hi, help please!
me (25) and my girlfriend(24) were going out for 3 and a half years and living together for 3 years, it was the most rewarding, fulfilling, loving, comforting time of my life she is my first REAL love and soulmate i believe. and she really and truly was besotted with me! we had a real deep down connection.
she is from another country and was living in my country the whole time we went out except for 4 months when she went home to study. she told me 4 months ago that she saw me more as a friend. i was devestated!! we had a little space for a couple of days, and i suggested we go away on holidays for 2 months as i believed it was our surroundings and work (we worked together for 2 years in the same bar) that were getting us down. so we went away to asia and had the most AMAZING time!! i totally fell deeper for her during this time. we spent 24 hours a day 7 days a week together for the 2 months. and got on great. didn't fight once..
3 weeks ago she started college in her country and it was decided that i would move over there. she told me crying a couple of days before she left that i should come straight away! or she didn't know if she could handle it. i said i'd save for a couple of months get my * * * * together and come over.we texted and talked all the time, she said she loved me so much it hurt, missed me, and that she had photos of me in her new room over her bed. she later told me she did this out of habit..
1 and a half weeks ago she broke up with me. she said she loved me but wasn't in love with me.she had been thinking about it for a while and fighting it. and that it's not right to be in a relationship if its not what she wants. basically she said she says she needs to be on her own. i found out she had kissed someone a couple of days after we broke up, and i just felt totally heartbroken!! how could she do this so soon? after 3 and a half years this is what its worth? i'm not mad at all im just sad! if she rang me now to say she wanted me to move to her i would go in a heartbeat! i love her so much. i havn't eaten or slept the whole time and i feel i can never get over this. I WANT HER BACK! DOES ANYONE THINK SHE WILL REALISE SHE HAS MADE A MISTAKE?
what i think really happened is that she was lonley and knew no one, so she partied kissed a guy and realised that she could be happy on her own?? i dunno? denial?