rmanaudio

First.....why are you finding things out about him? Why follow up on what he is doing or who he is with? You are just hurting yourself! Move on, don't think about him, don't go finding things out about him, just dont care no more! Second, most guys will stick to the same frame/height of their first g/f or love. I'm the same way, I look for girls that look like my x-g/f's, it is just natural! You really need to move on and stop thinking about him, or you will be stuck in the past and this hurting stage for a very long time. Look at me, I spent 5 years of my life on the girl I thought was the love of my life. Boy was I wrong! I broke up 2 weeks ago with her and I still find myself thinking about her, but I also find things to do to keep my mind on other things, to keep me busy!

STOP KILLING YOURSELF!!! OUT OF SIGHT, OUT OF MIND!!!! You will get through all this a lot faster if you don't see him or try to talk to him. Cuz, if you do, all the past memories will rush back and your heart will hurt again. I'm going through the same thing right now (read "Does she really love me" post). Always smile, always be happy, always be the better person and move on with your life! Like I said, you are going to have many many more relationships with guys ten times better than him!! He is a loser and a bum, you need to forget about him and move on!

TRUE LOVE cannot be one sided....I don't see anyone truly loving someone to the best they can, if that person doesn't love back. TRUE LOVE is between two people truly inlove with one another! I remember when I was 17, that is when I met my first girlfriend. after a year and a half I bought her a ring and proposed. She accepted, but our parents broke us kinda up. She matured and we fell apart. Then I found her with someone else and she never even told me to move on. I felt just like you, but a nother girls love helped me take the pain away! Just enjoy your youth while you can!

You know what the best thing for you to do is? Learn from all the mistakes in your life, both the ones you have made, and your father has made, and better yourself from it. Make sure those things never happen to you or the ones you care for. Always remember: TRUE LOVE NEVER DIES!!! If it is true love, it will work out in the end!!!

You are extremely young! You're going to find so so so many other guys 10 times better than him. Only than will you know what real love is and how 2 people can compliment each other. Just move on with your life! Start doing new things to forget about the past. Don't even think about "what if I run into him", if you're not looking for him, you probably wont see him for a long time.

Well my friend, She is not worth your time. I know you've invested a lot of your life and time in her, but she has changed. Don't look at her as the same person. She is doing these things to forget about the past, im guesssing. I would move on, better yourself, you can find much better, go get a lawyer and get custody of your daugther. Show your daugther a much better life, a life you wish you had. Than, your X will learn that what she is doing is wrong and how she has lost all the good in her life. Just hope that she comes around sooner than later. Girls have to learn their leason the hard way sometimes. Good Luck

I'm so thankful for your replies. I needed to make sure I was not alone on my decisions and what I believe is love and right in life. I know oneday she will realize what life is about and what real love is. Thank you guys, I really am gonna move on this time. I gave up so many relationships and friendships with other girls for this girl, now I regret it all. I really lost a lot because of her. You guys sugest being single for a bit or getting into another relationship to get over all this?

I have a question: She really thinks of herself as a princess and very highly of herself. She tells me that you will never find a girl like me. Someone who is so good and clean, who is as beautiful and perfect. She tells me that your should worship me because of that. Is this right? Does she really have a point and the right mentality?

The worse part of it all is....that i've lost respect for myself. She has brainwashed me to think that im useless and that I dont deserve someone like her. It's like ive fallen into deep depression now with low self-estime and no respect for myself.

WOW....You are right. I always thought that way in the back of my head. But, ive always been afraid that I won't find someone like her. But, I guess it's not worth having someone who puts you down so much. No, she is never there for me. She has never complimented me. I think the only reason why I stay with her is; cuz I figured I had the perfect girl: beautiful, smart, and with morals and values....but I guess those things are not enough to make you happy. Everytime she leaves, she goes out with some other guy, and leaves him within 3 months and comes crying back to me, telling me she can't find someone like me. I feel sorry for her, and miss having someone to love, and give us another go. I guess I never learn. Thank you so much for the reply laadied.....I guess it is my time to ask for support from others.

Hi, this is my first post, and my first cry! The girl I speak of is my second serious relationship. The first, well, she cheated on me! My ex-g/f now, i think, ive been with her for 2.5 years off and on over a 5 year span. I've left her a couple of times and she has come back to me saying it will be different this time. The good about her: She is a smart girl, she is the most beautiful girl I've seen so far, same culture, she is a really good girl, someone you can take home and marry, she has morals and values, she is a really really good girl, very inocent! The bad: She is very selfish, she is very materialistic, she doesn't share the same definition of 'love' that i do, she keeps be-littling me, she puts me down, makes me feel like im not a 'man' or worthy of her, she doesn't appreciate the type of guy I am. I just finished my 4th year of engineering at university and am looking for a job. I've never had the money, nor do I have it now, to buy her nice things or take her out to fancy resturants. She always complains that I dont take her here and their and do this and that. She always compares me to her friends boyfriends on what they do for them and what they buy for them. But, still, she keeps coming back, cuz I actually love her, I show her love and she feels it at times. Then, after a few months, she goes back to being materialistic and says if you love me you would buy me this and take me here and their. She is only 22, but at times I find it that she doesn't understand me or what life and love is about. She never talks to me about things....she does what she wants to do, and if never cares about my opinions. 2 days ago, she made me feel like crap, and I told her if im not enough for you, than why are you with me? I can't take it anymore. I truly thought she is the one for me, but, I don't know anymore. She wants me to do everything for her. She is not a girl that can stand on her own 2 feet. She refuses to work in the future, and or do house work or take care of kids. She has been spoiled to the max. She wants me to work, to take care of her and the kids (if we have kids). Is this girl the one for me? Do I try to fix this? Can I do better? Will she ever learn? I've cried over this and drank way too much in the past 5 years......i don't know what to do....PLEASE HELP!