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A great number of people need to take medication daily for all sorts of reasons, and many would die without taking their pills. Consider yourself lucky that your life does not depend on a regular daily dose of medication. We are a pill-taking society, and a very strong majority of the population makes regular use of psychoactive drugs to regulate their consciousness (caffeine in coffee, alcohol in beer and wine, nicotine in cigarettes) and plenty of people come to depend on antidepressants to regulate their mood, or stimulants (i.e. ritalin) to help them concentrate. Of course most people do not need drugs to function, they only use drugs to help them function better in our modern society. As for your personal case, only you and your doctor best know your case history. When you go off your meds, it can take quite a while (months) before symptoms fully return. The serious issue is that every full psychotic relapse into psychosis can result in a permanent worsening of your condition.

It most certainly sounds like he put something in your drink, especially combined with the other aspects of your story -- him getting you alone with him, him taking you to a different club, him giving you lots of drinks, him not commenting on your "blacking out", and especially the bruises. It's called "date rape", and unfortunately has become far too common. What he may have put into your drink could be a number of different things, but most likely GHB (as it is very common right now), buy maybe also possibly Rohypnol (although less common these days). Ketamine is also sometimes used. Please visit this webpage: link removed

Unless you are super-rich, and feel the need to maintain a certain social status while hob-nobbing at the country-club, there's absolutely no reason to spend that kind of money on a piece of jewelry. I would advise against even visiting stores that carry rings in that price range. You'd do far better at a store where a $5,000 ring was one of their more expensive rather than one of their cheapest.

Everyone has doubts, but the fact that you have been together for ten years is already quite a commitment. If you don't know by now whether you "like" your partner, then you will never know. To waste ten years of your life "not knowing", is pretty sad... but to waste ten years of someone else's life is just plain horrible. Does your partner know how you feel? Maybe you two need some professional relationship counselling.

You really can't "win" someone over and not take the chance that whatever reasons they weren't fully committed to you in the first place no longer exist. If he really wants you back, he has to "win" you back. How do you know that the reasons you broke up with your fiancee aren't similar to the reasons that he broke up with you three years ago? When you talk to him, you should first address the reasons for the break-up, and make sure that all those things are resolved (or going to be resolved).

What exactly is the reason you stopped taking your medication? If it was prescribed by you for your doctor, then perhaps you should consult your doctor before you stop taking it. It is not uncommon for people with schizophrenia to stop taking their medication because they don't feel like they need it any more, but it is a very bad idea as it can lead to a relapse of a psychotic episode.

With single-parentism becoming more and more common, I was curious how many people out there have found that their single-parent is a little too dependent on them? Wherein with the "traditional" nuclear family, the children depend on the parents, with the single-parent family, it appears that the parent may come to depend on the child(ren). In my case, I am a 34 year old man, and my mother (56) has a son living at home (age 13, from a different father). I had moved back home when I was 20 for a few years to help my mother out with raising him, and moved back out for a few years, then moved back home for a few years to help out again, and then moved out again for several years now. My mother expects me to visit every week (I live about 45 min away), and nags at me to move back home again so that we can all "help each other out". When my grandparents died, my mother did not want to sell their house (which is two+ hours away from the city), and convinced me to buy out her sister's half of the house, and that it would be a good income/investment to rent it out. This has essentially resulted in a situation whereby I pay all the bills, mortgage, taxes, etc, and she takes half the rents, often leaving me in the red as far as having enough of the rental income to cover all the expenses, but saying that she is in dire need of it to cover her bills for the house in the city... which is another story... The house in the city where she and my brother lives was previously a bungalow with a very small mortgage left on it which she ended up putting a second-story backsplit on it, nearly tripling its size, and resulting in quite a large mortgage. She claims that she did it with the intention that I could move into part of it and have enough space for my own family. Now she houses a constant rotation of about half a dozen English-Second-Language students who pay room and board to provide income to pay for this large mortgage. I estimate that so many students would provide a decent income, but she always has an excuse to why she needs to take half the rent from the house in the country, leaving the deficit for me to pay out of my own pocket. She also bemoans how expensive and how much work feeding all these students is, and how little help my brother is to her, and how she wishes I would move home and help her out with all of this. Does this sort of situation sound familiar to anyone? Does anyone have some sort of experience and advice for this sort of scenario?

Interestingly enough it's mostly been female friends of mine who have recommended me to email her and make myself unavailable for a few days (giving her time to cool down) rather than drop the bomb face to face. (Most likely because they know I am likely to give into crying and begging).

I somehow doubt that would be a good idea... but I will point her to link removed. Maybe that will do some good.

Also note that she lives with her brother, so I run the risk of him being there (or coming home) and me being double teamed.

Sounds tortuous. Should said letter end with something like we need some time apart, or goodbye?

Haven't done anything yet, so feel free to add more tidbits of advice. I have a lot of things to get off my chest, but I am really bad at doing them face to face. It is because I cannot express myself properly face to face that I am in this situation. Is it really so bad to express myself in email?

Umm... where did you get that number? I seem to recall it is more like 30% than 90%. Over 90% of the women I have been with have experienced orgasm through vaginal penetration leading to the big "O", and some have experienced G-spot orgasms. The clitoris is only one genital location that can lead to orgasm, and being so close to the vagina, it can't help but get a little stimulation during intercourse.

I'd say that most men would prefer to have an exceptionally large penis -- the bigger the better, as men also read women's magazines (i.e. Cosmo) which claim that no penis is too big... enough relaxing, lubrication and coaxing can get any penis inside. You never read warnings in Cosmo about how once you get used to a 10" penis, a 5" penis will never feel the same. "The vagina shrinks and stretches to accommodate any size penis" -- yeah right. Ask a "size queen" how satisfied she is by a small penis... "Is it in yet?" Actually, according to a recent survey, only 45% of men responded that they would like a larger penis while 85% of women said that they were "very satisfied" with their partners penis size. (Only 6% of women said their partner's penis was smaller than average). The average penis ranges between 5 and 7 inches (with a more exacting average around 5.5-6"), which means that 85% of women are happy with a penis in this range.

I love her, but my feelings have waned quite a bit over the past year. The only thing she is passionate about is her wedding. I'm not sure. Maybe for a few months. No... I don't, but I have to. Either I cancel the ring order today, or put the order through. If I cancel it, I will have to follow through with an explanation. She's already discussing wedding plans and such. What's the best way to handle this? Should I email her saying I need some time apart to think? Or should I go straight to a break-up letter?

Yes, but she wants to get married next year, and is already starting to plan. There's little time left. I don't know if I felt like she was "the one" or not. I was seeing how things were going. It takes time to really get to know a person. Pressure and manipulation is a good way to ensure your partner goes elsewhere.

I've told her already that her pressuring is a real problem for me, but it of little use, as then she switched her tactic to a quasi-"not caring", but certainly making a point of saying she didn't care quite often, and being in a continuous bad mood (blamed on other things, like her back hurts). She claims that she knows what she wants -- a future with me -- and that my stalling hurts her and makes her unhappy... makes her feel that I am rejecting her. My concerns are that she will continue to use the insecurity from our rift a year ago to continuously ask for me to prove myself to her. First it was writing a letter to my ex (saying some kinda mean things), next it was breaking off all contact at work with my ex (unless work related), then it was returning all the jewelry my ex had given me, then it she wanted me to burn every gift my ex had ever given me (I drew the line there, and she backed off for a bit)... then came the pressure for the ring, and I've been concerned that it would only be another step in a long line of proving myself. I also have concerns of her relationship with her brother. They've lived together for over ten years, and are best friends. He takes advantage of her financially, and she gets emotional support from him. Whenever I go to there place and we go out together, I always feel like a third wheel and I've had a me vs. them experience a couple of times. Recently her and I were discussing future plans for purchasing land to build a house on, and she later told me that he wanted to buy in on it so that he could build himself a little cottage for his days off and holidays. She said that it would help pay for the property, but I know that he owes her several thousand dollars, so I question his contribution in exchange for him always being around.

Not having a ring yet didn't prevent the pressure for a wedding date. In fact she brought up the wedding date thing about a year and a half ago.

If things were the way they were a year and a half or so ago, I might say yes... things seemed to have potential, but it was early to tell. The doubts started last fall, and ramped up strongly over the past year. Several of her friends have been getting engaged, married, having kids, and apparently pressure has been coming at her from her friends and family... and hence to me.

We did have some couples counselling back in January (was part of the deal for staying together, and I had no problem with it). She was quite happy with it as long as the counsellors (we each had one separately, then started in with some combined sessions) were telling her what a bastard I was, and how I needed to make things up to her, but she changed her tune pretty quickly once we moved onto combined issues, and refused to allow the engagement urgency to be a topic. The jeweler friend of her brother is all set to go. I've delayed things until Monday (something that is likely to cause some friction over the weekend), but can only see things becoming very ugly if I don't order the ring asap.

I know why. I just don't feel comfortable with it, and this past year of pushiness and pressure has made me seriously question whether or not I could be happy married to her. Things have soured, and I'm having second thoughts.

We discussed the situation a few months ago... according to her, her "action" of not ending the relationship was essentially a proposal to me, and my "inaction" of not buying her a ring is essentially my "rejecting" her "proposal", and the more time that goes by, the worse things get. (Also, her brother, who she has lived with for the past ten years, backs her up 100% on this issue). My side of things is that after the big rift in our relationship last year, we needed to work on the relationship itself, rather than expect a ring to bandage it up... and her constant badgering was only making me think, "if she's this pushy about a ring, what's next after the ring? Where does it stop?" I think if I'm going to end things, they have to be soon (i.e. Monday) because Christmas is coming and she's already started her shopping (for me and my family), and if I don't give her a ring before the Christmas party, she's certainly going to be expecting it by Christmas (last Christmas was already hell on earth because she didn't get one then).

I've posted about this issue several months ago, and things have come down to the crunch, and I need to make a decision by monday. Here's the overview [*]I've been in a relationship with a girl for the past 2 1/2 years (she's 27, I'm 33) [*]When we first started dating, I was still with my previous girlfriend for the first year and a half (whom I work with) [*]Things came to the point where I had to fess up and come clean [*]I became exclusive with my (new) girlfriend, and stopped seeing my old girlfriend [*]My (new) girlfriend changed noticeably, and became extremely pushy towards getting engaged and making wedding plans So for the past year my girlfriend has been pressuring me constantly (several times per week) about when I was going to give her a ring, and made certain that every special occasion was miserable because she didn't have a ring yet. So a week ago I went to see a jeweler (whom she suggested) to get a quote for making a ring I had designed. When I told my girlfriend that he said it would take him four or five weeks to make, she got upset that it wouldn't be ready in time to wear to my staff Christmas party (to show off to my ex-gf). So then she goes and gives all the design info to her brother (who she lives with) who has a jeweler friend who says he can have it done in three weeks (well in time for the party). The jeweler needs to know by Monday what quality of diamond I want to place the order to make the ring. Monday is the day of reckoning. Over the past year I have gotten very turned off the relationship by the pressure from my girlfriend (and indirectly from her brother and family) and have really questioned whether I really want a future with her or not. I don't feel that a person should be pushed, nagged or manipulated into something as serious as marriage. So come monday... do I order the ring, or tell her goodbye?

Just for the record, a "happy ending" or "full release" massage is hardly what you would call "intimate". You're on a massage table, the woman has been massaging and whacking guys off all day long... do you really think there's any real intimacy going on? Real intimacy requires a real connection between two people, feelings and emotions. Just a note not to corrupt the word intimate/intimacy.

You don't realize, the muslim religion tends to be far more oppressive of women than christianity (and don't doubt for a moment that most sects of christianity are oppressive to women).