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She pushed for a timeline and a date, and she has her own timeline agenda (married by 28, kids by 30, yadda yadda yadda) that she seems bound and determined to stick to. How can I make it clear to her that she needs to back off a bit, without giving me any sort of ultimatum, so that I have some breathing space, without her thinking that I'm not taking the relationship seriously?

Unreasonably long or short? I personally feel that two years is not a very long time... especially if you don't live together. This is around the time when true colours start to shine through.

Well, truthfully events of the past several months have made me get cold feet. About ten months ago, we were discussing marriage and suddenly it was something that required a date (this would be after going out for about 15 months). We tossed around the idea, and by Christmas she was heartbroken that she didn't receive an engagement ring (for Christmas), blaming me for getting her hopes up by telling her that (after her nagging me as to what I was getting her) her Christmas present was a big surprise. Stupid me didn't know that "big surprise" means "engagement ring". In January we went on a cruise (with her family and her friends), and she came accross this ring she liked in a jewelry shop on the boat, and all of a sudden everyone in the store was telling me it was a nice ring and I should get it for her (family, strangers, salespeople, etc). This event ruined our trip. I told her the ring wasn't what I had in mind, but she thought it was the most perfect ring she ever saw. I told her that I wanted to design the ring myself... and she told me she would never like another ring the same... and in the meantime someone else ended up buying it. She feels the relationship isn't moving forward fast enough, and I think two years is hardly a long time to have known each other.

It was promised due to her pushing for a timeline. We'll have been together two years this sunday. She takes promises very seriously, but I have a track record of breaking promises I have been badgered into. Well, she's under a lot of pressure from friends and family... and it ends up coming back to me as nagging. I felt far more certain we'd be getting engaged and married before all this nagging came along. Now that it has become more of a right here, right now, hurry up issue, I'm having a lot of second thoughts.

If you tell your girlfriend that, "we'll definitely be engaged within the next six months", and at the end of those six months, you explain that you've been extremely busy at work, and have been working on a special unique custom ring design, and show her the drawings (for her approval), and tell her that you're going to get the ring made now that you have the design done... and she tells you that you lied, because you said that you'd be engaged by now, and you don't even have a ring, just a drawing... Is she right... you're a liar? Is getting bogged down with work essentially "lying"? Opinions?

For masturbation to be successful, you need to be somewhat aroused.

Long hair to me is as long or longer than mine That means it should be at least half way down your back or more depending on how curly/wavy it is. As for eyelashes... I don't think I have a preference.

There is no real accurate visual test of virginity. The hymen can be broken by non-sexual activity.

It's not your place to reveal the cheating -- all you are doing is clearing your own conscience, which is a selfish act. Yes, you can confront the cheater, and yes, you can threaten to expose them, but it is up to the cheater to confess -- and even then it is likely not a good idea unless there is no other choice (i.e. exposure is inevitable). Nobody wants to find out that their partner was unfaithful... it only leads to uncertainty and doubt. If the cheating is a persistent problem, then maybe she needs to be aware of it, but if it has stopped, it is best left in the past.

I don't think you have anything to be concerned about. You have no reason to let yourself be convinced that you must only prefer either the company of men or of women. There is nothing wrong with liking both (especially if you are female).

First of all, human sexuality is a spectrum ranging from totally heterosexual to completely homosexual. You don't have to be one or the other. While hanging out with people with different sexual preferences may open your mind to new things, it certainly won't change who you are. Just because you experiment with your sexuality doesn't suddenly mean that you deserve a homosexual (or even bisexual) label. A sudden switch just doesn't happen. "Coming out of the closet" is just that -- someone who was hiding their homosexuality and gave up on pretending to be heterosexual when they really weren't. Unfortunately there has been much diametric imposition on human sexuality throughout history that is hard to overcome. People who are not completely heterosexual have become outcasted as homosexual, and as these outcasts banded together and opposed those who outcast them, they in turn promoted full allegiance to their side, making bisexuals outcasts from both sides. Pure heterosexuality and pure homosexuality are a product of society, and one should not be subject to being labeled as "gay", "straight" or "bisexual". We are simply sexual beings. (Of course it would be my personal preference for men to be straight, and women to be bisexual... *grin*)

Do you work every day of the week? Even working 50 hours per week there must be some free time. This is a very bad sign.

Unfortunately you've been put into a very difficult position. It's likely best that you find a way to deal with your anger and resentment without worsening the situation. If you need to get involved, you can choose either to confront this woman, or to confront your father. For all you know, your father may have already told your mother about this situation, and they (for obvious reasons) decided to keep it quiet.

Maybe he's confusing your groans of pain for moans of pleasure? If not, then yes... it isn't quite normal or good. I know that if I confuse my girlfriends moans of pleasure for groans of pain, that I will lose my erection as if I have some sort of anti-pain switch.

If you want it to work, these are the key elements: 1) Time. It's going to take time, so you have to be patient with yourself. 2) Acceptance. Hiding your feelings away will only result in them coming back to haunt you later, or in some other form (i.e. stress related illnesses). You have to accept what happened, and consciously choose to lower the importance of what happened in relation to other parts of your relationship. 3) True forgiveness. You may say that you've forgiven him, but have you really? You have to make a conscious effort to remind yourself that you have forgiven him, to let it go, and to move on. I suggest you try some positive affimation techniques, or NLP. All you have to do is tell yourself what you want to accomplish.

All women are different and have different oral preferences. The range of technique preference for woman is far wider than that for men. The best technique (and this applies to men and women alike) is to start out slow and teasingly (don't go straight for the extra-sensitive areas), gradually increasing speed and pressure. Again, different women have different preferences, so you will have to gage her response.

So what she smiled at you guys... what's the big deal? This sounds like the female version of one of those guys who starts fights with guys he thinks is looking at his girlfriend. Such unwarranted jealousy is very immature.

Once you're in a long term committed relationship, and you've both been tested for STDs, it's time to switch condoms for the pill. Condoms are not nearly as effective as the pill, and they can break. Plus, there's much less intimacy and sensation with a condom. But if you're having casual sex, stick to condoms. BTW, they come in different sizes, so you shouldn't have trouble finding a size that fits. Regular condom (190mm x 52mm) Trojan Magnum (205mm X 54mm) LifeStyles XL (190mm x 65/54mm) Trojan Large (214mm x 60/54mm) Trojan Magnum XL (205mm x 65/54mm) Durex XXL (235mm x 60mm) Plus "TheyFit" condoms come in 55 different sizes. P.S. "Lambskin" condoms do not protect against STDs.

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You should only consider a threesome if you are secure in your relationship, and prepared to deal with any feelings of jealousy or perceived inadequacy should the arise.

First of all, your girlfriend was a fully willing participant, so she has to be able to accept and deal with the consequences. She has no right to be upset with you if the threesome was her idea. As a willing participant yourself, you're going to have to help her deal with her feelings of jealousy, and fear that your friend had alterior motives, or wants you for herself, or is better in bed, etc, etc. As for your friend, she's going to have to back you up and make it clear to your girlfriend that she has no intention of stealing you away from her.

I can't believe you fell for any of these lies. First of all, if she had woken up in a strange place with a strange man having sex with her, she should have told you right away, or at the VERY least have ensured that she didn't get pregnant. The reason she would get upset and "belittle" you when she got home the next day after screwing her boyfriend behind your back is to compensate for the guilt she was feeling -- make herself feel better by belittling you. Justifying her actions by pointing out your faults. You need to get out of this relationship ASAP. Her girlfriend is telling you the truth.

I think it would be cheaper to buy one that to build your own... That is unless you build a temporary one out of a large vegetable... like a squash or melon... i.e. cut a hole into it and away you go...

Some women have a stronger odor than others. I've noticed a slight trend for fairer haired women to have a milder odor, and darker haired women to have a stronger odor. This isn't a rule... just a trend. Hygiene, the material of her undergarments, what food she tends to eat (or ate that day), what she had to drink, as well as where she is in her monthly cycle can all have an influence on the odor. In general, I find that most women have a very pleasant odor, but I have come accross a few that have an overpoweringly strong odor that isn't exactly pleasant. It is possible that it is just a new and unusual odor to you

First of all, let me state that alcohol, tobacco, caffeine, chocolate, aspirin, Tylenol, cough syrup, decongestants and antihistamines are all drugs. When you drink a cup of coffee, can of pop, eat a chocolate bar, drink a beer, glass of wine or cup of tea, you are consuming a drug. Yes, some drugs are illegal -- but most of these drugs have only become illegal in the past 80 years. The youngest parts of the Christian Bible are at least several hundred years old (not counting minor revisions). Many believe that the Bible makes reference to the use of cannabis in a positive light, and there is certainly nothing in the Bible condemning the use of a particular substance. Sobriety is certainly a desirable state of mind to be in most of the time, but all animals (humans included) have a natural drive to change their mental state be it through physical, mental, spiritual or chemical means. Substance abuse is a different story. Substance abuse is characterized by a pattern of continued pathological use of a medication or non-medically indicated drug or toxin, that results in repeated adverse social consequences related to drug use, such as failure to meet work, family, or school obligations, interpersonal conflicts, or legal problems. If your use of any substance (legal or otherwise) does not result in negative consequences in your life, then I don't see where the problem is.