benjaminge1

I'm 27

Lol.

Just thought i'd tell you all about what's happened to me. I was down in the dumps for ages, feeling really lonely, I had no one to hold or no one one to love. I pretty much gave up on love and just accepted that I was probably going to be single for the rest of my life. Then, one night after work, about 2 months ago I decided to take a walk with my ipod, down to the river near my house. It was a beautiful evening, the sun was setting, it looked amazing. I sat down on the bank and listened to a few tunes whilst watching the sun go down. It was then that I saw this beautiful girl walking along by the bank. She smiled at me so i smiled back and she carried on pass me. About 5 minutes later she was walking back towards me. She stopped by me and said something. I took my headphones off and asked her to repeat what she said. She said "what an amazing evening, hey?" I smiled and agreed. To cut a long story short, she sat next to me and we chatted until way after it got dark. She, like me, often took walks down to the river and we found out we had so much in common. We met up the next night and since then havn't spent one day apart. Her name's Sarah and she's absolutely amazing and i'm so inlove with her. I thank God I went to the river that night. I can't believe my luck. It just goes to show that love can happen anytime and when you're least expecting it.

At least you always know, even if it is a long and hard struggle, that eventually the pain goes. Just takes time. Always remember that.

I don't know weather this will help any of you in any way but it helped me when i was going through a break up. A friend of mine suggested that i buy some seeds and a plant pot and get a stone from the garden. He said the stone represented the past, and to bury it deep it the pot. He said to put the seed in the pot and look after it and watch it grow, this represents you and the way you're going to grow. I did this little ceromony with the stone and the seed and i looked after my plant and watched it grow. Each day as my plant grew so did i, and felt better and could feel myself healing. I now have a massive plant and every time i see it, it reminds of what i went through and how i thought i'd never get over it and i thank god it dosnt feel like that anymore.

Thank you mate

i kiss you in the rain i kiss you in the rain, your not real. the lights were blurred again. love is all i feel. the cobbled road a wash of grey the smell of concrete, the taste of new life. my hands trembling, my heart pounding shock surrounding. Where did this come from? my joy is surpressed with memories of pain as i kiss you in the rain. I wait anxiosly for you to stop. i wait for an alarm to wake me from this dream. nothing else matters. no pain. none of lifes miserys this is a drug. i've erased it all for this moment i've waited impatiently and at last, life has thrown some luck my way i grasp it and confuse myself, explosions again as i kiss you in the rain. again, i say, i'm glad i'm me. i dream to shake this rain from my brow. have you ever kissed a dream. better than a winning ticket better than a childhood christmas eve if you could see me now, i'm glowing i have an aura with a colour no ones ever seen wish you were real, shame i can only dream

I never said i hate being lonely. i said i'm fed up of being lonely, just b nice to have someone intametly to share my life with. And secondly it's my job to sit in front of a screen. (i'm at work).

I'm fed up of being by myself. I'm fed up of not having a hand to hold. I'm fed up of not having someone to hold or someone to hold me. I'm fed up of having no texts messages from someone who cares. I'm fed up of rejection. I'm fed up jumping in a lonely bed. I'm fed up of having no one ask me how my day was. I'm fed up of having no one to kiss me when i come home. And mostly im fed up of having no one saying I love u and no one to say it back to. But nevermind, i'm youngish. I've got loads of friends and even if i'm lonely for ever more i might as well make the most of lonliness. here for a good time. not a long time

Hi, My names ben and im 26 from south Uk. 5 months ago me and my girlfriend of 5 years split up. She threw me out. We have a beautiful 3 year old daughter together. At first i was absolutely gutted but kind of started feeling better. It was really hard at first coz after just 4 weeks of us splitting up she was seeing someone else, I walked into her bedroom where my daughter was sleeping and saw a condom wrapper next to the bed which I was gutted about. She then finished with him and started seeing someone else which didn't last. Both theses men have come out of drink and drug rehab. About 4 weeks ago she started seeing another 35 year old who's come out of rehab. Last Saturday my friend saw her stripping in a strip club in our town, I confronted her about it and she said it was true. I told her I really disagree with what she's doing as it's not a good example for our daughter. Then Yesterday I go round to the house that we used to live in as a family with her and my daughter, to pick my daughter up and theres people answering the door that I've never met asking me who I want. It felt terrible. Then I find out her new boyfriend has moved in. I can't believe what's happening. My daughters mother is a stripper who has let a man move in with her that she's only know for a few weeks. Feels like he's taken my place in the home and with my family. I told my X I want my daughter everynight as I don't want her bought up the way things are going with her. In a funny way I kindda miss my X as well. Should I? After everything she's done. These past few months have been the worst in my life, and now it seems to be getting worse. Please don't anyone say it's the child u should be thinking about because I know that and that's what I'm worried about. I'm just gutted everythings turning out the way it is, I could really do with abit of luck in my life right now. Ha

The other day i was outside a supermarket with my friend and i saw this girl walking towards the door and i said to my friend "dont look round now but the perfect looking girl for me is walking this way" Anyway it turned out he new her coz she works with him in the supermarket. The next night he invited her out. she came out and sat opposit me for a little while but i didn't have the balls to talk to her. Anyway she's working tomorrow in the supermarket and i had this idea but need some advice coz i don't know if it's romantic or cheesy. I'm thinking of making her a cd with 1 tune called Blowers Daughter by Damien Rice. If you havn't heard it the chorus goes "can't take my eyes off of you, can't take my mid off of you" etc Then i was gonna put i note in saying something along the lines of "the other night i couldn't take my eyes off of you. etc etc here's my number etc etc" Do you think she'll think i'm some sort of stalker, will she think I'm cheesy or romantic? Girls help, what would you think if someone done this for you? Thanks Ben

I had the same situation as you a couple of months . I was with a girl for 5 years we were also engaged and she dumped me. I was devestated, i couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, didn't know what to do with myself, it felt like i had no future. Then i found out she was seeing someone else, which made things 10 times worse. No matter what anyone said to me It didnt seem to make me feel any better. I know exactly how you feel and it's the worse feeling in the world but don't worry. I am absolutely loving my life now. It's only been 2 months and i don't think about her at all now. I go out when i want, see who i want, my mates we're amazing through it all. Even though it's hard and she's all you think about at the moment you just gotta get on. gGo out and get yourself so new clothes and get out there and start living. If your ex see's you or hears of you going out and getting on with your life the chances are she'll want you back. Whatever you do don't go begging or calling her, you'll drive her away. 5 years is a long time to spend with someone and she certainly won't forget the times you had together. As hard as it seems don't contact her, for now anyway. She'll start to wonder why you hav't called and she'll think maybe he's moved on. It's early days at the moment so give it time. Please believe me it gets better and it dosn't always take long. I really believe things happen in life for a purpose and every cloud has a silver lining. Your gonna be OK mate and you'll get through this and when you do you'll be a much stronger person and you'll probably find someone even better, you sound like a nice bloke to me. take it easy Ben

6 days ago my girlfriend finished with me. we've been together for 4 years and have a 2 year old daughter. She really is adiment it's over.We have broken up before but it's really hurting this time and i can see my mistakes. I don't want to contact her because i really want her back but i have a daughter. I said to her yesterday i didnt want to see her or my daughter for at least a month. The reason i said i didnt want to see my daughter is because she kept saying something about a male friend of hers called Lewis. I think she may be seeing him. When i said i didn't want to see my daughter because it hurts when she talks about this man, she said she'll stop seeing him, he's only a friend. I don't know wether she said this because she wants a babysitter? We left it as me contacting her in few weeks to see my daughter. In one way i don't want to contact her because i hope this will get her thinking about me but then if i don't contact her it looks like i'm still hurting. I'm not sure wether to call next week and say i'll have my daughter on saturday just so it looks like i'm getting on with my life or to just leave it so maybe she misses me. Please help.

I am 25 my x-girlfriend is 21. We met 4 years ago and have since had a little girl, who is now 2. She's now finished with me. Our relationship has always been a bit rocky. She's quite neurotic at times and is up and down like a rollercoaster. She's very demanding and critical and dosn't really meet my needs. Even though i say these things about her i still love and we did have good times when she was in a good mood. She's broken it off before but this time it's for real. When I'm with her, alot of the time i think about finishing with her but because i'm scared of getting hurt and scared she might meet someone else, i don't. When she goes out she gets so much attention from men. she's very pretty. But when i go out i don't get any from women sometimes it gets very deppressing. when i was with her I didnt really like to go out and socialise with her. I'd rather just go out with my friends. I don't know why i felt like this, my friends have a girlfriends and always want them with them. But now she's finished with me , i feel likei want to go out and socialise with her. I really want her back but think this pattern my happen again. I'm not sure what to do. I don't know whether to phone her or leave it. But right now i'm hurt and i want to be with her because i love her. Has anyone been in a situation like this before. Please can anyone give me some advice. Thanks Ben