QTpie87

In my prays . I haven't even heard of that yet, wow. I will probably see it tonight on the news, that's when I see it, every night my pa watches it at the same time, if It weren't for that I wouldnt' know anything happening. lol. well I'll be praying.

Ok I am veagan, well tryign to be anyways, sometimes I cheat but not much and when I do I get sick so Im done cheating lol. ???-- ok how do you detox your body? I have been eating a lot of fruite and vegitables but what kind of fruites and veggies are the best for your body to cleans it? I would also like to tell everyone that if you interested in nutrition stuff like I am then you should so watch super size me. I watched it the other night and it's totally crazy. kinda funny too. If you watch it I can about garentee you you wont ever eat chicken nugets again.lol. thanks guys. Qtpie87

i hear ya

yeah I haven't given him my phone #. Idk maybe he might be nervous to call too, or maybe he just isnt' interested. Idk. should I like call him and be like should I not call you anymore, is this bugging you yatta yatta? or what? I'm lost, I really hope im not bugging him though, cause I just wanna hang out and get to know him a bit. but whatever. thanks guys. Qtpie87

Ok so I was talkign to my mom today about how I was nervous to call the guy I like and all, and how I should just ask him to go to the dance factory to hang out with me instead of just asking if he's going or not. When she looks at me and goes well kayla maybe you're bothering him, did that ever accure to you that maybe he doesnt' like you? and I was shocked she would say that. but it got me thinking a lot, and Im actually kinda hurt to think that that could be true. I've had his # and have only called him 3 times in the last month so I dont' know why that would be bothering him. He was the one who gave me the # so if he didnt' wanna have me call then he wouldn't have given it up right. And he wouldnt' have been coming up to me all night at the df talking right? She said that it should be obvious to him that I am interested if I have called three times, and that if he hasn't asked me to go on a date that he wasn't interested. Is that true guys, is that how you work? He works though, and the nights he hasn't come were because of that, so do you think he isn't interested and that im bugging him, or that my mother is right? idk but whatever the case now im even more hesitent to call him and a lot more shy and nervous about it. Qtpie87

yeah Im a veagen. no animal products, just a lot of veggies, fruite, and grain. so I think I eat healthy, actually that's part of why I started doing it. and I have been going to the gym a lot. I just need like idk, what I need lol. thanks though. Qtpie87

ok so this is sort of an add on to my last post but a little bit different, ok maybe not but anyways. I really thought about the replys I got on my last post and you're right, I shouldn't change for anyone but me, and I shouldn't try and change who i am completely. but heres the thing, I do want to change for me and not completley. I want to keep my sense of humor, but I want to get rid of frightening people with it. I want to stay energetic, but not so hyper it drives people up a wall. I want to continue to like the things I like, only be more feminen ( looks and the way I act). And the last thing I want to change is the fact that I am outgoign around people I am comfortable around but until then It's like Im a turtle in a shell who wont come out, expecially around sean (a guy I like), I want to be comfortable around anyone and everyone. I don't know where to start to make these changes...does anyone have any ideas to help. thanks. Qtpie87

So as I was sittign all alone tonight without a bf watching fireworks it donged on me. I don't have a bf because of how hyper and talkitive and just weird I am. Im not like a nerd or anything, im just weird, sense of humor wise that is. I look like a normal everyday girl but then when I open my mouth it's like all over, Im either too hyper, too out there, or too tom boyesh for guys. I'm the friend type and im sick of it. I want to keep my humor, but I also want to be different. I have this shy problem around a guy I really have a pretty big crush on and I can't be me cause I know it will freak him out, but I can't not be me or I get all nervous and shy. I need like so much help. I really wanna get this guy.Has anyone ever changed themselfs from a major tom boy hoples wreck into a girly guy getter? and if so how. please help, im at a loss.

I do have to agree with the last poster on that. It is much less hurtful in the long run even if not at the moment less hurtful to just be staight forward.

I would do the same thing to him. call him up and be like what's up, and say someone elses name, be like I had the greatest time last night and blah blah blah and just keep on talking until you feel you have put in your share and then stop and let him be like eh this is j not so and so. Then be like o im so sorry, so how are you, we still up for wednesday night. then if he says anythign mean about it be like well that's what you did to me the other night you should try to be more careful and think about others feeligns you know? he he. No actually that might be a little mean, but just an idea.

I'm a little confused right now. here's the story....So im sitting in my room by myself today, just thinking about like a few different and pretty major things that have happened and how it has changed me and my perspective on life. Then all the sudden I'm looking at my wall, when I start thinking I hate everything I have up there. And mind you I used to love it all, they were all posters of puppies and my guitar posters and just stuff that represents who I am or at least who I used to be. I get up and just start taking everything down. The whole time I kept thinking about how these things used to make me happy, but now for some odd reason they don't mean anything to me. I never look at them anymore, I never play my guitar anymore, I just don't care about it. I have this buliten board in my room that I have phone numbers that are important to me on it, it's kinda girly, it's got hearts all over it and it's in really girly colors, I felt like it was stupid and ugly, so I took this big black marker and colored all over it (and it's takign me for ever to finish). the whole time I was coloring over the hearts and other stuff I was thinking why am I doing this??? im not mad, Im not depressed, I just don't really care. I'm changing and I don't know what im changing into, it's happening so fast and I don't have any clue whats going on. Is there anyone here who has gone through this??? is there someone who can tell me what the heck is going on? thanks. Qtpie87

Ok I know what you mean about the male vs female thing. But I think that being a women is far far better then being a man. No offense to men, Im not saying it's not good to be a man, I love men, Im just saying I would rather be a women. My reason....Think about it, a lot of people think that this particular part of being a women sucks but we get to have kids. I know labor isn't a wonderful thing, but those nine months you are carring around your baby, you develop a bond with eachother that the father will never have. I don't know that might sound silly to some people but I just love babies so so much, they are so cute, and we get to stay and take care of them and do most of the rasing (that is if we are at home moms).

I think i'll try that gross and slightly funny thing. Lol, that made me start cracking up so bad when I read that, lmao. yeah um I think that will work. serioulsy, but I might look kinda silly cracking up lol. well thanks. O and ok yeah thanks for the reply on the open ended question question too. I'll use that then, sounds like a plan. thanks guys. Qtpie87

yes there will be side effects. See you might start to want more then just sex (like to date you know) and he might not want that, and then you will be like well we are having sex and all so why not and he might be like well I thought it was just a friends with benifits thing. I think you should only do that with someone you care about and cares about you (more then just friends). I say if he or you aren't willing to date the other one and only the other one then you shouldn't continue to have sex.

My little sister is doing this to this poor little girl and her mean boyfriend right now. the boy seems nice, but *beep* I mean as my mom has said to my sister if he is going behind his current gfs back like that and treating her like that then who says he wont do the same thing right back to the next girl you know????? I would get out of the situation and not push him into breaking up with this girl, karma will come right back. Move on and find someone who treats grils better then that. good luck. Qtpie87

Well I'd ask someone who works at the gym. And it might take longer then a month to see a difference. expecailly if you are only doing it once a week. are you trying to lose weight too, or just gain muscle cause also if you are trying to lose weight then the weight will come off before you can tell a difference. Usually people I know will do cardeo one day and then muscle work out the next day. It's not good to do it everyday (muscle) (cardeo is ok though) it will actually harm your mucles by breakign them up and putting stain on them. but you can do it more then once a week only make sure it's not two days in a row and you don't over do it.

Not that this is really importent but I was just wondering how old you were, it's totally ok if you don't wanna tell me. anyways to your Question, are you sure that she has no feelings for you and just hasn't said something cause she feels the same why you are feeling now?

Yes I've gone through that before and so has my cousin. It really all depends on who the guy is. I mean he could be a really nice guy, a really really nice guy, and no one would thinkt that because of who he is hanging out with, but even the people that he is hanging out with could be nice people. I smoke once in a while with friends, and I do other things too and Im not at all in a bad "girl" catagory, so he could just be Idk doing what he would call fun, or hanging out. On the other hand, if he is tryign to come off as a bad boy it might not be a good idea to get mixed up with him. "BUT" I wouldn't make any assumptions until you actually get to know him a little bit better. seriously I've thought someone was one way for years and then I get to know them and was totally wrong, also right about a few, but No one can really know until they really try to meet and hang out with the person some. I say if you like him just get to know him as friends frist and see if he is an ok person for your taste (whatever that may be) to hang out with. about the finding love thing, eh don't worry so much about that yet, you have forever for that. some people don't find it until they are 40 or 50 and some find it as early as 13, it all depends. good luck. Qtpie87

ok this may sound silly but what's an open ended question? Yeah I would like for him to do most of the talking at first, but that's my problem, see I dont' want to want him to do most of the talking, that makes me look shy which with most people im not. I dont' want to do all the talkign either, I just don't want to come off as a push over or anything you know? O and Derge don't worry about it, it doesn't matter that you are younger then me at all . Any advice and help from anyone is needed and thanks for helping. So hmmm guys are flattered when girls call them huh. well that's good, lol. thanks guys. Qtpie87

Ok so I have this problem and i really want to over come it. See I am believe it or not an outgoing person. But when it comes to this guy that I like I totally freeze and can't do anything, and the whole time I feel totally dumb. I have to sit and talk myself into the fact that it's ok to call him and I shouldn't be nervous, but then when I finally do call him, I get all nervous and the convo is short. I don't understand why I am acting/feeling like this. I want to be me, I want him to see my sense of humor and how fun I can be, but for some reason or another I can't overcome the nervous feeling. It's to the point where I could barf. I'm not like that with anyone but him, and Im tired of it. I want to get to know him, but how if im gonna be like this? If i can't over come this nervousness is there at least a way to hide that im so nervous so he wont know? please help. Qtpie87

I love it when a guy has a sense of humor like that, unless of corse he thinks he is totally hilarious and really isn't, that's annoying. I have a very out there sense of humor which people don't really get to know until I feel comfortable sharing it with them (because it's so out there). I have a friend I've known for idk like almost5 or 6 months and he still hasn't seen that part of me. I also have a huge crush on this guy I used to like him highschool who hasn't seen that side of me cause I get so nervous. If I were you I would be glad that you can openly share your sense of humor, it's a gift. Believe it or not there are people out there with literally NO sense of humor what so ever. such as my aunt. She has been in my family for almost 8 years and she is just now starting to laugh a little and she still gets a little nervous around us all when we are gettign a little goofy. She used to think that we were like horrible phycotic animal killers because we were telling jokes about things that have happened to my grandmother (she did Not mean to) and all laughed at her about it. If you are a person with a sense of humor, you go out on a date and that other person doesn't get you. I wouldn't go for them, not a second thought to it, people with out a sense of humor make me horribly nervous, they are too serious and it feels like they are judging you the whole time your on a date, who wants that? As for the 17 year old thing, I would aslo try and find someone older. Maybe try pickign someone up at a comedy club. well good luck. Qtpie87

talk to your school mates and find a few or even one to ask to go hang out. I made a huge mistake by only making a few friends in school cause I thought no one liked me, and I was so wrong, I just recently like 2 weeks ago found out. So don't make the same mistake, just go for it, you have nothing to lose unless you don't try at all. good luck and I hope you make lots of new friends and have tons of fun.

Hmmm ok I would go back this coming wednesday and if he isn't there go to the front dest and ask someone that works there about him. be like when does he usually come in?? and stuff like that. then try to catch him next time. good luck. Qtpie87

O well if that's the case then I guess my last reply is kinda pointless lol, sorry, hehe. well Im sorry you are so sad about it. Im not going to say what most people would say (you know the whole there's lots of other fish in the sea thing) cause who knows you might really like this girl and no one wants to be told that if they really like someone. I don't really know how to help in this situation. but I do want you to know that keepign yourself active and around others will help a little to keep your mind off of her. and I hope you feel better. love Qtpie87

how old are you? if you still live with your parents or a gardian then try and talk to them about how you feel, maybe they can help. If you live alone and are older then tell a close friend and talk to them about it. either way it wouldn't hurt to maybe start going to cousouling, and just venting, they can also diagnose you if you have depression. and hey if you don't want to have to take pills for depression then think of it this way...You don't have to take them forever, You can take them for like a year, talk to your dr. and they can help you slowly come off of them and feel normal, then again there are some people (like me) that have to constintly take them no matter what so it all depends. If you've never taken anti-depressants then just know that they aren't a happy pill and wont fix everything you are feeling, they don't make you happy when you would normaly be sad, all they do is help balance out a chemical in your brain to help you deal with things better and think more clearly. and sometimes (well a lot of the time) when you first start you will have to change anti-d meds and up or lower the dose to figure out what works. and it takes a few months to start to really show any signs of helping. well I hope you feel better soon. love Qtpie87