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  1. cassiana
    I don't know if he loved me but I do know that I made him happier than he had been in years. He has been fairly sad since. We were emailing until he left. He hasn't emailed me while he has been away though hes been sending emails to other people. We didn't stop emailing on bad terms but the fact that we are not emailing now means something. Either he wants rid of me or he doesn't know what he wants in relation to me. I wonder if the silence is to make him think. I wonder if he wants to be employed before he contacts me?
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    My ex dumped me ten months ago. Since then hes finished his exams and his apprenticeship and is back packing (aged 33) alone around australia until april. On a scale of one to ten how lonely do you think he will be by the end?
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    I have seen this trend where an ex dumps the other and is completely cold. Then after behaving coldly, not a card or an email they come back. They could stay away for months even years. I even read in a local paper about a man who cancelled the day before the wedding and came back seven months later. The question I have is what do they think about in between. What process do they go through? How can one blow hot, cold then hot again?
  4. cassiana
    What are the chances of reconciling with an ex who got cold feet or broke up for reasons outside the relationship. I recently got confirmation of how much m ex cared for me up until the week of the breakup and after. What are the odds he will come back when he gets his new job and gets his life in order? Can a man walk away and stay away from a relationship that, by his own admission was "absolutely great"?
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    The other thing I found put is that he started subscribing to a girly mag the day after he met me. Then he asked me out a couple of weeks later.
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    I have found out that my ex is travelling alone in Australia and New Zealand for 2 months. He is a LIttle lonely. He left one place because it was all married couples. The next place was all girls that were way too young and theres far too much noise and drinking for his liking. He is emailing only his sisters and he subscribes to one girly mag. Maybe I wont seem so bad after all.
  7. cassiana
    You could be becoming a coeliac, diabetic or lactose intolerant. You could be getting a virus. You should be getting professional medical attention. Go now.
  8. cassiana
    Well i suppose it is funny if you were expecting me to have cut the brakes on his car or skinned his cat. I did find out some stuff though. I spent the rest of the day expecting a piano to fall on me or some other form of godly smiting. Did you commit and love madness crimes yourself? I dare to ask.
  9. cassiana
    I know what its like to be stuck on someone. its terrible. As for the door open. Even if you entertain hope you must realise you are either a couple or not. You are not and you must assume that you never will be. You will drive yourself nuts analysing everything. That's what I do and its exhausting and depressing. Yes its hard not to.
  10. cassiana
    Sorry to hear about your breakup. That moment when its over can only be understood by those who feel it. I'm sorry. It's so hard. I hope you have good support around you. You need to keeep busy and drag yourself through it. Best of luck.
  11. cassiana
    Well I wasn't really looking for advice more just reassurance that I wasn't nuts. This is going to sound stupid. My ex and I broke up last april. He was starting a course and was under stress. I did no contact for 4 months then emailed him when he was back finishing his apprenticeship. We emailed back and forth until december. He had planned to travel from january to april. But he hasnt emailed me since december. So i thougt if I type in his name and guess a password and do it often enough it will tell me "too many unsuccessful attempts". It will keep saying that if I check everyday until he logs in. Then The nxt time I try I will know if he is using his email address while travelling. The thing is, quite unexpectedly I guessed the correct password and got in. Then I read it. I felt like I was robbing a bank. Oh Lord!
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    Here is my question. Do you know those dark months of despair, wishing and hoping they would remember what a treasure you are but resenting the fact that they are blissfully happy going on without you while every day is blighted by their memory. Then one day you get angry and you get some revenge. You know its wrong and its petty but jstt for one moment to have some impact on thier lives you do it. Its out of character but you have been in pain so long. Do you know that feeling? And what did you do? I did something like that and now I feel a bit of a bunnyboiler.
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    It makes you think how many times two people have broke each others hearts and gone their separate ways without realising it. That's why I don't believe that exs are exs for a reason is a hard and fast rule. I think that this is a very useful thread.
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    Annie your revenge story made me smile. i can imagine the satisfaction. I would love to hear more happy ever after stories. Il tell you one ive mentioned before. Mary had been dating tom for over a year. marriage had been mentioned. Then he told her "I just dont see you in my future". that was that. She was gutted, had one lacklustre relationship and was planning to move when nine months later he begged for her back. Now they are married. Lisa had been dating bill for a year but he rarelt made time for her. She dumped him because of the way he treated her and hoped hed reform. It took him 2 years to ask her back and he did. Me I dated my ex for 5 months. He has cfs and was under pressure for work and study and dumped me as a response to that. I immediately initiated NC for four months (im very disciplined) and broke it when his course was finished. But he had a relapse of cfs and was dragging himself to work (he didn't tell me) We emailed until he finished his job in december. Then he went off travelling. Hes always wanted to do that. He will be back in april. Do you think hell contact me. Pray to your gods please. Please keep the happy ending stories coming and cheer me up.
  15. cassiana
    How long were you guys apart?
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    If i asked an ex out I would be terrified. If he rejected me I would be crushed and think that he hated me. If she sounded aloof it might have been nerves. You should have gone i think.
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    Im glad you admitted hacking in. I did something similar today because I felt so angry and now I feel like i should be institutionalised. If shes looking elsewhere then obviously all is not well. Try and improve yourself, suss out subtlye whats amiss and change tactics a bit. But on no account tell her about your moment of lunacy.
  18. cassiana
    You are gay but you have a girlfriend? And you keep saying "I know this is going to sound crazy". You sound like you don't know who you are or what you wani. This girl is your soulmate but you are gey even though you have a girlfriend and you want to make your mate jealous and you are jealous of her man who feels threatened by you?????? You sound at best bisexual which means her bf has every right to feel threatened. I wonder how platonic you really were on either side. You need to decide what the hell it is that you want before you do anything.
  19. cassiana
    This is really complicated. You are platonic friends? Does that mean that you have no romantic interest in her? Does she ever flirt with you? Is she with someone? If so is it the same guy? What is your objection to this guy? Could you be jealous? How does she view her relationship with you? Why aren't you dating? Could it be that she likes the idea of a male friend because you care for her and this massages her ego and also raises her attractiveness to other men. Has she ever invited you places where a man she fancies might be? I presume through all this, that you are single. Am I right?
  20. cassiana
    It sounds like you are having a very rough time of it. Sometimes when it rains, it pours and you think why me. Then you realise the stress of one thing makes you vulnerable to other things. You need to deal with the most pressing situation at the moment and put everything else on the back-burner. concentrate on what you have to do.This is an emotional time in your life and you need to try and put a little time by for yourself or it could oberload your emotional system. Prioritise. Your mother and family come first now. Your education and future and your health are all important. After that comes BFs. At 18 you don't need to focus on that especially as you have so much on your plate. Come here and chat when you feel like venting some steam. Its a safe outlet. Good luck and take care of yourself.
  21. cassiana
    I am a teacher in a college where I teach people from 18 to 90. I would never, never, never date one of my students no matter if he was Brad pitt. It is totally unprofessional and I would have no respect for any teacher that did it even though in our college as were all over age it isn't illegal. there is a male member of staff who has serially dated his students but hes a total user. If it came to pass that me and a student were strongly attracted to each other it would have to wait until they had left the college. That's fine but not while they are still there.
  22. cassiana
    I empathise. I dated my ex for only 3 months. That was 9 months ago. I have dated five guys since. one for 2 months, one for three but its that first guy I miss. I used to be raw, in shock raw and now im just very very tender. So i know I will get over it but it will take years. I'm trying so hard though and you must do the same. I mean if I got him back wouldn't he just break my heart allover again. I'm more important than him. You are more important than your exes.
  23. cassiana
    Well what im doing is walking alot. Its great excercise. I'm also taking care of my apppearance and working hard and saving money. As well as that i have been dating alot. My ex is also depressed but even though I hope to get back with him theres no guarantee. There is no guarantee for you either. Dating toughens you up and helps you get confidence to deal with the opposite sex. It also might offer you an alternative. After all dealing with people who suffer from depression is very hard. Sometimes you are on your own and if you are in pain they often don't notice. think about it.
  24. cassiana
    I know how you feel. I was dumped by the only man I ever felt sure about at the start of last April and i'm still in agony. I wish I had never met him. Im afraid to love again. I want him back and all the work I put into my life counts for nothing in affairs of the heart. No matter how bitter you feel or whatever daft rituals you perform we are there too. You are like you just lost a limb. I lost mine almost a year ago. I still limp. I cannot help you only to tell you that I empathise.
  25. cassiana
    Isn't love horrible?
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