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    When I was your age I was attracted to the "bad boy" type. But I guess around my freshman year of college, when I finally started to have some sense, I realized that "bad boys" would never treat me right, or make me happy. USUALLY, when girls turn into women and they start to realize what really matters to them, that whole "bad boy" thing is very unattractive. On the other hand, I still want my man to have a "swager" about him, along with education, respect, career, family values, morals, etc..... Just my opinion of course.
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    I'm a woman, but I just wanted to comment: My b/f says he has the best of both worlds b/c I'm "lady in the streets, but a freak in the bed". I think most men could probably agree on that.
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    I know what you're saying....when I think about how wonderful my b/f is to me and how amazing our sex life is, I can't help but wonder if he was the same way with his exes. Then my mind begins to wonder, and I find myself all flustered thinking about him being with other women. But then I take a deep breath, sit back and realized-that's the past, a past I wasn't around for. I have a past, he probably wonders th same things about me. He loves me, he's with me......and I let it go.
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    I agree.....my b/f and I aren't exactly "long distance" but we do live 40 mins apart, and both work 2 jobs so we really only see each other on tuesday nights and he stays with me on Satuday nights. But we have A LOT of sex just about every time we're together. But we also have a lot of communication. If you're happy and he's filling your other needs, just enjoy it.
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    I was with my ex for 6 yrs, I thought one day we'd be married. My stupidity, b/c I honestly believe his plan was for me to be his lifetime girlfriend. That may be ok for some, but not me. When I realized that we had different ideas of "together forever" I left-amoungst many other reasons. So now I'm in a wonderful relationship a month shy of a year, I'm ready. I'm ready to get married. I don't want to waste 6 more years of my life with someone who has no intention of saying "I do". So what's my plan?.....If no discussion of marriage by 1.5 yr mark, or if he doesn't "know" that he wants to marry me by then, I'm out. I've not brought up marriage, and I won't until that time comes. That's just me.
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    I wouldn't worry about it. You may have taken what she said the wrong way. I don't really know.....sounds like she used a poor choice of words. Other then that I'd let it go.
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    I do agree with you here. Just my opinion. But I've only given oral to 2 different men in my life. My ex who I was with for 6 yrs, and my b/f who I hope to marry someday. I just find it EXTREMELY personal. Not that I don't find sex extremely personal, but oral is just, well....involves your mouth.
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    I was with my ex for 6 yrs. I learned: You have to pick your battles very carefully, and let somethings just roll off your back. Nothing is forever. That having someone that knows ever single thing about you and still loves you is priceless and irreplaceable. Eventually the butterflies and honeymoon phase is gone and there'd better be something to hold it together. That you never truly stop caring about them even after you've left. That you will always wonder what might have been.
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    EXACTLY!!!
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    Okay, well personally, if I was her and whattheheck asked me "how many" I'd tell him "A lady doesn't tell" and leave it at that. So what if that's her answer, what's he gonna do?? Wonder, question, stress about it......its just better left alone. No good will come of it.
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    Me too Hazey!
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    Whoa honey! That's a little too generally stated, don't you think?
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    See, it all has to do with how secure you are with YOURSELF.
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    Amen sister!
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    Exactly, why now? And, if you love her for the woman you know her to be, then who cares? Whatever she has in her past has made her who she is now. How would you feel if 8 months in to a relationship the woman you loved was questioning your sexual past and might or might not leave you b/c of it? Ouch
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    I can understand you wanting to know about her sexual past, but honestly it's none of your business. As long as you know she "clean" and that she's faithful to you, let her past be her past. You should be able to tell what kind of character she has by now. Just because she's never been married doesn't mean she's had a lot of partners. How many serious relationships has she been in? How long did they last? There's some questions you can ask her to give you an idea of a number, if you must know.
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    Since you say you came on so strong at first, I'd leave him alone. Let him come to you now. If he's interested he'll contact you.
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    honestly honey I'd just let it go. I realize you're angry with him & you want the $...but I don't think its worth it. You're not pregnant right? So let it go.
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    Hey there....My man and I have been together for 10 months also. But we see each other nearly every day. In the beginning of January he met my mother-very casual/we were moving my stuff into my new house. But I still have not met his parents. I've met his brother and sister, and every one of his friends, but not the parents. He hasn't asked me to meet them either. I'm not going to be the one to ask. I do know that he loves me, and even though we have our problems, I'm happy with him. I don't know that this helps, but at least you know you aren't the only one.
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    Well, I got my evidence last night. I asked him directly when he last talked to his ex he said 2 days after New Yrs. LIE!!! I know he talked to her this wknd. So, tonight I'm going to tell him I know he lied, wait for his explanation, and I'm done. B/c there's nothing he can say to make it ok.
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    Amen....when someone cheats, whether it be emotionally or physically, they are taking away choices from the other person in the relationship. Its not fair.
  24. amtjrtcet
    I know its hard honey, but just read and re-read your original post if you're having doubts. That should be all you need. I hurts to find out that someone you love isn't what you thought they were. Its disappointing, and disheartening. But its better to know now after only 1 yr then to go on any longer and have it hurt that much more. The members of this forum are amazing, kind and full of knowledge. I know they've been here for me. So post here when you want to call him or need someone to talk to. Good luck
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    I'm sitting here wondering what's going on. The only thing I really have to go on is that I saw that my b/f called his ex and they talked for a little over 10 mins. But he suspiciously has her programmed in his phone by a number instead of her name. I've had other issues with my b/f and his ex before. I'm praying there's a good explanation to all this. But God so help me, if I had any solid information that he was messing around-and that doesn't just mean physically, I'd erase him from my life forever. And I know it would hurt for a while, but I'd do it.
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