QTpie87

um I guess it's possible, but it's not heathy, eh expecailly starting so early in your life like this. I would tell an adult how you are feeling and about your self injury, you can get help. self distruction is not good, nor is it ok. If you continue to do it..it could get worse, most likely would, and it just wont help anything. if you are afraid to tell a parent or someone then just think about it like this, they might seem mad but they are only concernd and want to help. And if they do get mad for real then well O well you still need to get help and they need to get over it and try to start helping. I hope you find what you need. love Qtpie87

I think that there are just periods of your life where you feel like that. But if it continues like this I would say get yourself to the dr. to be checked for depression and get yourself involved in something that you enjoy. Like going to a dance place every weekend (that's what I do) or swim in the morning or at night, maybe start going to the gym. all those things help me. hope they can help you and you start to feel better soon. Qtpie87

O ur dating this guy, lucky lol. I just have a crush on someone, but im trying lol.

I thought I was the only one lol. No really i do that too, I get all happy and I am just like yay he's here I can talk to him lol. I guess I have the same problem. sorry I can't help.

I'll try that thanks!

the title says it all.... I have a pretty good idea of how to do it and what it is, but I was wondering if anyone here has done it or knows how to do it the right way. See I feel like I need something to calm myself down when I am angery or nervous or just thinking too much and need to relax you know, just clear my head and work things out. I feel like this might really help me do that, but am not really sure how to do it. can anyone give me some tips? thanks. Qtpie87

I really like it, I think it's sad though, it made me sad, but hey poems are suppost to make the reader feel an emotion, so good work. great poem, keep on writing. Qtpie87

well I was sitting with nothing to do just now when a ? popped up in my head and well it's really interesting me. ok I always see couples who are either totally different, or just alike. what's up with that??? I was thinking and I wouldn't want someoen who is totally the same as I am, that would be idk just weird. I think I would want someone who was a little different. I would want them to have similarities (like movies, music, humor, that sort of stuff) but not exactally the same as I am. what are your thoughts on this? would you agree or disagree/

Well I wounld say that he liked me but for the wrong reasons, when I was availbale to him for like half or more a year he wasn't interested and would mess with my emotions which lead to me not liking him anymore. Now that he knows I like someone else and im not paying the same attention to him he is being all jealous, but it's selfesh of him because he doens't even want me, he just wants to mess with my emotions. and he knows how I feel about it cause I stopped talkign to him for like 3 months one time and told him that that was the reason. Idk even if he did like me he wouldn't have a chance if hell froze over because he's a fake and Idk just not a good friend. I used to really like him as a friend and more and just a friend when I stopped liking him, and everyone including my little sister and my cousin warned me about him. No one liked him, they all saw right through him but I didn't. He is making me so sad, I think I should stop being his friend, but I don't like to hurt people and it will hurt him, but I don't want to be hurt anymore either. How could I stop being his friend and tell him why with minimum hurteg???

this is my experiance...I was able to do it with someone I cared about and was really honestly ready to do it with, I wasn't uncomfortable or anxious at all. Then when I didn't want to do it with this guy (he made me) I was uncomfortble and scared and he couldn't get it all the way in because I wanted him to stop so bad. So I think that if you don't want to do it, even if you do want to do it, and you are having second thoughts or are nervous then it could stop you from actually doing it doing it you know? that's just my opinion though. Qtpie87

well if you tell yourself that you can't cause you like it so much then you are right, you can't. Don't do that to yourself, you are telling yourself you can't do something and you know what that is so much worse then anyone saying it to you, you have more control and influence on yourself then you think. I used to think the same way about cutting, I was a huge cutter, that was my answer to everything that would go wrong, cutting. and I just had to stop letting the knife be my master and telling me when it was and wasn't ok to cut. I started controling when it was and wasn't and you know what I found out, it's never ok to cut or harm yourself. Now I didn't do this all on my own, I had to be put on several different anti-depressants to see which one worked and it took almost a year and a few months to find the one that worked, and to this day if I stop taking it it all goes down hill. so get some help, and just stop, when you do you will love yourself so much for it, it will give you a confidence boost big time. good luck and if you ever need to talk then just pm me. Qtpie87

It sounds like we both have really messed up bad beep head friends!!! He isn't a friend if he is doing that to you. You know why those people like you better cause evidently he is a Beep! and you aren't. ditch him, people with that kind of attitude and bad energy can only make your life worse. good luck. Qtpie87

Ok so I have this friend who I have been friends with for maybe a year now. I got to know him in school and we have kept contact. recently I have thought i should stop being friends with this guy cause he is selfesh and rrrrrr just consedid. Here's the thing, I used to like him (that ended a long time ago, lol) but he would play with my emotions a lot, he would act like he liked me and then he would be like I don't like you like that, then we would go to the movies and he would be all cuddly with me and then he would be like eh I don't like you like that again (and when I say cuddle I mean holding my hand, hugging me for a long time during movies and stuff, tickling all that jazz, it doesn't matter anymore cause I don't like him like that I like someone else). So now that I don't like him we are just friends but he tries to play those games with me still and when I don't play along he gets mad at me. I always have to go to see him, he can't ever come see me. And If I have plans the hell with them Id better change them or he'll get mad at me, but if he has plans then it's gotta be some other time. lately he calls me makes plans, I work my day around them to hang out and find a ride into town and he calls up and changes it. The last weekend I asked him if he wanted to go with my cousin and I to the dance factory ( I really didn't care if he went or not cause I was going to see sean not logan lol, but I was trying to be nice) so anyways he makes plans with me and says he'll be there, well we show up and he doesn't. He later the next mornign calls me at 7am wakes me up and says o sorry about last night I forgot all about you and your cousin. (what a beep!!!!) so I act like it's ok and nothing is wrong, tell him how I had a good time with this guy (sean) and got his # and he gets all pissed off and says he has to go. So just now like 2 hours ago he calls me and invites me to go to the dance factory and I say ok, and find a ride and work everything out. Then I call him back and let him know i'll be there and he goes O you know I'm not going anymore im too tired and well you should just understand that i've been working all day, so I said ok and hung up. But what does he mean I should understand, that creep is the one who called me and made the plans it's not like I was begging him to go, he wanted me to go. rrrrrrrr. anyways I just want to know others opinions on this fella, Is he not a very good friend, cause I don't think he is, but Idk, I think that im gonna call him and just tell him to butt out of my life. what do you think?

Well I did it, I finally made the call, well actually my cousin faked like she was me for the first 30 seconds or so. It was so funny she calls him and she's like hey whats up it's kayla, and he's all o hey and I think he was kidding but he goes I know like 13 kaylas which one is this (must have been a joke and she didn't get it) so she goes the one from the dance factory and highschool and he's all o the one with the weird cousin lol. she started cracking up so bad and had to hand the phone to me. So I was talking to him and i asked if he would be at the dance factory next weekend cause I wanted to see him and he said he would but his manager started yellign at him (he was at work) so he had to go, but he said he'd talk to me later so I guess I'll call tomorrow after college (freshmen orinentation). So My cousin had to go back to las V tonight and they stopped for dinner and it's so funny cause she calls me up and says that's where sean is working. I told her to go tell him I said He was way cute and to call me but she didn't catch him, she called me back and said he waved at her though so that's good I guess. Well anyways I just wanted to say thanks for helping me out with all the posts about this, I guess it really isn't that hard to just call someone up is it lol. thanks again. Qtpie87

yeah I have that same problem and It dosen't matter what side whoever is walking by is on. I somehow end up walking too close and pushing them over and over further and further until they snap, it's really funny sometimes, but It tends to get on mine and others nervs after a while. It's totally something I don't even notice until I touch sholders with someone or until they say something. If I think about walking normal it works, but who's gonna walk around 24-7 telling themselves how to walk right lol. your friend shouldn't freak out that bad that's kinda odd, but idk maybe like other posters have said something esle was wrong with them and anything would have ticked them off at the time. well see ya. Qtpie87

I wouldn't like playing music while having sex, Unless of course it was some romantic thing where there was like a jazz band playing out on the street and we just so happened to open the window to play it, that would be ok, other then that I like it to just be silent unless you are communicating with your partner.

As long as it's just for fun and self defense Then I would say it was hot, but if someone is always getting into fights and using it like that then I would have to say it's a magjor turn off I hate it when guys fight.

I would talk to him about it. be like I don't understand, don't act like your mad though cause that could freak him out, guys don't like to deal with pissed off girls lol. anyways yeah it sounds like he does care about you and doesn't really know how to handle things. id just talk to him. good luck. Qtpie87

IMo (mine was long distance though) I think when that happens it's cause the guy or girl whoever started thinkng it wasn't a good idea to do an on line thing, got a little scared, started thinking that it would be better to just be friends, and not try and hold a relationship on the web. That's what happened to me anyways. plus she could have met someone who isn't on the web you know? just my idea of what may have happened.

I was taking yazmin and I stopped taking it cause I was bleeding straight (just a little bit) all month. It wasn't like a normal period it was almost like spotting cause it would do it for a day, stop a few hours or so and start again. I don't think yazmin was a strong enough dose of birth control for me. but it worked for the first eh say 2 or 3 months unless I forgot a pill then It would mess me up really bad (my periods that is). it might be just cause you just started it, I did that the first month I was on it, It didn't work how it should and my mom said it was cause my body was still getting used to it. Is that a stronger birthcontrol? the reason I was taking yazmin was cause I didnt' want to gain any weight and it actually works as a water pill in helping you not gain weight. Did you gain weight on this one? or is it a good pill? im lookign into more birthcontrols and don't know which one to take lol. well anyways I'd give it another go around and if it messes up then go to the dr and talk about maybe another birthcontrol even another dose of the one you are taking now. good luck. Qtpie87

I think you should just be you and not try and act like you change too much (not try and act like you changed anything then what you really did). It's fine to still be like well im still working on this but don't say you have totally changed something you haven't yet, if you have then great. other then that im sure your personality is still the same right? I mean what attracted her to you in the first place did that part of you change, I would imagin not but Idk. Just be you. good luck. Qtpie87

well yeah I've been in that situation. But I finally realized if I really loved him that I'd let him do what makes him happy and just be happy for him and be his friend, I thought I loved him for a few years and now you know what I realize, I never did love him, at least not as much as i thought i did, and if I did love him at all I don't anymore. Im sorry i can't give advice other then maybe look at what happened to me and maybe think if that could work? good luck. Qtpie87

suicide isn't the answer. I was suicidal and went to the hospital for like 2 weeks and when i came out I realized how much worse everything could be and how thankful I should be for every moment of my life. It's maybe an idea for you to go to the hospital if you are feeling that suicidal you know? I honestly think maybe you feel like you are better off dead but you don't really want to die, if you did then you wouldn't have posted here looking for advice and help. Im glad you came here though, cause I think I and everyone else here would rather try as much as possible to help you then have you die. I hope you feel better soon, remember that nothing will stay bad forever unless you let it, met new people, the only way you fail is if you don't try at all. good luck. Qtpie87

that's perdy!

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