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  1. someguy69
    Well, you know, it is highly likely that she will change her tune if he changes his tune and starts to act like her. It's practically guaranteed that if she (even while dancing or hugging some other guy) sees him talking up another chick, that she'll come running over to stake her claim on him.
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    It all comes down to who profits. Holistic medicine doesn't make more profit if you drink regular soda, or water instead of diet-soda... but NutraSweet™ does profit if you drink diet soda. They own the patent on aspartame. A recent university study reportedly "disproved" that people suffer headaches from aspartame... which is pretty funny because I have always gotten headaches (and nausea) from diet pop, and I know of many other people that do as well. I would like to participate in such a study. I have a theory about artificial sweeteners... and the recent onset of products containing 1/3rd the sugar of the original, plus some artificial sweetener to compensate supports this: My theory is that when you consume a completely artificially sweetened product (especially one devoid of other caloric components -- so a "less than one calorie" soda), you brain is fooled (via the taste buds) into believing that you are about to receive about 150 calories of pure, ready to burn energy... when in fact you're receiving none. I'm not sure what exactly goes on in your brain in anticipation... perhaps the release of certain brain chemicals, perhaps the abandonment of the current conversion of stored fats into energy, but I figure what comes along is a deficit of energy due to a falsely expected surplus. This deficit (or possibly an abundance of unusable brain chemicals) may cause the resulting headache or nausea in some people.
  3. someguy69
    Bingo! The best advice is to mimic her behavior: If she doesn't seem to care -- then do the same. If she has lots of guy friends she hangs around with, hugs, kisses and dances with, then I suggest you befriend a girl or two to do the same with.
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    Aspartame can degrade into toxins that the body was not designed to eliminate properly. There is suspicion that this can lead to cancer and other problems. link removed link removed The makers of Nutrasweet™ refute these claims of course, but why take a chance with your health? They claim that aspartame is comprised of compounds found in natural food (in small amounts), but ignore the possibility that large quantities of these compounds on their own may cause disorder in the body. I'd suggest that if you need to cut back on sugar, that you cut out soda completely rather than switch to use of potentially toxic sweeteners.
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    Different things are important to different people. You're not going to gain too much from generalizations. It's better to focus on turn offs, than turn ons. Tastes vary, and guys can be attracted to a lot of different features... but distaste is very strong. Ask guys what turns them off, and you'll be better off
  6. someguy69
    If she thinks its okay for her to mess around with other people, then she shouldn't get mad at you for hanging out with another person.
  7. someguy69
    Maybe the boyfriend has difficulty with conflict, and being, "mean" to his ex?
  8. someguy69
    The absolute truth about your feelings was in question, not the "absolute truth" about the quality of the artwork.
  9. someguy69
    No, but if you were going to be truthful, you should have done it right away I've said this in other threads... the world operates on lies. People cannot handle the absolute truth.
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    I don't think they are negative... just the (sometimes brutal) truth. Only by accepting the truth can we progress in a positive direction. Fatalistic? I don't believe so. I agree it's very difficult to control your emotions, but it's when we perceive that things are not fair that we get upset. Double standards are definitely not fair. One should strive for fairness. Again, I'm trying to be direct and truthful. I don't see it as pessimism... just that this is how things really are, and we have to realize and accept the truth before we can improve the situation.
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    Hmm... makes me wonder how sugar-coated the story my gf told me is... Where she ended up making out for a few minutes with this friend of hers who had a crush on her. They had both been drinking, and he came onto her... they made out for a few minutes then she pushed him away and started crying. You probably shouldn't have told him about it. BTW... what was his reaction?
  12. someguy69
    I think the average is three times per week for long term relationships. If you go more than two weeks, I'd start to worry.
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    trust

    someguy69 replied to Clive's topic in Infidelity

    You have three options: 1) Tell her how much it bothers you that she gives so much attention to these other guys. If she really cares, she will make some compromises. If not, then either choose option two or option three. 2) Ignore it and just trust her. Big deal she talks to other guys. Maybe you should talk to other girls so she will know what it feels like. 3) Dump her and get a new girlfriend.
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    Double standards are immature. It's saying that you should be entitled to something the other person is not. They involve only negative emotion, and not rational intellect. "What's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander." If you can't learn to forgive without lots of therapy, then it's time to go back to kindergarden. Grow up.
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    Double standard? For me personally, finding out that my partner cheated on me when I was cheating would make me feel less guilty. If I was willing to cheat on my partner, I should be prepared to accept the fact that they could cheat on me too. Double standards are for immature people. These are good questions. First of all, don't confuse love with lust, sex or desire. While it is possible to love more than one person (in fact you do, you parents, your kids, your pets, your partner), devoting yourself to a primary partner is still desirable in modern society. Alternative lifestyle models exist -- open marriages, swinging, polyamorious relationships, etc, and some people find that this model works better for them. Much of this isn't anything new. Many ancient tribal communities had little or no concept of monogamy. The nuclear family is a product of modern society. Women certainly fantasize too. Just they usually fantasize about movie stars ... while men have lower standards, and fantasize more successfully when it is about something that is more likely to be possible.
  16. someguy69
    If you decided to stay with your boyfriend, then why are you pining away over another man? On top of that... why were you considering a relationship with someone else if you already had a boyfriend?
  17. someguy69
    Umm... I don't see how you can respect the fact that she had no problem having sex with other people --- but won't have sex with you. If that's not a red flag, I don't know what is.
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    You're missing the point. This has nothing to do with justification, disheartenment, disenchantment or revenge. This has to do with realization and acceptance of the truth. Modern society is built on lies, secrets and falsehoods. A nudge here, a wink there. Play the game by the "rules" and you'll succeed. People don't want the truth. They can't handle it. Ignorance is bliss. Hypocritically we try to instill certain values on others and our children. "Don't make the same mistakes I did." (Otherwise known as, "Do as I say, not as I do."). Here's the raw deal with monogamy: Most people like positive attention. Most people like to receive compliments. (You catch more flies with sugar than vinegar.) Flattering compliments can open doors for you. Flattering compliments can bring reciprocal attention. Most people like positive attention. Positive attention makes you feel attractive. Most people like to feel attractive. Feeling attractive makes people more welcome to attention. When flirting occurs, temptation may follow. Most people like sex. Most men are easily tempted. Neglected women crave attention. Most women easily feel neglected. Sexual flirting is not uncommon. Sexual flirting makes women feel wanted. Sexual flirting makes men want sex. See where I'm going with this? Let us add to it the fact that men are genetically geared towards procreation and spreading their seed far and wide. Intellectually most men will try to ensure they only procreate with their wife. Emotionally most men will desire to sleep with all sorts of women. Let us also add to it the fact that women are genetically geared towards strong urges to procreate with "prime genetic material" when they are ovulating. "Prime genetic material" means that young, suave prick with the six-pack, pecs, biceps and "tight tushie" that has a thing for desperate housewives. Hopeless situation? No. Not at all... but the current choice is pretty much either close your eyes, and be blissfully ignorant, realize it and be miserable about it, or accept it and be fully open and honest about it... and have the maturity to be able to control your emotions.
  19. someguy69
    It's a very good idea to use condoms when having anal sex. There is scientific evidence to show that male ejaculate contains immunosuppressant components. They exist for the purpose of weakening the defenses of the cervix so that sperm may pass through. The vagina has natural defenses to these immunosuppressant agents, but the rectum does not. Yes, if you are both monogamous and disease free, there is little risk if precautions are taken -- i.e. both of you should wash up afterwards, it is still a risky activity.
  20. someguy69
    Infidelity is a "dirty little secret" that occurs far often than most people admit. The rate of infidelity is higher than the divorce rate. With an infidelity rate of over 50% (in certain age groups), the odds that one partner is cheating is exceedingly high. If half of men cheat, and half of women cheat, then the odds are 50/50 that someone is a cheater. One out of two people. If you have two people (a couple), then you're nearly guaranteed to have one cheater. Do you realize what this means? It means if you're not the one cheating, then chances are extremely high that your partner is. For those of you who have "found out" that your partner is cheating, and are agonizing about it, etc... guess what? All those friends of yours who are telling you to "dump the guy" are in the same boat. Maybe they know, maybe they don't, maybe they're in denial... but they are likely in the same situation that you are. Here's the deal... If you partner came and confessed the cheating, there are three possible reasons why: 1. They were about to get caught. The likely case is that the other person was about to blow the cover. 2. They felt guilty and wanted to ease their conscience -- confess their sins so to speak. 3. They wanted to end the relationship, and hoped you'd break up with them over it. If the other person enlightens you to the situation, then it is likely that they want(ed) to get your partner all to themselves. No matter what they say -- "I don't want him... I just wanted to let you know what a jerk he was" -- they are hoping that you'll give up on the partner so that they can "win".
  21. someguy69
    I have one question -- what's good about this relationship? Sounds to me like a very unhealthy relationship at the moment.
  22. someguy69
    She's 28 or 29... plenty old enough to be familiar with her cycle (one would hope). She's also old enough to not get pregnant at the drop of a hat. She made a reference to which day of her cycle she was in, so her cycle must be somewhat regular, otherwise the day wouldn't matter Her question was if day 20 was a "safe time" of her cycle. Since she's in her late 20's, if her cycle is "normal", then she is within a safe time of her cycle.
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    Day 20 of your cycle is an unlikely time to get pregnant (unless you happened to ovulate a few days late). If you ovulated on day 14, it is unlikely to get pregnant on subsequent days (unless you happen to ovulate a second time -- which is technically possible). The ovum is only typically viable for about 12 hours (possibibly, but rarely up to 24 hours, though some medical texts incorrectly claim up to 48 hours). Sperm can live up to 72 hours, and this is why you can get pregnant if you have sex up to nearly three days before ovulation.
  24. someguy69
    Size can make a slight difference... the closer the sperm is to the cervix, the better. If your penis was like 3" long, and the woman's vagina was 5" long... the sperm may have to swim up those extra couple inches to the cervix. With a 5" penis you shouldn't have anything to worry about there. Chances of pregnancy are increased if the woman orgasms close to the same time the man ejaculates. (Studies have shown that the cervix will actually suck up some sperm into the uterus during orgasm). Also make sure that you are having sex during (or right before) her monthly ovulation period. This is usually 14 days after her period starts... which means you should have sex sometime between day 12 and day 15.
  25. someguy69
    You have your pefect chance to ask her anything you like --- reply privately to her livejournal under an account that she won't recognize I know how you feel though... nothing would bother me more than my partner sharing/doing things with others that she refuses to share/do with you.
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