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  1. justsweetgirl
    "Is it normal to freak out before an engagement?" I don't think the two of you are engaged. He has not agreed to anything. On the contrary, he is taking some time because you want to get married and he is not ready. What's the rush? I think he is waiting for marriage not to be your top priority, so he can relax. If the relationship is as amazing as you say, why not keep the boyfriend and shelve the marriage plans for a while. Good luck.
  2. justsweetgirl
    Ask her for her number, if you don't already have it. Chances are, if she's agreed to go out with you, she would like to get to know more about you.
  3. justsweetgirl
    If you've been told about her frequent fights with her bf, chances are, she has one. I would remain friends. There are plenty of single women out there.
  4. justsweetgirl
    Since she has a boyfriend, be content being friends. Give her lifts home, talk to her - but not until four am. Do not try for more, as you will probably be disappointed in the long run. As for her taking a job in the same pub, perhaps she wanted to be near you. She can miss you without necessarily wanting to get back together. Treat her as you would any other coworker. Be pleasant, but don't bend over backwards. Don't put your life on hold. Hang with friends, date other women when you feel ready. Good luck.
  5. justsweetgirl
    You say you could have been a much better boyfriend, you're "just not good at that sort of thing." Maybe that contributed to the breakup. Perhaps you can choose to do better in the future? Also, I see a pattern regarding couples breaking up and continuing to talk, even though one of them is already seeing someone new. Breaking up is so painful. The only way to get through it or have a chance to get back together is to have no contact while you both figure out what you want. It's understandable to feel you can't live without her. But the fact is, you had a life before you met her. Keep busy with friends and family. Take up old hobbies and interests you shelved while you were dating. Read all the other posts about heartache and what people are doing to help themselves and realize you are by no means alone. Good luck.
  6. justsweetgirl
    Very sweet. I don't see why he wouldn't like all of those.
  7. justsweetgirl
    I am so sorry for your pain. Your bf sounds very confused. I agree that the best thing would be no contact. You have no idea if he is still talking to this other girl. Or if he has worked out his personal problems - although my guess would be no. Someone this inconsistent is not good for you. He has to get his act together or he'll keep doing this to you. How many times can you go through this? He says he knew since January that he was no longer in love with you, yet he didn't think it was important enough to let you know. You are not the problem. And you can't solve his. I wish you the best.
  8. justsweetgirl
    It sounds to me as though the problems you had when the two of you decided to end things are still a concern to him. Do you know what they are? Has either of you done anything to change them? I think he misses you but is afraid to try again.
  9. justsweetgirl
    If your gf is always finding excuses to break up with you, it sounds as though you may want to reconsider being with her. You need a solid relationship with someone who will be there for you in good times and bad. If you think things were amazing, and she thinks you have no morals, there seems to be a break in communication. Are you sure the two of you want the same things? Do you have different expectations? Sometimes, when one person habitually complains or finds excuses, the problem is something bigger. You two need to have a talk about how you both view your relationship and its strengths and weaknesses and where you would like to go from here. Good luck.
  10. justsweetgirl
    It is normal to ask someone you are interested in if they feel the same way. How else will you know if there is a chance at more? I don't think you did anything wrong. However, as she is shy, inexperienced, and from another country with not a lot of friends here, I would move slowly. Continue to be a gentleman. Be patient. Good luck.
  11. justsweetgirl
    Yes, I have felt the same way. Wanting what was, not what is. I think it is mature of you to be able to see the distinction. You have had some time and gotten some clarity. There was a time when I would have given a year of my life to have one more day with my ex. But that was two years ago and now I am in a new relationship, a better one all around. I wish you the best.
  12. justsweetgirl
    It sounds like you both need more time to figure out what you want and if it includes the other person.
  13. justsweetgirl
    She decided she wanted you to say the two of you were just friends when you started taking martial arts classes. Does she have an interest in someone in the class?
  14. justsweetgirl
    When I was younger, I thought I liked a certain type. But then I realized I was excluding some potentially great people. Some of the most attractive people have lost my interest once they opened their mouths. And if you are anything like me, the more beautiful the person is on the inside, the more beautiful they become on the outside.
  15. justsweetgirl
    If I have to keep calling someone and get no replies, I start to question their interest. And I stop calling. Either he'll call or he won't. If you doesn't, he wasn't worth your time to begin with.
  16. justsweetgirl
    I would forget about wanting to prove you are the "better woman." And, instead, find a better man. You did nothing wrong. He was unfaithful. He loves you, but not "100%"? Gee, how reassuring and romantic. Please, do not have any contact with him until you can see him for what he really is. He is stringing you along and you are worth more than that. Stay away. I know it is hard, but it isn't impossible. And it will get better. Believe me, I know. You deserve to be respected and appreciated by someone who wants you and only you. If this is indeed a contest, than he surely is the loser. Good luck.
  17. justsweetgirl
    It's okay to spice things up in the bedroom, as long as you both consent. Always doing the same thing the same way gets boring after a while.
  18. justsweetgirl
    If I knew a girl I liked was already seeing someone else, I would have kept my feelings to myself. There are plenty of single women out there. It cost you a friendship.
  19. justsweetgirl
    I wouldn't go any further than friendship with a married woman. She needed a shoulder to cry on, and you were there for her. But this can only lead to a broken heart for you. She is inconsistent with her emails, calls, whatever because she is trying to do this behind her husband's back. Secrets are eventually discovered. Do you really want some man threatening you? Love is a glorious and beautiful feeling that should be shouted from the highest mountain tops, not buried in a basement. Find someone available. Good luck.
  20. justsweetgirl
    You are not ready to be friends with your ex. I know you think something is better than nothing, but how will you feel when she starts talking about the new guy in her life? This is a painful position to be in. I think you should have no contact until you feel stronger.
  21. justsweetgirl
    He ended it, didn't tell you why and speaks freely of meeting/dating other women knowing how hurtful this is to you. I would leave his things outside the front door. Even if it killed me, I would not answer the door or speak with him at this point. I wouldn't even be home, I would go to a friend's. He has all the power and you have none. You are not eating or sleeping. You need to have no contact until you are stronger. Being this dependent on anyone is lethal. I wish you well.
  22. justsweetgirl
    I agree with JT. I stayed friends with an ex while in a new relationship and it is the biggest mistake I ever made. Your ex has a bf who may get jealous. And you really don't want to hear about him, do you?
  23. justsweetgirl
    I tried being friends with my ex while in a new, healthy relationship. I thought we had stuff to resolve. Whatever I thought I needed from my ex pales in comparison to what I have with my girlfriend. I didn't take her feelings into account. I thought, since I didn't want to get back together with my ex, it was harmless. It wasn't. I hurt my wonderful girlfriend and all but killed my relationship. I was selfish and inconsiderate. You shouldn't always do what you want, just because you want to. You have to remember your priorities.
  24. justsweetgirl
    When someone has been in an unhealthy relationship,it's not over just because they leave it. There are scars. There is a script running in your guy's head, telling him that you will react the way his ex did. That is why he is inconsistent. His trust has been eroded. He starts to open up, then gets afraid and withdraws. It's not you, It's not personal. That doesn't mean it doesn't hurt, however. Be patient and, in time, he will see you are a different person he deserves to get to know, and not his ex. He has to reprogram his brain to allow vulnerability in. It doesn't happen overnight.
  25. justsweetgirl
    cool
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