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We do live longer now though, so that is going to play a part. Personally, my feelings on this are that it lies somewhere between biology and the way girls are socialised. Of course some males mature faster than others and some females mature faster than others and it's highyl unlikely that it's down to just one factor. Nature and nurture I think.
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If you suspect him of cheating, go get tested. He sounds to be very promiscuous, what type of concern does he have for his health? Don't leave that he is using protection to faith. I really don't think that this is a healthy relationship for you, no matter the good times, the effect of the bad will have longer consequences on your physical and mental health (stress, plus anything he picks up) and your ability to trust other people you enter into relationships with.
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She didn't say they went through puberty at different times, but that the maturity gap was a side effect of puberty.
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I like older men because they ~cough~ hold their weight differently. (I like men a bit chunky.) Anything more than 15 years would probably put them out of my interest zone though, unless they are amazingly hot. (Ahhh, William Petersen. One day my sweet... ) For some reason though, I just get on very well with men who are around 10 years older than me and seem to attract them into my life in positions of lust and not. Which is odd, but if I've found someone who shares my interest, I'm not going to complain.
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Shaving will not make hair grow back thicker, and unless it's anything more than very light hair it will not even seem thicker. (Which is the effect the cut end of hair gives, however when the hair falls out naturally and a new one grows the effect is lost.)
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Why are you not angry? She was completely disrespectful to you. How do you feel about the relationship in general? Because you don't seem to have a lot of concern regarding her actions ("a little like I had been brushed off." "not angry,.. just annoyed") and she does not seem to mind lying to you. Is this a typical pattern of the relationship?
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None of that says "gay" to me. And it sounds to me like he just doesn't want a gf.
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We dated for over a year. (The longest I've been with someone.) And frankly, if he'd put me above a newly formed business he was trying to establish, I'd have wondered what was wrong with him.
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She didn't say it was the number one reason, she said it was one of many things. Closeness doesn't have to be created with her always driving out to see him though, if it's so important then he can make a trip too. I once dated a man who had just started up his own business. Sometimes we'd go for weeks only seeing each other one a week. We created closeness- we talked on the phone, we im'd and emailed, and when we did see each other, we made sure we were the focus. That said, if someone I'd been seeing for 3 months started throwing hissy-fits because of my obligations and financial situation, he'd be gone.
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Batya, I don't think it's about stepping up to the plate. Sometimes life is just very stressful and there's nothing you can do about it except get through it. Humm, first off, is there anyway he can go see you? Would that help to take some of the stress off? That said, next time he rants, tell him calmly that you'll talk when he behaves like an adult and hang up. Don't let him upset you, don't get upset when you talk to him. Work out a schedule to see him, don't over-estimate though. Leave plenty of time to work through your commitments and then schedule him in. It sounds callous, but it doesn't sound to me like you're having an easy time getting everything settled. Will the situation end any time soon or is it pretty much for the foreseeable future? I think it's possible that he just doesn't like feeling that he's not your no1 priority and throws a hissy-fit when it happens. Make sure that when you do see him that it's quality time, that's more important than quantity.
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You have a crush. You're a mammal, it's normal. What's important is that you don't let fantasy become more important than reality - and your SO. That said, what kind of attention does your SO give you?
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Legally you can change your name to anything you want. We have a man at work who is now legally The Lord Sung, no word of a lie.
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One option I've come accross is combining names, taking pieces you like from both names and working it into a good sounding last name. It was in an article about the options for couples who didn't want to automatically take the mans last name after marriage, but didn't want to have two separate names. Just a thought...
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agent1607307371 replied to warhuhwow's topic in Relationship Advice
Ditto. You want to be straight up but not off-putting. -
Want to reply as a man, not a friend
agent1607307371 replied to warhuhwow's topic in Relationship Advice
See, there's the difference. The friend way is saying "You are attractive, what does he know." The other way is being very upfront that you think she is very attractive. Also, don't mention the other guy. But you have to be blunt with it, so there's no miscommunication. I think that's how most people end up friend-zoned. -
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agent1607307371 replied to warhuhwow's topic in Relationship Advice
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I think she might be trying to become closer to this sister, or has been asked and was unable to say no. I don't think it's selfish of you to be upset (and tell her) about the situation. Uninviting people to something so huge, especially when they are truly there for you, is really bad form imho. That said, I think if you choose to voice your disappointment about the situation, do it in a way that isn't going to distress her too much.
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Andyg - secretarial jobs were traditionally a male position... How old are you anyway? Why did you marry her? You seem to have no desire to enter into the real world - where people take jobs they don't want and work their way up. You have entered into marriage on a whim and with no understanding of how partnerships have to work.
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Glitternails - if their affair was never primarily sexual, and he says he's stopped sleeping with her, then what has changed about the situation? Nothing. He's using a lot of excuses that make you feel guilty to keep putting this woman ahead of you and 6 children. There are many programmes and professionals who will be able to help this woman, finding her one is above and beyond anything you feel you owe her.
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If it makes you feel uncomfortable, then speak to him. I'm sure he'd hate to make you feel upset over something like this. Sexuality can be a touchy subject, and it's not something you can just "lighten up" over. Either it's in your comfort zone or it's out of it. If he really wants to do it though, see if there is a compromise that could be reached - such as only partial nudity and clever shadows It possible that he wants to do this to feel sexy, and I don't think he needs to be doing a full frontal for that. Sexy and tasteful can be done very easily, especially if the artists are good. As for appropriate, only you and your husband can decide what that is, really. Talk some more to this couple and have them tell you exaclty what they have planned for the content. I know I tend to work things up in my head only to have them end up nowhere as extreme as I feared. And I'd definitely be uncomfortable about friends and acquaintances seeing my hubby in the buff. A nice artistic shot just giving them a sneak peak of what I have all to myself... may be a different story.
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Why is it so important for him to be gay and treating your friend oddly? If your town has such a big gay community, wouldn't he be out there meeting men? And he might really like her as a person, and just not want to be bothered with a relationship or sexual thing with her. Lots of straight men have issues with oral also. He might be gay, he might not. But however he is identifying, that's what he is.
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Men masturbate because they can. Maybe they have a stronger sexual urge than their partner, maybe they're feeling a bit stressed, maybe they came accross something that aroused them. Generally it's nothing to do with their partner or the state of their relationship, it's a natural urge.
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Honestly, he's just not into your friend. His sexual orientation matters nothing after that fact. And why would he drive to a girl when he can get her to go to him? She is doing all the work and that suits him down to the ground.
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The best way to "protect your territory" is to stop seeing her as something that belongs to you. See her as a person who made the choice to be with you. Be a good partner who doesn't humiliate her by starting fights or ugliness with men they think are trying to steal something from them, love her and be there for her and she won't consider any other man. It's not a problem to enjoy attention from other men, I'm sure you like it when women other than your gf make you feel attractive, the problem comes when they aren't getting that attention from their SO and feel other men are the only place to get that validation from.
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Does it work and does it cause the child disress? I was spanked, and it was the best form of punishment (the second was being sent to sit on the stairs and wait for the man from the childrens home to arrive. It sounds humorous, and not as bad as a spank, but its messed me up more than a swat on my * * * ever did.) As long as the child knows he's loved and that once he's done his time it's done, then I think that would be an ok technique. You have to talk to your mom about messing up the dad's discipline because it's not her place to do so.