interogation she immediatley says she won't answer any questions. So with that in mind its even more obvious something happened but I probably will never know. I didn
  15. I appreciate those words of advice. I have rationalized being with her for 4 years. Even though our marriage/relationship and everything else is horrible. I for some reason, didn't want to leave her. I mean I do but I don't I guess i can't explain it. I guess being married makes you feel like no matter what happeneds you should stay. There is a certain kind, of comfort being married. 4 years is a long time to be with someone, a certain familiar feeling. Even when everything is horrible that is how it is. But it needs to stop, having a son with her makes it all that much worse.
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