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I think the best idea would be to sit her down and say exactly what you told us to her. Adults have a way of thinking that since we're young, we're not entitled to the same rights as adults are. Rights such as free speech, mutual respect, and etc. The same thing happened with my dad. He'd always be houseroughing (i think that's the word in english) with me and I hated it, but he just kept on doing it. One day, I just sat down with him and told him how I didn't like it and he just plain stopped. Then again, your mom is a woman, and women are crazy, especially after stuff like pregnancy, I bet that's 24/7 PMS.

You're right, your friends asking for you would make it all too reminiscent of 5th grade romance. You might want to try a really blunt approach; walk up to her, find somethign to say, like, "Hi my name is , I was wondering if I could sit and have chat with you?" Anyhow, that sounds really lame, but people love to be approached, gives them the feeling that they're wanted right away.

I think cutting stuff like cucumbers is a good thing.

It's wrong. It serves no purpose except to cry out for attention. If you need attention, talk to someone, don't play with a razor blade. That's what I think. Who in their right mind would think cutting is a good thing?

Maybe she's got carpal tunnel syndrome and can't type as fast. No other way to know than ask.

Alright, so my ex-gf and I have been broken up for about 3 weeks now. She dumped me basically because I took her for granted. It wasn't the first time we were breaking up, and from all the other times where we broke up and got back together, I guess it just didn't hit me that hard right away. After a few days, it really sunk in though, and I was in the most miserable state of my life. I was moping around everywhere, couldn't stop thinking about her. She wanted to try remaining friends so I went along with that, especially since the time I spent with her was the only time where I could be relatively cheery. After over a week of this, I thought to myself that I was just stretching out my grief and that she wasn't going to take me back. I had tried all sorts of things (getting her a porpoise mood ring and taking her out all sorts of places being a few examples) and I was basically trying my hardest to be the boyfriend that I once was, before I turned into the ungrateful bastage I had become. She insisted that it would take longer than that for her trust in me to be rebuilt, and the most I got from my efforts was a peck on the cheek, which I was ecstatic about. I was becoming increasingly worried about her feelings for me fading all too quickly, and she had been talking increasingly to her new friend, a boy, so it made my situation that much more dire, even though she said she would never do anything at all with the other guy and that he "just wanted to do her." One night, I just broke down and sent her an email saying that maybe we shouldn't talk anymore. I explained how hopeless my situation was, how much I cared about her, how hard I was trying to be what she wanted me to be, and how my wishful thoughts were killing me because they simply weren't happening. I wasn't exactly in my right mind when I wrote that email though. I was extremely sad, angry at myself, tired, and just plain fed up of everything in my life, so I'm thinking it was a self-destructive move since now all I can think about is how much I want to spend time with her again. Now she won't answer my messages, and I don't know if I should call her because I think she's probably angry at me for staying on the fence about no contact. I'm just so confused. What do you guys think I should do? If you got this far, thanks for reading.

You'll see things in a whole different light once you're done with puberty. Don't worry.

If you look at other girls than your girlfriend and you could picture yourself being with them, then you know that you're not with your girlfriend for the right reasons.

Just stop thinking about it. Be glad that the present is working in your favor.

Yes.

Never talk to him again.

I'm not exactly familiar with your situation, but have you considered the possibility that she's just been really busy?

Do you really think you should be hitting on girls that are 4 years younger than you? You have to realize that the difference in lifestyles and lives in general is immense between a 15 and 19 year old. If you plan on actually doing it, you should just be confident and be yourself. If she doesn't like that, then that's her problem, not yours. You'll find one who will like it someday and you'll live happily ever after.

Looks like you put all your woes into this one, keep on truckin'

You're going to have to be more specific on that one. Nobody likes to guess what you're saying when they try to help you. Seems to me like you're asking about the sexual aspect of your relationship, since I can't think of anything else that can be accelerated as such, and I would say that if this is the case, every partner is different and you should take it as slow or as fast as he/she is comfortable with.

Relationships are not all about casual sex once you hit 18, you're just meeting clubbing girls who, well, go there to hook up with guys. If you're looking for a meaningful relationship, you're gonna have to look somewhere else. Also, don't listen to the 15 year old, he's still in hardcore puberty, goes crazy with the idea of girls wanting to have sex randomly like that. Having sex with complete strangers every week is more dangerous in this day and age than bungee jumping.

Dump her for good. You should never spend your time, even less your life, with someone who belittles you and expects you to run the majority of their life so that they can focus on having fun and being spoiled.

I've got 2 questions. The members of this site pretty much always suggest cutting contact with your ex after they break up with you. Do you agree that it's the best thing to do to heal a bruised heart? Is it also the best route to take if we would like to get back together with the person? Secondly, do you think that couples who aren't doing too hot at the moment should take "breaks"? Should the person who is on the receiving end agree with taking the break or flat out say they want to break up? It seems to me that a break is a breakup with prolonged pain for the person who didn't want it.

My parents never really explained it to me, but my friends make fun of me because I don't know. I'm 18 and I want to have babies someday, how can I do that?

Just stop thinking about him and focus on getting yourself out of this cutting mess

I love the poem, just has that awesome rhythm to it. Great job!

Live for the moment, so if it's gonna be fun, do it. You know he's leaving so you'll instinctively not get too attached. Besides, there's no harm in a day's fun.

It's the subconscious urge to corrupt them.

Try getting a boy to help you out, I'm sure he'd enjoy himself too.