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I had met soemone online - It was horrible (don't want to put you off!) i remember one incident that happeneded on that day: We were in the car park and he touched me on the back, as a gesture for me to move along with him. I JUMPED! and it put me off like you wouldn't believe. I felt as if he was invading my personal space, and he caught me off guard. Afterwards, he was really apologetic and didn't touch me again (which i am thankful for). So if i were meeting someone online, i wouldn't want them to touch me (no matter how well we knew each other over the phone), because i would feel as if they were invading my space and assume that i like being touched. Plus, you never know if they are feeling the same way as you - even if they say they are, they could be thinking differenty - remember that.

Hi, From my personal experiences, i have never contacted past exe's, or let them contact me. In my opinion, it ended for a reason, and i wouldn't want to be a friend with any of mine. It all depends on the terms as to why you broke up. Maybe she contacts you because she doesn't want you to meet someone new and is still a bit possesive? I wonder how she would act if you told her you met someone. So eventually you will stop talking to her, when both of you meet new people.

AntiLove_SuperStar - i've adopted a new attitude towards myself - i contantly am thinking to myself "if he doesn't like what i have to offer, that's not my problem, he can leave" I know that sounded bitter, but that's not how it is. We love each other a lot. I am working towards how i can improve myself, and change my attitude.

ShySoul - i wouldn't give you the pleasure of knowing what i had in mind I am sorry to hear what happened Tigris, thanks for sharing your experince, it has opened my eyes.

We cant really afford a getaway at the moment unfortunately. That'd ok though, there are other things i have in mind

when i kiss him the way we used to, it is good. he doesn't pull away, we just kiss that way. it is good. but we just dont do it as often

I like the idea of spicing things up a bit. I really like that idea. i have a few ideas already about what to do, so i will give it a go!

We do live together. I guess there are a couple of stresses at the moment. i wouldnt have guessed that would have been a problem though. Our relationship is pretty good though, and no stresses with our relationship whatsoever. i'm guessing it's just different for each person though.

Thanks. We still love each other very much, if not more. I don't mind not kissing as much as we do express out love in other ways, i was just curious if this is a common thing to happen. I've wondered often about this. Thank you

ok so we have been seeing each other for over 2 years (comitted relationship) but we dont kiss as much as we used to. during lovemaking we kiss, but its not for long, and its not really deep kissing session,s its usually closed lips. I have to admit it doesnt feel as good as it used to. However we do kiss each other on the lips when the other goes out, or comes back etc. Is this a common thing to happen? less frequent and intense kissing as you move along in the relationship? Thanks.

You will get over it. After a relationship with my ex that lasted a year, we decided to have a "break" and come back 6 months down the track and try again. It was so hard i can tell you that, for about the first month. Then i got over it. 6 months down the track he called, wanting to get back together, but i wouldn't. I remembered how things were when we were together, and that if he loved me enough the first time around, he wouldn't have done what he did. So in my opinion, you need to let her go. If she doesn't want to get back together now, i wouldn't hold on. Try to forget the relationship you had. If she wan't you she will come back, but don't go chasing. Good luck with it all, and i hope you have the strength to move on.

Thank you so much guys. I have talked to him, poured out my heart and feelings. Didn't hold back on anything... and he appreciated it. I sent him a massively long email as i didnt want to wait until i got home that night. I'm glad i mentioned everything. I am going to the Dr tonight to talk to them to see how they can help me (i'm not taking drugs) i just want advice on some things i can do from a professionals perspective.

Thank you very much for your advice. I am not going to fake it anymore. I am going to continue to prolong the love making, stretching it out, maybe more foreplay before we get into it. We will see how it goes. Maybe we should try a few more positions than the usual. I will try something different tonight to see how it goes. Thanks again everyone for your replies.

I haven't told him that i cant because i dont want to hurt his feelings.... I'm one of those people that hate making others feel inadequate and insecure about themselves. I mean if i didn't fake it and let it go on forever, he would put himself down, thinking he is not good enough or useless. I would hate him to think that. You see eveything he does feels great, it's just not for long enough. and if we do take it slow, it wares him out, and i lose the feeling too. I have been on top, and love it, but that makes him come so fast and when i prolong it, the rhythm sort of goes... so should i tell him i wasn't being honest with him when i pretend to orgasm? or just dont fake it anymore? i have not been faking for a while, because i need to feel some love as well, instead of just giving to him.

I can orgasm every time i masturbate (which isn't very often) but when i have sex, i just can't orgasm. Oh i have been so close, but before i am about to orgasm, my BF comes. I enjoy sex a lot, but am annoyed that my BF comes before i can reach an orgasm. He isn't coming fast, it's just that it takes me a while to get to that point. I have tried stimulating myself while he is penetrating me, but again, it takes a while to get to that point. I sort of feel guilty because sometimes after we have had sex, i want to masturbate just so i can orgasm because i missed out. I also feel bad because my bf thinks i do orgasm, because i fake it every time. I'm starting to think i will never orgasm during sex. We have tried diff positions (some of witch i LOVE) but still he comes before me. Anyone else like this? Thanks