This may be a new one for most of you.
I'm a 67yo woman, my husband is 69, very active and still working. We have friends of all age groups. Recently at a social event, we were seated near a 30-something couple we have become rather good friends with. The wife teaches journalism part-time at a nearby institution of higher learning. She was telling a group of us about their (she and her husband's) plans to do a photo essay on the subject "The Mature American Man", which will be distributed by internet and other means. They plan to do a photo shoot in the lake country region of our state in a vintage black & white theme.
The problem arose when she invited my husband to join several men she was planning to feature in the layout. Sounds OK, but she then asked him if he would be comfortable appearing standing in the doorway of an old cabin on the property in "au naturel" state. We first thought she was joking, but realized she was serious. This made me uncomfortable since there were several couples present joining in on the conversation. Also, he appeared to actually be interested in doing this, asking several questions of the woman and her husband. In ending the conversation, he stated something like "It sounds like you want to include an old guy with farmer's tan, pot belly, appendectomy scar and everything else". He is supposed to give them his final answer later. I asked a couple of the older ladies how they would react if in my shoes, and both stated they wouldn't mind it in an "artistic scenario" such as this. On the way home, he and I both concluded that, from the conversation this particular photo might very well possibly show all of him. I judged that didn't bother him, from what I could tell. He said he doesn't think there's anything wrong with it, and that there's nothing sexual or obscene about a 69yo man appearing naked. He went on to point out similar appearances by older men in "Schlindler's List" and other places.
My problem with this is that I don't want any other women, particularly ones I socialize with to see my husband without any clothes on. I may be in the minority on this, but that's just the way I am.
I can't imagine meeting them later after they (and countless others) have seen him in his birthday suit.
Am I overreacting? Do any other women feel this way? This could potentially cause some conflict, although I haven't said much at this point. I did mention at one point that I'd prefer to be the only woman who sees him naked.
I would like the opinions of some other women and men alike on this. How would you women react? Would you men do it (why or why not?)and how would your mate react?
Do I need to try to just lighten up and go along???????
