Clive

Hi Liambilson, I understand what you mean, I will try to tell her about it, i am sure she might feel better talking to people in the same situation or from people that could give her a more understanding words about this situation. I might not be good enough to help her and so I think I would be very helpful to do so. Thanks and I hope she accepts to join or read this website. Regards, Clive

Hi again, I would like to thank Penny for understanding the situation and for giving me the best advice one could give, i appreciate that and would like to take the opportunity to thank you. As for scorpio and m4viz, thanks for your reply too but there is somethings I would like to tell you, Dear scorpio, what do you call a person that has no one and her boyfriend left her cause he lost interest in her and not just staying with her cause he is pittying her and that she is feeling down about the situation and that she might have no friends? What do you call that person when he/she is crying and feeling down in that situation? If you dont call him/her desperate, tell me the right word to use please i would surely appreciate to use the right words so not to hurt anybody or use the wrong word for his/her position. Thanks again. As for m4viz, I am not fu**ed up and watch your words before you talk to people you dont even know. Are you here to give your advice or youre here to offend people? I am not fu**ed up, I asked for help to do the right thing and not to hurt anybody and just dont accept that someone like you try to hurt anybody like me for example that is looking for help so not to hurt the person I am quitting with. Please think twice on what words you use with everybody. Either give a good advice or else go to offend yourself. Secondly, She didnt move out because of me but of her strict for nothing DAD. Secondly, she doesnt have friends because it was her choice, I always encoureged her to have friends so the reason that she has no friends its not my fault. She is not in a situation that she is needing me the most, she just doesnt want to end the relation because she know that she was wrong and she realised that she is goin to loose a great honest partner that she created arguments with for nothing and that now she regrets it. I hope that now you understand that all of you understand that I am calling her desperate because she is at the moment. Everyone can be desperate in some situations during his life including me and everybody else. And if you are here to give an advice, make sure you read the post properly and that you understand what the situation is before you do give an advice without the need of offending people and that goes for everybody who might have done such a mistake. I still thank all of you guys that have tried to give their advice. I wish you all the best in life in every kind of situation and thanks a lot especially to penny. Take care all of you and god bless you.

Hi everybody, I've been seeing this girl for a year and 2 months, we had some good times but we had conflicts many times too, lately we had a lot of arguments and everytime we argued lately, I tried to quit. Everytime I tried to quit, she told me that I was right (I was truly) and she promised me not to bring up that argument again. After some time, either the same argument comes up or a new stronger one does. Finally, I decided to quit and to never change my mind again. Now the problem lies here, She lives alone (although she has some anties and a grand mother that she can meet). She doesnt speak with her dad cause he is a strange man, but she still speaks with her mum. She left home right when we started seeing each other and her dad warned her that if she leaves from home she could never come back. Also she doesnt have nearly no friends at all. Now that we finished some week ago, I still kept seeing her cause she was too desperate but I kept my decision to not fall again into the relationship with her. She doesnt want to quit with me, its the first time that she is being dumped and she is feeling so bad that she also thought about seeing a doctor. This girl seems to be very negative and doesnt know how to start a new life. She doesnt want to be alone and she also said that its difficult for her to accept that we quit because of the future plans she had in mind and that she is goin to change for sure this time. Ok maybe she might really change but, I lost interest in her now. And I am sure I am never goin to be interested in her as a girlfriend at least. I just want to be her friend and nothing else. I just dont know what to do cause I dont like seeing her desperate and crying and all the other things that go with the desperate situation. I really would like to know what to do to make her accept the end of our relation. I thank you all for reading my topic and I would greatly appreciate any reply that would might help. Thanks everybody.

Actually if I do quit with her, she is kind of alone, she doesnt have close friends and she lives on her own because she had an argument with her father when we started seeing each other and she only have male co workers which she wouldnt be so close to (I assume). The argument between her and her dad has nothing to do with me. Although she has kind of 2 close aunties but not as close. I didn't tell her that she was immature in her ways of creating the problems. I argued with her about the problems she created and told her that she do not know how to handle some easy situations that caused the problems. In mind I have this kind of belief that she will do the same stupid mistakes in a different way. And that belief and all that happened is pushing me away from her. On the other side, I am finding it difficult to quit with her because I know how she feels and I know is hard even for me to stop seeing somebody that you have been seeing every single day for more than a year. I also dont like to see her crying or hurt and that is one of the most difficult reasons that are holding me back from quitting. I know that I can get out of it easier than her cause I have been in other quitting situations and so I know how to handle it better than her though she didnt have much relationships. You know what? Typing this email and looking deep into this situation to make it easy to explain to you also helped me see thing clearer now about this situation. But I still appreciate your replies. The problem types that we had are A lot of confidence with other guys especially in the beggining of our relation including dirty words between her and them, mostly in text messaging which has stopped after we argued a lot about it. Giving attention to other guys even when she is with me and that is how I know apart from the other situations were she told me what happened. She used to mention the type of guys she like, type of bodies and hair and a lot of other stuff she liked in another man. Also when she used to see another guy and mention the things he has that she likes (things that I dont have). So those descriptions made me feel like I am not really liked by her but she is with me because she thinks that I made a good man/dad for a family. I was kind of planning how to quit with her by telling her that I feel like I only love her as a friend and I dont feel like that she is nothing more than a friend to me. Which is the truth. And then keep on the quitting track. I hope everything will go ok then. Thanks for your time and interest I really appreciate it.

Hi Guys, I have been with this girlfriend for a year and two months approximately and during all this time we had some clashes like everybody else but, these clashes are very rare. What I mean by very rare is that she did things immaturaly. I forgived her many times, I still like being with her and I do love her and respect her and she does the same too. My problem is that after all those clashes we had, I feel pushed away from her and do not feel that pull towards her, and I am thinking that I am staying with her just because I got used to her and that when nothing is wrong everything seems to be fine. I know it maybe sound strange but I feel like I am waisting both of our times. The other problem is that when we argue like we did last saturday and it was a very hot argument, I told her that I dont want to see her again and I took her home and got back with my friends, after a while she found me in this bart with my friends and its like she accepted that I am with my friends now, but when my friends left, she was begging me to get back to her and to give her another chance. After begging me for a very long time and I got tired of those beggings I accepted to give her another chance and so we are back together now. She is trying the best to be with me, being nice and all the good things one can make to another. But as I said before, I dont feel that pull towards her after all that we've been trough. I think that though I am this situation I am blind to understand what is really going on and thought maybe someone of you could understand and help me with a reply on what you think about it. I thank you all and whish you all the best.

Hi guys, thanks to all of you, i felt really good just to read your replies, Ill do as you rold me cause it sounds the best way. I was so confused I counldnt decide alone. Thanks very much

My girlfriend works with boys in a kitchen in a hotel, when I'm with her she mentions good looking guys sometimes and guys that look different than me, when Im out with her, she looks at guys that she realize that they are interested in her, when a guy smiles at her she goes to talk to him (to see if she konws him) I dont like this behavior and i talked to her, she says that there is nothing wrong, she says that she would never cheat on me and that I have to trust her. I dont like the fact that she knows a lot of guys. If a guy friend is interested in her, she doesnt blow him off, she stays friend with him. If a guy dirty talk to her she laughs. What the hell should I do? Clive