ravenfox

ditto

grr he said its because when he asked me on my birthday last year what i wanted to do for my birthday i said nothing much. and he was just doing what he was told to make me happy. did i just stick my foot in my mouth!

its ok to be worried! but seems like she really likes you and you dont have grounds for this worry at all!

hun its getting worse! your feelings are right - trust your gut instinct and respect yourself above what he feels or anyone thinks!

my mum says hes spoiled since everything has always been handed to him and no demands are ever made of him. I suppose since no demands are made he never learned to do things for others. But he does do things for his friends and school mates - just forgets me because i have not been active on this! Tomorrow! today is for cake, naps and good novels!

HE forgets everything! thanks for making me feel better although i am not doing anything i love relaxing and being lazy so today has been ideal! yes i TOOK the present! even though he had a fit when i did and basically had a baby tantrum and said hurtful stuff and left (making me feel like he had/will break up with me!) but i told him its mine ! you guys were right its sooo between me and this lady it doesn't involve him at all! it was a small desk clock - very lovely - matches my bedding. best part is i dont feel like all these years they dont like me because they have been reciprocating my little presents - feels very good that he was just hiding them and i am really liked and appreciated by that nice lady. He doesnt forget EVERYTHING - he remembers: his friends - cars - computer games or anything thats pleasing to him. I am not going to talk today because I dont want to rot my day with his excuses! Tomorrow I will ask him why he forgets ME exclusively - he has no excuse as I just spoke with him on the tele for about an hour. Thanks you all for the sweet wishes - putting up with my venting - and the always fantastic advice.

yes if its wax and you havent spread it (still in the can but melted) its fine to let it harden and reuse it later.

try the weights! my buttocks, hips, flank and belly was very cellultish and i have been doing weights for about 6 years - you would never know it was like a soft cheese look before i toned up!! it has made it to the point that i think this summer i will even wear skirts - which i have not since i was 14! I also use cocoa butter to make sure my skin stays elastic and to reduce the apperance of the bad stretchmarks i have on my lower body (i have a connective tissue problem so the elastin in my skin breaks and scars easily and i was recommended to buy a cocoa butter formula - cheap creame the kind pregnant women use - its actaully cheaper than even body lotion but very good for holding in mositure) you can also try massage to increase circulation! i havent tried it because i dont have the time and spas here are expensive but my physician said it could help my skin to have a deep and HARD massage to increase circulation.

awwww what a rat well now you know hes a brat who doesnt appreciate the admiring sweet gf he has! i have done this - spyed on his forum where he complains to his buddies about me and i confronted him - i suggest you do that - its hard but remember your #1 and you deserve some respect - plus you did not invade his privacy as this is posted for the WORLD to read! how horrible of him!

gaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhh he forgot again 4 years and he forgets every time !!!!!!!!!!! i just wanted a happy birthday before he hung up ](*,) is that SOOOO MUCH TO ASK??????????????? i am not even going to bother to remind him this year i always remmeber with a card + present + many wishes the minuite the clock strikes his special day! what about meeeeee? *wails and howls while beating the floor and kicking the air* ooook thanks for letting me vent - i do feel better though

i know how you feel! i too hate making others feel bad!! i think we haveto be more selfish!

i dont have a hard time loosing weight but keeping it off i guess i never transition from loss to maintain state i lost 80 lbs and gained back 60 - lost 40 gained 10 - lost 20 - gained back 50! i dont know what to do but this has been over the past 2 years. overall i went from a high of 186 to a low of 122 to now at 158 i think about this all day and its a source of a majority of my pain/bad feelings i dont think i have had a slice of cake or ice cream without jealousy since i was 12 there is never a time i am not embarking or ending a diet - but after the loss gain cycles it sucks up your motivation and sometimes i just let myself go for 2 weeks and binge and then freak out when a event is coming and work it off i want to maintain a healthy weight of 140 for a LONG time i just dont feel motivated anymore. also i am all out of diets and fed up of doing it right and yo yoing on the "doing it the right way" programme. i guess i need motivation more than anything since i already know i am capable of loosing weight the right way! does anyone know of good diet progress sites or forums that they belong to or can recommend.

i have the oddest problem i have come accross lately i am obsessed with heights i recently moved into a complex and live on the 27th floor for some odd reason i am obsessed with falling or feeling how it would feel? but not dying. i often find myself standing on tables when i am on the phone or wondering what it would be like to fall over when i am standing on a chair by the window. i think this may be because of my recent (past few months) watching autopsies on people who have fallen/jumped. i dont understand why my minds doing this except it makes me scared to go outside on the sundeck and such. i also feel really troubled with jealousy and my bf of years actions as of late - almost separated as of this week - feeling sorry for myself i have self banned myself from opening windows or going on the sundeck. but i want to understand why my mind is so fixated with heights in general?

oh god i called to ask got angry and 1 hr later we broke up im in a daze i dont even know what happened right now i just typed this bc this threads still open on my computer two years and just like that i dont understand ANYTHING

oh god girl you and me both i wish i had xray vision bc i dont even care if i get a present i just like opening stuff i haveto really use my most controlling conscious voice when i package sit for my neighbours nothing like shredding a box open to make a day! NG ron hes is not - hes annoying the hell out of me - he even has a valentine because he doesnt flirt but he doest stop other girls from flirting with him! how ridiculous ! i am still making him cookies bc it makes me happy and on valentines my fav bball game is on so whatever he does is fine by me *too angry to care*

a) i dont have the guts b) i dont have the keys c) i am a wimp! i am so fustrated on why he would do this but you guys are sooo right thanks for this moral support i am going to question why hes hoarding all this the next time hes back! its not that one thing i know there is all sorts of weird junk in there ... including something be bought for me - i know its chocolate and i LOVE chocolate - why would he hide stuff when he knows what it is and he let me know what it is oh god why are boys so strange why couldnt you make them like me - complicatedly simple

Basically I had complined that my bf was very forgetfull of holidays and anything – which I don't mind except I miss being thought about – ie not even a sweet note or email. A month or so after xmas I found out his mom and dad did indeed reciprocate my present to them – and its rattling in the trunk of his car! I saw it and said " oh xmas wrap!" and he said yes its from my mom for you and then switched the topic! Why would he keep it from me? I feel like now if he even tries to give it I will tell him he may as well save it for whoever he was keeping it for! Also I make it a point to write a thank you card and I think/hope his mom knows hes keeping things rather than I am just being rude this year! What should I do? I don't want to ask for it since apparently he doesn't feel like giving it to me but at the same time I am not going to write that sweet couple a note thanking them for something when I don't even know what it is! I guess I will just forget it and let it go – I mean its not important to me after this going on for 2 years but I just don't understand why he does this! Its just odd!!! Any ideas on the psych?

i dont really know what to say i guess just remember to put yourself first also - there is nothing like the feeling of loosing all expectations. its like having every dream snatched away and killed even before it is imagined. it does nothing but strain the way you feel about someone...the resentment alone can be crazy

i have never had any sort of hoopla so if something happens this year i will be shocked and amazed. cancel that - im stupid enough to always have expectations so i will just be normal vs. disappointed!

yes im sorry but i feel this way. i wish i didn't but after a while one partner does the work and the other just sits back because they think the cats in the bag. and you know the cat usually is. it's just a matter of how we treat the ones closest to us the worst usually.

i doubt it would bug him many guys joke that they cant do anything but microwave - so i think if he really likes them you did make them from scratch - afterall it wasnt like you bought them at the grocers - u still had to involve the eggs milk oil water mixer pans - oiling of pans - baking - cutting - dishes *WHEW* all that work!!!

yeah!!! aim invisible!

hello AIM alerts and new AIM has invisible feature! how do u make it through college !?

adreaminbaby i know how you feel my bf is haitian and i am asian - eh see the problem - my father doesnt know and my mother is being cruel because she has some clue. i dont know what to do either. dont tell your bf - why hurt his feelings because she is in the wrong! i dont tell my bf bu i tell him they are "difficult" and tell him it doesnt matter to me - ofcourse i would like things perfect but it is none of his fault and my parents can be pompous sometimes! (not age difference either - he is 9months older only)

. I am now in my 20s and successful - at the cash register, at my professional location, among friends and among friends parents i am "the ideal child". i am tired of people oohing and ahhing at me because i always feel like snapping - and i have when the persons a completel stranger that i have no chance of seeing again " tell that to my dad". Its not that I dont like complements it is just after 20 years of hearing otherwise I irrationally feel that people are lying to me. Its impossible to have a normal relationship and not be jealous of other people around your SO when you think you must be obese. By the american standard I am fit but to my parents to this day I am a monsterocity. Ofcourse, I will not listen to everyone in my life when I have been raised on their words - EVEN though i consciously realize that they are wrong. Additionally back to my academic/professional tract - my parents and my sibbling by example have called me stupid and retarded - i will go to jeail (i tried on my dads shoes, lforgot my bannana peal on the kitchen counter - stupid things 10 years old do) - granted my sibbling is actually 5 years younger than me - has called me a "elephant" (he has watched my parents tell me I am too fat for cake even if its my birthday party as i cut my own cake) and stupid and told me they will do better than me. But they want to come to a professional congradulatory dinner this spring. Parents of the honorees are flying in from all over the US - some from even abroad - it is a huge deal so it is out of the question to keep them from coming. yet i dont want them to come - these things make me cry - i feel so fake standing there for hours trying to smile for the people who have called me useless and worthless for 20 years - people who have threatened to send me away to my grandparents who live in a no name town - where "my grandmother would abuse me".I can remember this threat beginning when I was 7 and it is probabbly my biggest fear while i was under their roof. i know the day will make me cry and i dread every night because that day is coming closer. how do i try to forget these things and look happy and proud ?