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I need some advice. My ex broke up with me over 3 years ago. We both went our separate ways and I ended up getting engaged but then breaking that off a few months ago, because I didnt feel like I was in love. I do know that I was truly in love with my ex boyfriend though, just the way we cared about eachother and talked to eachother it was so natural. So anyways I broke off my engagement and then decided i wanted to get a hold of my ex after not talking to him for over a year and a half. So I wrote him a letter and he wrote me back right away saying that he wanted to see me and talk. And he was seeing this one girl well they since then have broken it off. Yet they are still "talking" and Im sure everyone knows what that means, but he says when he comes back from college for his thanksgiving break he wants to get together and see what happens, if we should date or not. But right now I feel like he is stringing me a long. Dont you think that if he cared he would stop talking to this other girl, if he really loved me and really wanted me back that he would care enough to give her up. I need to know how I can talk to him about letting her go before he trys to get things going with us. The hardest part is he has no friends at school besides her (now his school is only 45 minutes away) so hes pretty lonely from what I understand. What is the best thing I can do to really get his attention to really win him over.

Oh its actually a psychologist that I am seeing. No medication

Well my name is on the mortgage. We have almost had the house for a year, because yes there is a penalty. It is the house of my dreams too, which really sucks. I am going to help him pay the mortgage even when I move out, because I really dont want to have him not make the payments and both of our credit scores effected by it. It is really hard to say goodbye to someone you thought you would marry. I just feel like I lost myself completely and you really summed it up for me RAYKAY I feel like I am walking on eggshells with the standards I have to live up to for him to be happy.

Thats exactly what I have been thinking all along. Its really hard because my parents went to marriatal counseling, so I always have thought it is the best way to work things out. You have a mediator to help both sides understand. Also about the "prime" of the relationship. Yes we should be on cloud 9, we arent even married yet and we are having so many issues. The next step is moving out and how to break up, because I really dont see it working. And I really dont feel like myself when I am with him....

He actually does not believe in counseling. He says if you are having issues you should work them out at home, and not let anyone know your personal business. Me on the other hand, I am actually going to see my psychologist in 2 weeks. I cant wait....

Hi Everyone.... So I need a little bit of advice. I used to post on this site when I was having issues with my ex. But those day "were" long gone until recently. I met the man of my dreams, or atleast I hoped he was the man of my dreams. We dated for about 6 months until he asked me to marry him. If I look back at the situation I tell myself that I was probably just feeling on the rebound from my ex. Well here is where I really need some advice. I feel like my fiance and I just dont get a long anymore. We are constantly fighting and its mainly because he is so anal about everything. It makes me feel like I cant do anything right for this man. He used to be so easy going and we used to not step on eachothers toes, but not I am so lazy and I dont want to take care of house chores at all because I feel like I cant do any of it the right way. Oh yeah to complicate things we bought a huge house and moved in together this January. So I need advice, we are on the outs right now about eachother I think it is coming to an end but I just dont know how to break it off and I dont know how to move out of this house. Please help.... I am welcome to any suggestions. Thanks