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Being the "other"? ----------------- I dated a girl for 5 weeks. I left the her because I had to move (for school reasons) to another city which is 6 hour driving. Well, during the first week she told me that she had a boyfriend in Spain. She is in the States for a 2 year internship. She been with his boyfriend for 4 years. I continued with her after the first week because I really did like her and I was going to move so I did not expect it to be a searious relationship. So, after I left her she told me that she wanted to still keep in touch with me. She told me that she really likes me and wants to keep our relationship. I felt the same way. Its been 2 week since I moved. We been talking and emailing each other everyday. She also told me that she keeps talking to her boyfriend in Spain. But that she is confused does not know how she feels. Her boyfriend is coming to visit her in July. She says that she is going to see how she feels when she sees him. I really don't know what to do? I don't what to get hurt. I really like her, sometimes I think she is going break up with his boyfriend and other times I think she is going to stay with me.

I dated a girl for 5 weeks. I left the her because I had to move (for school reasons) to another city which is 6 hour driving. Well, during the first week she told me that she had a boyfriend in Spain. She is in the States for a 2 year internship. She been with his boyfriend for 4 years. I continued with her after the first week because I really did like her and I was going to move so I did not expect it to be a searious relationship. So, after I left her she told me that she wanted to still keep in touch with me. She told me that she really likes me and wants to keep our relationship. I felt the same way. Its been 2 week since I moved. We been talking and emailing each other everyday. She also told me that she keeps talking to her boyfriend in Spain. But that she is confused does not know how she feels. Her boyfriend is coming to visit her in July. She says that she is going to see how she feels when she sees him. I really don't know what to do? I don't what to get hurt. I really like her, sometimes I think she is going break up with his boyfriend and another she is going to stay with me.

I just got an email from my ex. We went out for a year. She broke up with me. I tried to get her back after a month of NC I told her that I made some mistakes in our relationship and that I was sorry. Her reply was that we should try to get over each other and move on. After that I went on NC up to now. She sent me an email: "I just wanted to say hi and see how you are doing. If you are not ready to talk to me yet, I understand, and you don't have to write back until you are." I don't know if I should reply. I still miss her, but I also feel that I made a lot progress in getting over her. What do you guys think? if I do reply what should I say? any opinions are welcome.

I contacted my ex after 6wks of NC. I contacted to ask her for a second chance for our relationship, but she said "no". I feel depressed and sad again just like the first week. I did it to find out if there was hope. I think it was mistake that I contacted her. I feel bad and it has set me back on the progress that I made. I am so stupid. ](*,) I was moving on but I have to start again. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH I am so mad at my self. I just needed to vent .....

Well I got my answer. After she sent me an email I sent her one. I sent her an email regonizing my errors (took her for granted and I did not communicate with her at times) during our relationship. I told her how I went to couseling to reconize my errors. And that I see my mistakes as an opportunity to learn about my self and it will help in the future. Also that I still love her and miss her and if she would consider giving a second chance to our relationship. Her reply was "I don't want to give our relationship a second chance. I've gone to couseling as well and it helped me realize that some of our problems are not fixable and that I need to move on." Well, now I know that it is 100% over and I should move on. I thought I was ready to accept that its over, but can't help to feel depressed and sad . I thought I had some hope because it took her 3 days to reply my email and I thought she was thinking about it and that maybe we would get back together. Now I have to go pick up some of my staff from her house. She said that maybe we should not see each other because she thinks I will became emotinal and try to get her back and make a scene. So, she is going to leave my staff in her basement so I can go in with out seeing each other and pick my staff. I don't think I would have tried to get her back by becaming emotinal because I know better. But now I don't fell like going to her house because it will bring some memories and I don't feel well now. What should I do? ](*,)

Thanks to all for your input and advise. I needed and objective view. I think I am ready to accept the fact that is over but I just need to stop thinking in "what if". Now I will get an answer and move on.

Hi I broke no NC after 6wks. My gf of one year broke up with me. I feel it was my fault that caused the break up. I think my mistake was that I took her for granted. I broke NC because I needed to know if there was a chance at us getting back together. If not I will continue NC and move on I need to get rid of my hopes. I called 2days a go. I left a messege on her cell. I said that I was doing fine and I hope she is doing fine. I told her that I miss her and I still love her. She sent me an email yesterday. In which she basically says thanks for calling, and that she is sorry that I still miss her. And she had hoped I was over her. Then she said she has some of my staff (poster from school presentations and letters). She said she could drop them some where or I could pick it up. Well I plan to go to pick up my stuff. But I still don't feel like I got my answer. If she had not replied my messege then I would know that she does not want to do anything with me. The email she sent gives me no hopes but I still have then. How do you get rid of this hope? I feel like I want her to treat me bad! so I can have a reason to move on..... is that what need?

Well I was in a similar situation I met a new girl a few weeks after the break up. It made me feel great and I believed I would get over my ex soon. But this new girl did not want a serious realtionship and she told me that after the second dates When she told me that I kind of felt I got dumped again because I wanted to start a new relationship. I was hurt an it kind of set me back on the progress that I made to try to get over my ex. I would just suggest to you to take it slow. Don't expect that this new girl that you are interested in will result in a new relationship. Just be careful....and good luck...

Thank you the kind replies. We ended in good terms. She said that she still wanted to be friends. I told her that I needed time to heal before we became friends. I after a day from the break up I begged her not to leave me. But she said "no its over". So one of the reasons I want to call her is because I still have hope and before I lose this hope that we can still be together I want to try one last time. I want to lay my heart on the table. And if does not take it. I will not try again. I can't get over her because I still have hope. I can't seem to lose it. I also feel that I should call because I feel I made the mistakes that led to our break up. So that is why I should try to one last time. Thanks again to everybodies support....

Well my story is that my girlfriend of 1 year broke up with me 6wks ago . I feel that it was my fault that she broke up with me. I think I just took her for granted so she broke up with me. The first couple of weeks after the break up was horroble and I cryed a lot. But now I feel better but still I miss her. I tried to go on dates to take her of my mind. And I met this girl about two weeks ago we went out twice an it seemed that it was going to work, but yesterday on our second date she said that she is does not want a relationship because she is too busy with school and when she is done with school this semester she is not sure where she is going to end up. Plus we live to 2hr away from each other. I had my hopes up because I thought she really wanted to make it work b/c she kissed me on the first date. I just feel like I been dumped again and I cried a little yesterday night. This feeling of being dumped makes me thing about my ex again. I want brake NC with my ex. B/c I feel this guilt that I should try again to get back together (it was my fault why we broke up). What should I do? ](*,)

Hi everybody my girlfriend broke up with me 4 weeks ago. So to get over her I been trying to make new friends and going out. So last saturday I went to a neigborhood get together. I met this girl (who was visiting town and goes to school 2 hr away). We got along and talk for a while and after the neighborhood get together we went out to a club. We danced and while we were dancing she kissed me and I got cought by surprise. After the club I droped her and told her that I would call her and maybe go visit her because I will be driving next weekend to another place and that her school is on my way. After the day I met her I felt better and confident that I can get over my ex. But for some reason I got urge to call this girl and start talking to her so I called her twice. The first call she did not answer I left a messege saying that I will call her later then I called her later but I did not left a message. She called back but I did not answer becasue I was in the shower. She left a messege saying that she had a good on saturday and that I could call her later in the week because she will be busy the next couple of days. So I did not call her but I sent her a text message saying happy valentines day. she text me back saying thank you and wishes me the same. Well, my question is that am I acting too desperate? Is acting desperate a sign of not being ready to date? How you know when your ready to date? I want to be ready to start dating again but I am afraid that I am just desparte to have another gf. I also don't want act desperate because I will scare this girl away. So should I wait for her to call me or should I call her again in later in the week. Thanks for any opinions.

Its been two weeks of NC. Every day I think of her. There are some days I feel fine and others I feel down. Today I am depressed and I am afraid I won't find love and I will be depressed for years. I am also tempted to break NC by sending her a friendly V-day card. Just to show I care about her and I am thinking of her. Should I? I am not going to expect for her responce but I think it will make me feel better if I do it.

Hi Thanks for the advice, well what happen was that we went out for a year and we where planning in getting married this year. But I was in the middle of going back to school full time to change my career path. So I told her that I did not want to get married yet because I was not stable enough. And I think this backfired because that was one of the reasons she broke up with me. She told me that I was not stable enough and I am still immature. Also that she does not trust me because I did now want to get married with her. I am 24 and she is 26. She said she wants someone more mature. The day after she broke up with me I talked to her. I could not resist and I begged her to came back, but she said "no that its over". I know I should not have begged but I could not resist it. Now its been a week and half since we broke up. I have not called her. But I have this urges to call and tell her that I miss her and I love her. Since valentine's day is in 2 weeks should I call her? to at least see how she is doing?

My girlfriend of a year just broke up with a week ago. I feel horrible. I been crying everyday. I want to call her and beg her to come back to me but I think that it will make it worse. What should I do? should I call her?