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I was like that too. My boyfriend told me he loves me after 10 months of dating, and I started wondering if I love him at all! It took a 2 month break (him off to basics) between us for me to realize that I really do love him. You know, only you can answer if you love him. When I doubted my feelings, this guy told me that I don't love him, because if I do I'll know. Turns out not to be true. For some people who aren't used to the idea of love, it's actually kind of hard to grasp. I'd say... start with thinking if you can live your life with him... or if you're alone with him for 5 hours not doing anything (maybe you're each reading your own book), will it still be blissful? If you see his face, do you just smile? That's some questions I asked myself when I wondered. I don't think all of them applied to me, and they definitely won't apply to everyone. ... I guess, just start by thinking about what's love to you?

yes, she can get pregnant even if you never cum. some condoms have spermicides, but don't count of those spermicides to work too well. if your condom package doesn't specifically say "spermicide" on it, no, it doesn't have spermicides.

Well.. my father's a dentist, so he told me a little bit about bad breaths... I dont' know all though, so you should probably complain to a dentist and see if they can do anything about it. Bad breath, according to what I know, can be caused by a dirty tongue, diseased gum, cavity, and not using the restroom everyday. I think you can fix it by ... using the restroom everyday... somehow... eat more vegetables, floss and brush after every meal. (idealy you're supposed to brush 4 times a day, for 10 min each. After breakfast, lunch, dinner, before you sleep). Mouth wash, in my dad's opinion, does absolutely nothing for you except make you feel better. You should brush your tongue at least once a week. (just using the toothbrush with toothpaste is enough.) Maybe you should check to see if you're brushing your teeth correctly or using floss correctly. When you're brushing your teeth, you're not focusing on the flat part, you're really trying to brush the part between your gum and your teeth, and between your teeth... for better instructions, see your dentist. =(

yeah... personally, i wouldn't send a guy anything before i get something first... Guys... usually, they'll like you more if they have to put in a lot of effort to secure you first. Some people call it playing hard to get, I think it's just being nice to yourself.

My roommate has 3 0's and she's 21, beautiful with a great personality! ^_~ Well, she's idealistic, so she's waiting for the perfect man to drop by her door. I think she'll get it. She's a great person.

Well, alchohol does effect people's judgements. =/ I guess you should ask him to cut down on the amount he drinks, but I would think it's safe to trust him as long as he's not drinking that much. here's my story with bf drinking... My boyfriend loves alchohol while I hate it, so sometimes he drinks at bars with his co-workers and I'm never with him. Well, this one night he called me at 12am sounding all worried and he "just needed to hear [my] voice." I made fun of him because he never does that. 2 hours later he called again and said he called because he flirted with a bunch of cute girls while he was really drunk and almost went home with them. =/ ... =/ so... on the bright side, your bf's not flirting to the point he almost went home with that girl right? ^^; definitely keep him away from so much alchohol though.

Don't ever use the pull out method as birth control, unless if you think having a baby isn't a big deal anyways. Pull out method, like Shinobie said, is very unsafe, and you still have a fairly high chance of getting your girlfriend pregnant. =/ If you love her, get some condoms... Oh, and once again, just like how you shouldn't trust the pull out method, for Condoms to really work, you need to use it all the way, which means, once you erect you have to put the condom on before your penis touches her vaginal area. You really don't want to risk getting any precum into her vagina, and... yes, definitely get a pregnancy test, if pull out method is what you have been using for birth control.

I think sex before 18 is a bit young. =/ Under 15 is just ... =/ Well, I think I'm pretty early too, way early than I expected myself to have sex... so in some ways I don't think I can say anything about early sex. I lost my viginity 2 months ago to my boyfriend, but we're getting engaged as soon as he comes back to me.

I GUESS UNION SQUARE!

Yeah, I was the most suicidal around 12~14 too. I have a story behind all that though. I had some crisis that resulted in post traumatic stress disorder, had an amnesia about those 2 years... slowly being fixed by wonderful boyfriend who works better than a counselor! =/ ^^: Eh, hang in there? It does get better. You know, up until not too long ago I find absolutely no reason to be alive. The only reason I stopped killing myself was becase there wasn't a reason to kill myself either. Nothing really mattered anymore, so I couldn't care less either way. lol... and over summer I was still diagnosed as suicidal, despite me knowing I'm improving rapidly. Well, finding no meaning in life and being depressed is generally a bad thing. It's probably good if you find a counselor. I personally don't think they are very helpful, but at least they're someone to vent to from time to time. I was very hurt too, to the point that if anyone calls me when I didn't notice I'll scream in fear, if someone touches me I'll get nauseous... what I did was I started protecting myself by not letting anyone close, acted happy so no one will suspect anything, never disclosing what I'm actually feeling and how I really can't give a damn if the people around me died or not... ...you said you get hurt easily too. =/ I don't know, I guess what I'm trying to say is at least get an online friend whom you can dump easily and won't have any contact with you or your friends irl. =/ Friends are important, you might not be able to trust them, but they kept me busy. ... ... ... *sigh* >_

Actually... 2 months isn't that long is it? I'm abnormal, I know, but my periods skips from 1 mo to 4 mo. After the last time BF and I had sex, it took another 2 months for my period to come, and totally freaked him out. Maybe you can factor in if her period's "normal" to begin with. >_

I just thought I should point out that if someone's pregnant, but get a very short period or randomly have blood coming out of her, both her and her family should be very careful, since that's the first sign of a miscarriage. If that happens, make sure you calm the woman down, don't tell her about the possible miscarriage if possible, make sure she eats regularly, and no more running, jumping, or having fun... only walking and sitting. =/ There's a lot more I don't know. I just know the above helps a bit.

i read it too, and e-mailed it to my friends. =/

you don't read product labels... right? If you read yoru Nyquil bottle, it'll tell you it's the single product underage people can get that contained massive amount of alchohol. In dorm we used to joke about how easily freshmen students can be drunk, as long as they're willing to endure the disgusting taste of Nyquil.

you know, I had an acne problem too... and proactiv didn't work on me either. In fact, it caused me more acne than I ever had before I used the product. Well, so I searched and searched, and this is what worked for me. 1. a good face wash. Good means you can use anything you want, but ones that'll clean your pores or scrub your face "a little" is better, and wash your face at least twice a day with warm water, leaving the face wash on for about a minute. (Note: Don't over wash your face: no more than 4 times.) (try to avoid alpha hydroxy -- I think that's how it's spelled. It "renews" your skin by stripping the top layer, in the long run it'll make you age a lot faster than you'll want to.) (A mild face cleaner that won't hurt your face or strip layers and layers of oil off your face if you wash your face often will be nice.) 2. I used the Neutrogena Blackhead Eliminating Astringent . It has Glycolic Acid that Proactiv also used in their green toner that pushes excessive oil or dirt off your face before you apply medicine cream, but it is a lot cheaper and last for longer. (I also like the feel of it.) (about 6 dollars and will last 2~3 months) (It also has Salicylic Acid in it, and I know Salicylic Acid is a chemical that's also being used to treat acne... usually for those who are sensitive to Benzoyl Peroxide, so I figured I'd combine them.) 3. Then I bought over the counter "Nature's Cure." They have products for female and male, and these little tablets that help you balance your hormones... it works really well with acne on your cheeks, but not so much with the ones on your forehead or other places. Still, the cream is just 5% benzoyl peroxide, just like every other over the counter cream you can get. It'll last you about a month if you apply twice a day. (around 9~12 dollars) 4. I work in a really oily environment (food court. >_ 5. ALWAYS use a sunscreen, and SPF 30 will last for about 7 hours. Having all that acidic product + benzoyl peroxide on your face makes you very sun-not friendly. If you don't want to get burned, get skin cancer, then use a sunscreen. My favorite right now is Eucerin's Extra Protective Moisture Lotion. I can't stand the greesy sunscreens or the smelly coppertones. This one seems to work quite well... It's still a little bit greesy and smells a little, but I can stand it, and I doubt I have the financial ability to upgrade to Japanese products. =) Japanese make good sunscreens... I know one that's awesome anyways. I'm still trying to find better sunscreens at relatively low cost. Well, then I made sure I go to bed before 12am, and wake up before 9am, drank lots of water, and kept my butt off my chair and walked around for 30 min a day, cut down on meat products, ate more fish and vegetables...sometimes I forget though. Sleeping early is kind of hard for me. ** I'm sure I don't have to tell you this, but don't touch your acnes. Don't rub them, don't squeeze them, don't press on them. ^^: That's what worked for me, but everyone have different skin types and not everyone have the same amount of money to throw onto beauty products. >_ My skin's a bit oily, so I'm not sure all of that above will dry out your skin or not. Acne around 12~23 are mostly caused by hormone imbalances. I know for most people the terrible skin crisis ends when they're about 23 years old... =) ^^;;; Can you tell I'm obsessed with my skin? P.S. I use a moisturizer nightly before I sleep. I do this to make sure my face won't get dried out with all the acid I put on my face, and the rest of my body won't dry up or crack because I don't pay as much attention to them. I usually go with cheap ones that don't clog pores and smell nice. (Cheap ones because I can go through a large bottle of Baby Oil in 2 months.) I don't know if you're a guy or a girl... but if you're a girl, make up causes acnes. Ever heard those companies that claim their make up won't stop your skin from breathing? They're lying. IMO, if you keep your skin smooth, moisturized, balanced, toned, etc, then you won't need make up to help you look beautiful. If you must apply make up, then try to apply as little as possble. Your skin needs to breathe to be beautiful. *****Sorry, I have to add that you should treat your acne after finding out what causes it. The list above targets excessive oil and dirt and clogged pores. It might not work so well if you have normal - dry skin that's sensitive. Also, KEEP YOUR HAIR OUT OF YOUR FACE!

she definitely blew things out of proportion, and you have all the right in the world to be upset. =/ I don't think she's in the position to voice an opinion over you picking up your sister. That's your sister after all, why shouldn't you be nice to your sister? As for the "changing your mind = you're a liar" thing, I don't quite get why some people think that way. A friend of mine's always complaining to me, "Dang, Jason's such a flake! He said we'd hang out today and he just told me he can't come. It's all his fault that I have no plans tonight. He's such a liar." My reaction... don't count on me to ever say we'll hang out.

sometimes girls who think they might be pregnant get morning sickness too. it's all psychological effect. if it makes you feel any better, some men get bigger stomachs, morning sickness, unbalanced hormones when their wives or girlfriends are pregnant. I think it's something like... they worry about their wives and girlfriends so much signs of pregnancy show on them too.

sperm will live for 3~7 days. "EGG" will live for 24 hours.

Sounds harsh, but please get out of that relationship ASAP. I doubt he loves you, and he definitely doesn't care for you as a person. Next sounds real harsh, but... to him, you can probably make a better girlfriend if you're a doll that moves but has no soul. >_

well, you're only 17. some of us have one night stands, some of use sleep with people for fun, some of us have buddies with benefits, and some of us wait, some of us wait until marriage, some of us date to have sex... no one's dirtier or cleaner, as long as you play it responsibly and don't get STDs, you're fine. If you want to argue that girls who have sex a month after they start dating are dirty, then you have to think that men who have sex a month after they start dating are equally dirty. I think Iono's just asking you to not have double standards.

been on a date with: can't keep track. kissed: (including family members) 1 dated: 1

I support homosexuals + bisexual + transexuals all the way, however, if I see two girls making out or imagine myself and another girl making out I still get grossed out (it's fine with two guys making out though... weirdness). Well... however, I love beautiful and attractive women!!! I like really pale but super smooth skin, tall nose, big eyes, skinny long legs, and cup B or cup C breasts, skinny waists... XDDD I can name so many of the qualities I like in women! I love looking at pictures of women, naked or not, but as ayekasong said, it's more of "Dang, I want to be like that!" or "WHOA, I need that pair of legs on me!!!" than "I want to have sex with her." with guys though...*drool*

jealousy doesn't translate into love. I have a lot of guy friends, and when they do get girlfriends I always get jealoused. =/ ALWAYS. It's just because I'm not used to seeing them caring about other girls more than they care about me. Simple selfishness. =/ Usually, at times like this I lay back and tell myself, "DUH, she's his girlfriend! Of course he's nicer to her!" =/ Maybe you should try and identify if you're just jealoused because you're not used to it, or jealoused because you can't stand him liking someone else... or jealoused because you actually like him as someone you want as a boyfriend. =/

i don't know if my friend counts too.. but I have this friend who's always in and out of relationships. She'd find a "perfect" and amazing guy with no flaws what-so-ever, date him for 2 weeks, beginning to see everything wrong in him, they get tired of each other, fight, etc, and they'll break up, a week later, guess what, she found another perfect and amazing guy... and the cycle continues. =( She wants to marry every single one of her past boyfriends too, she's ready for engagement 1 week into all of her relationships.

Even if you've had have sex before you can suddenly not be ready one day and he should still respect you. =/ It's really your body, and you get to decide whether you want to have sex with him or when you want to have sex with him. If your boyfriend ever dumps you over not having sex with him, trust me, better men are out there! =/ I've done worse... like calling stop right before he's trying to enter... what can I say, I just suddenly don't feel like it anymore. =/ It's okay, they're big boys and they can deal with it. I think there's also something scary about men who are obsessed with having sex... =/ idealy bf and i both want sex every single day... hopefully multiple times... but if we don't get that, that's fine too. o_O I know before I decided to have sex with him he wanted to do it for... an entire year. =/ He never even mentioned it though. He never said a word about sex until one day I randomly said, "I think sex isn't a big deal." = 8) I really believe guys should be nice to girls... ^^; especially with sex. We're under a lot more pressure from society than them. Men who had a lot of experience are players while women with lots of experiences are "easy" (since I can't use the s word), so... "Gee, don't rush us!"