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I can see spending a whole afternoon in bed... various sorts of foreplay... kissing... oral sex... eating food... several rounds of intercourse, and depending on the guy he may only cum once, or may cum a few times... but during a three hour period I'd expect the woman to climax at least a few times.

This is pretty much exactly what is happening... except that the to be married friends are putting on the pressure of joining their state of engagement bliss... and that if I haven't proposed yet, then I'm not serious about her. It's amazing how inconsiderate some people can be.

Seems it's only the people who wouldn't like that who get offered it Wait until you're 24+ ... I bet you'll have an eye for the young ladies too.

My girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for about 22 months now, and the pressure to get engaged and married has been reaching a critical point. It seem that several (eight or so) of her friends have gotten engaged within the past few months and are getting married within the next year. These friends, as well as some of her family have been pressuring her as to when we are getting married. They tell her things like I must not be too serious if I haven't proposed yet. She's really biting at the bit now, and I must admit this constant pressure is certainly not having the desired effect on me. We are also going through some relationship difficulties at the moment for which we are going through couple's counseling. I don't want to get engaged until we work through some of our problems. She doesn't seem to understand my desire to make sure our relationship has a real future before making wedding plans. Any advise?

What would you suggest?

We've talked about it a bit, but she doesn't seem to like to discuss it all that much. What I've deduced so far is: 1. Given the "open air choice" she'd rather have no threesomes than have any sort of threesome. (but) 2. If an exhibitionist experience (having another guy watch us and masturbate himself) turned into a MFM threesome, then "whatever happens, happens". (Basically she doesn't want to set any rules or restrictions on herself, and also does not want to express any open desires for how far she'd like things to go). 3. If she only had to choose between a MFM threesome, an FMF threesome or experiencing both (MFM one time and FMF another time --- I think, or maybe she meant a MFMF situation, I wasn't 100% sure), she chose the "both" option. She had expressed in the past that if I "really really had to have a threesome (fmf)" she would oblige me... but I don't want to have said experience grudgingly given.

Some History I have (big surprise) an all time fantasy of a FMF threesome that no girlfriend has ever fulfilled. I've discussed this with my current girlfriend, and at first (like well over a year ago) she seemed open the possibility, then as time went on she became less and less enthused by the concept even though she's curious about being with another woman. I found out through various talks with her that she has the somewhat common woman's fantasy of being with two men at the same time -- though she's not sure if she really wants to try it for real, or just keep it as a fantasy only. She also has another fantasy about being watched having sex, and through prodding I deduced that she would likely prefer the watcher to be another guy... and from further prodding she said something to the effect of, "whatever happens... happens". Which I took to mean that if it turned into a mfm threesome... that was all good. (She refused to elaborate, but I also seemed to note that she had a concern that having a mfm threesome would make her feel obligated to have a fmf threesome in the future). She made it clear that she could certainly live without having a mfm threesome. As for myself, I'm not certain. I feel that if she won't have one with me, I may desire to seek one out on my own outside the relationship without her. I have the desire to fulfill any fantasy she has, and I have a willing participant (not that finding another guy to participate in any level of sexual involvement with your girlfriend is all that difficult). The Question If we go ahead an fulfill her fantasy... and say it involves some interaction with my buddy... what if she decides that she doesn't want to reciprocate the favor with a future fmf threesome (of similar interaction)? Could it be grounds for ending the relationship?

Some people are polyamorious. Some happily married loving couples are swingers. Why impose your vision of "normal"?

Just to let you know... its not limited to guys. My gf seems to get into a lot of situations that should would go insane with jealousy if I was in the same situation -- and what's weird is that never crosses her mind unless I bring it up. What is extra-extra weird is that she claims to be abnormally empathetic. How can she be both highly empathetic, yet maintain double-standard situations? It's as if she is lacking a "fairness gene".

This was two years ago and its still plaguing the relationship? Have you tried some sort of counseling? First of all you should realize that you are not alone. The infidelity rate is well over 50%... which means for the majority of people, either your partner has had an affair and you know about it, or your partner has had an affair and you don't know about it. Most people prefer not to know about it... you do know about it, so consider yourself lucky in that you should be able to help your boyfriend stay clean... and letting him know that he can be honest with you if he feels tempted without being chastised. Unfortunately for most, ignorance is bliss.

Feelings of jealousy are natural, especially since your relationship is new, and this sort of experience is new. What I recommend is for you guys to have a FMF threesome, so that you get to experience seeing him have sex with another woman, then the two of you can properly discuss your feelings. This will also show him that you are offering him the same level of trust and commitment that he has shown you.