JessieK05

Thanks everyone for helping me. I'm not going to dump him. I kind of just made him sound like more of a jerk than what he is because I was mad. He is good, I mean he obviously must love/like me if he drives down almost every weekend to see me right? Also it seems I only get like that when I'm away from him but when I'm with him I'm fine. I think it's just insecurities and overreacting. Thanks anyway though, I think I'm just going to ignore these feelings and if things happen again I'll bring it up. We've been dating a year and a half and I don't want to end it and I might talk to him when Isee him in person.

Well first I'd like to apologize for not posting recently. Also I could use advice from guys because the way guys think sometimes help and alot of girls just feel like me and tell me to dump them but I'd like to get a guys opinon...here's my problem.. Ok..I'm having a hard time. I don't want to break up with Nathan (my boyfriend) but hear me out. Lately we've been spending like no time together, we have a long distance relationship , and during the school year I only see him on weekends, I saw him last weekend but I wasn't supposed to see him for another 2 weeks but then I asked him If I could see him this weekend ot go to the zoo and he said yea but we probably wouldn't even be seeing each other if I didn't invite him. Also It seems like lately he doesn't want to do anything with me, we used to do a lot together, little things like going rollerblading or something, he told me tonight that he does stuff i want to do but stuff he wants to do like going to play hockey and listening to loud music just sittin in his car i dont want to do, i told him it wasnt true, and he said well start doing stuff then. I don't even know if he likes me anymore, he'll tell me on-line he loves me but in person he only tells me when he leaves to go back home. I'm probably just overreacting. I think he's cheating on me too, I trust him, but lately he's been like taking stuff back or not doing what he says, part of the reason was my fault for not coming online tuesday night but wednesday night he couldnt because he was playing hockey, i mean it was only one night so i guess it dont matter,but like he told me he'd be on-line at night since I have school and stuff now I can't stay on long and then tonight he talked to me for like 15 minutes because he had to go. Then he takes back things like me hanging out at his brothers,Sunday night he was supposed to stay at my house but then his brother invited me and him over and then he asked me if i could jsut stay at home because his brother doesnt act the same when im there and doesnt do things like play the guitar with him and that he barely gets to hang out with his brother Also he cancels things like the day before. Not all the time but once in a great awhile. Then tomorrow he's going to this concert with my cousin Joe and I can just imagine the girls that'll be there. It's an 18+ concert so I couldn't go anyway but all the girls there will be his age and will obviously like his same music taste (Skidrow) which I rarely listen to. When he dumped me around the 4th of July he told me we didn't have anything in common and one of the things he said was we didn't like the same music , for example. Well here's the oppurtunity to meet girls his own age and into the music he likes. The reason he dumped me was a bunch of stupid things, then the next day he asked me to forgive him and he was sorry he hurt me and didnt mean the thigns he said. The other day he told me what actress he thought was hott when he never told me that kind of stuff before. Not that it's a big deal but I don't look anything like this girl. I don't know if this is a thing to push me away or he's just keeping me aorund until he finds someone better or what. I don't know. I don't know how to talk to him about this kind of stuff, but I rather get advice before I start a stupid argument. Another thing was Monday I told him he hasn't been emotional and that the last time he really was was the day after he dumped me and he was telling me how much he loved me and stuff the day after, adn i told him i like to hear that, and hes like "well do you want me to be like that everyday or something?" and im like "no" and just kind of ended it because I dont want him to do something he doesnt do. I'm just looking for advice before i bring stuff up to him because if i dont have to I wont, especially if i sound like im overreacting. Ok this sounds weird but before my period I get emotional and take alot of thing to heart and overreact and my period is 4 days away so I'm thinking I could be acting like this because of that too. Thanks for any advice

thanks, he just told me now that he just sometimes feels like he doesnt have to reassure me, and not to believe everything my cousin says. But thank you for the advice

Well when you do talk to her, just tell her the truth, that you are afraid of rejection, and you made the mistake of shutting off contact. If I was her I'd want the truth but that's just me. That's all I can think of as advice, I wouldn't lie to her though. Hope I helped a little bit.

thats what it seems like, like hes just saying in a nice way that he was in a rush and couldnt talk, its not a stupid question though

I'm glad I made somebody feel better, If it makes you feel even more better me and my boyfriend are having a pretty bad argument right now on AIM. Hehe

I know how you feel, sounds like your boyfriend is like mine. After a fight I usually still dwell on it and feel bad but he gets over it pretty quick and thinks it's just something stupid later on. He's probably just in a bad mood, I dont always say I love you after a fight but he knows I still love him, it's just anger gets in the way sometimes. I think you should just stop worrying about it, and that everything will clear up. I hope I made sense, I'm not making much sense tonight.

I was on here earlier but now I need different advice, hehe. Figuring that tonight me and my boyfriend are having a very long fight. As earlier I asked him why he loved me which he was hesitating to answer, then signed offline (i have to talk to him online for now) then I talked to my cousin joe who gave me all this stupid advice and he is alwasy saying what he thinks is "best" for me and Nathan (my boyfriend) because he think thier best friends, which according to Nathan thier not. So I get tired of it after awhile and I guess I came onto Nathan too strong trying to prove that because here's our recent conversation... Me: hey sorry I was the way I was but your best friend/my cousin Joe explained everything so yea, I guess I'll talk to you later Him: explained what Me: how you guys like you and him feel Him: hows that.. well copy it if you got it Me: i dont have it, i blocked him Him: why Me: because he was starting to p*** me off Me: He said I was asking too much, that I was looking for a husband not a boyfriend, and that guys like you guys don't like that and don't like younger girls cuz they bring bullcrap Him: how did that start getting talked about Me: cuz I told him when he talked to you that I won't bother you anymore, and he asked what's wrong, and I told him I asked a simple question and would of been happy with any answer, and he asked what question adn i told him, and then he went ranting and raving about what i just told you, so i told him he's not helping and that I get the idea and blocked him.. Him: oh Me: but since I bring bullcrap and ask too much, since were only "boyfriend and girlfriend" and not married, i won't bother you anymore Me: according to him I should look for a husband Him: ok dunno Him: whatever jessie, this is stupid i never even said i didnt love you Him: quit f***** bullcrapping me, why dont you go to bed Him: im goin aright, my internet is messed up on the desktop so im busy He signed off at 1:06:06 AM. I had to change a couple words due the swearing and the only reason he said go to bed is becasue he always says that when he thinks I'm cranky or overreacting. So I'm just wondering If I should blow off the fact that he didn't answer my question of "why do you love me" and whatever cuz it's obviously making him mad. I just wonder if he still cares and loves me, and I wish my very annoying cousin would stop meddling in our relationship and that Nathan would say something to him. That won't happen though, so I'm not worried about that, it's just the caring for me part...I probably sound really dumb trying to phrase this but I don't know how else to.

Ok I asked my boyfriend the ol' "why you love me" question. We've been dating a year and a half and he's asked me it before so I didn't really see a big deal in it. Well he got irritated as to why I asked it and signed off-line. We were talking through AIM instant messages at the time. Anyway, so I talked to my cousin Joe who seems to be his best friend lately (well that's what Joe thinks anyway) and he says I was asking too much and that were only boyfriend and girlfriend, and what I'm asking for is like asking something from a husband. Which was totally off the wall to me because it was just a simple question, I would of been happy with the answer "because I just do". Then my cousin goes into telling me That I'm too young to expect these kind of things and that that's why he doesn't date younger girls because it's too much crap and blah blah blah. I didn't think it was that big of a deal. Am I asking too much out of it? I don't know how else to phrase it..

Pampering yourself. I've had that help for me, or taking on a new hobby. Everytime you start to feel bad just take out the nailpolish, go shopping, or start to do your new hobby. The number one thing is to not blame yourself, and to not think you can't go on. That's all I can think of right now, but I hope I helped

*agree with the above* but if your kissing and biting her neck I think she know you like her...so if anything maybe she thinks your trying to play hard-to-get or something since you didn't wnat to go farther. Don't think your an idiot though, because your not

Well I'm glad I helped. Maybe for right now she's just trying new things, and experiencing things she's never done, and after the fun/thrill/whatever has worn off from doing it she'll miss the relationship you guys' had. It might be awhile or sad to say it might not happen at all, but don't sit at home waiting for the day, get out and meet new girls too, moping around doesn't do you any good. I've been dumped before after a year and half relationship so I know it's hard but in the end it makes you feel better. Boosts your ego a little bit, hehe. Well I hope everything goes fine for you, I wish the best

I don't know how it is from a guy point of view, but when me and my ex-boyfriend broke up he said he still cared for me and had fun with me and wanted to spend time with me, he just didn't want a girlfriend. There was more to it than that but I believe that ex's still care about the girls they dump, and want to just hang out like friends. I mean if they really liked the person they dumped it's hard to just forget about them after spending so much time together, so maybe he's missing the time you guys did spend together when you were together and just wants to relive it as friends if that makes sense. I don't know how he is so I can't say if he is trying to get back together with you, but from what you tell me it just sounds like he misses spending time with you. Hope I helped

HmMm...I'm sure getting drunk with these guys is not more fun than you. She probably just isn't ready to commit. Sounds like she likes to get a reaction out of you by telling you her stories of partying and getting drunk. She wants to see if she can get a rise out of you , a lot of girls do that for self-esteem reasons. The reason why she would still care if you dated other girls is probably still for that self esteem reason. Knowing that you date other girls would make her realize that your over her and that you wouldn't care that she does this stuff to other guys. I think you should just try to get over her as hard as it may be. Maybe stop talking to her for a little while so she don't upset you with the stories. She might then realize what she's lost. If not then I think your better off. You deserve a girl who wants to spend time with you and wants to be in a commited relationship. I hope I helped

Well I'm kinda used to him telling me "When he wakes up" because he usually never has times set and plays it by ear..It's always I'll leave to come get you when I wake up , or I'll call you when I get up, or I'll do this or that when I get up. Haha, os that doesn't concern me, the only concern with him is he usually wakes up at 1 in the afternoon because he works till 1230 tonight, and stays up later than that and sleeps in. But still your right, he shoudl set his alarm or somehting...

School counslers can help you a lot. They sometimes can help you themselves or they can direct you to a free support group or something of that sort. I don't think counslers are allowed to give information to your parents unless they have your consent, I don't know fully though, that's just at my school. I hope you get the help you want , and hopefully I helped a little bit

Ok, my boyfriend, let's call him Nathan, was supposed to come over tomorrow and go to a concert with me. I payed for his ticket. Anyway he calls me today and says his car is acting funny, and he don't know if he'll be able to make it. I don't really care about that cuz I can have a ride to go get him. Well he sounds hesitent about that idea, even though it could of been just me so i asked him if he even wants to see me at all and to tell me the truth, and he said yea its just he cant help that his car is messed up. So he said he'd call tomorrow and tell me what's going on. He said hed call me when he wakes up which is usually 1 o clock. Now if he calls me then I won't have time to pick him up in time for the concert (he lives an hour away). So if I call him in the morning first , and he still says no or says hes gonan work on his car today instead, she i be angry? I mean that's 35$ I wasted and he has most of the day Sunday to fix his car because I'm gonna take him home early. I don't know if I shoudl be mad at him or not. I know he can't help his car sucks (it's really old an dhas alot of miles and always breaks down) but I'm offering him a free ride, a place to stay, and a free concert, and he can see me (which I don't think he gets excited about as I do but it could jsut be me he's not too emotional) just wondering If I had a right to be mad if he bails on me....I don't want to be a mean girlfriend or something,, jsut looking for opinions here..

Hey me and my boyfriend have a distance relationship and we've been dating a year and a half. It's hard at times because I want to be selfish and see him everyday but I can't , I usually just see him weekends and holidays, he only lives an hour from me though. I would jsut tell people that you two love each other and trust each other adn it shouldn't matter if he lives 100 miles away or next door. People usually say long distance relationships don't work but that's not true, it all depends on the people. Hope i helped

There's no real right age for sex. It's all mental. I don't believe you should of had sex because your friends were doing it. Plus half the girls around your age range (usually) just lie and say they have for popularity. You should do it when you feel your ready, I mean you can even stop now if you want to, if your boyfriends love you they'll understand. If you are going to have sex though I would strongly reccomend using protection, you can't always trust the guy on the withdrawel method. Anyhoo, hopefully I helped a little bit (I'm not too good at the advice thing yet )

Hey Well me being a girl,,,I would make the first move definitly even if I didn't know the guy liked me. I'm not too good at picking up signals, hehe. If I did notice he liked me and I liked him and he was shy I would definitly be all over it.

sorry but you can't make someone love you. You may have had the greatest time with him but the feeling may have not been mutual. With my ex that's how it was, and beggin him to come back just makes it worse, no one likes a begger. Just let things take thier course, and if it turns in your favor congrats, and if not just work on getting over it and not talking to him for awhile. Talking to them just makes the healing process worse, trust me. I hope I helped a little bit

Hey, You may not like my answer but I honestly think you should wait. 16 is too young to have a baby and could you possibly provide it with everything a child needs? Thier expensive and time taking. Plus you would want to get an education and get a good job to support your child. These are my opinions though, hope I helped a little

Thanks guys, I think I'm just going to say what I want to say, and if he gets mad and dumps me i suppose it is his loss. Just kind of afraid of being alone I guess . My friend said that if he came back for me I must be doing something right, so part of me is thinking that if I say what I want it wont care because he loves me anyway, but I dont' know, I'll be talking to him tonight hopefully when he gets home from a concert.

Ok, me and my boyfriend been dating for almost 2 years, and around July 4th, he dumped me but only for a mere 15 hours. His reasons for dumping me was that , well let me start over, I brought it up because he was acting weird and first he said we didnt have anything in common adn he only loved me like a friend, then after we got back together he said it was because when i brought up breaking up he thought that was what i wanted and he got scared and tried making up excuses not to hurt me. Then 15 hours later, he begged for me back saying he made a mistake and didn't mean to hurt me, and that he loved me, and he felt like half of him was missing, and that he took me for granted, so i gave him another chance. Ever since then though I've felt that I've had to watch what I say because angering him or arguing with him I might make him break up with me again...should I be feeling like that or what?

This is coming from a girl but just be up front and tell her that you've liked her for awhile. It's better to say it and have to teeniest chance of getting rejected or to hold it in and never know would could of happened and regret it later. The main reasons guys get rejected is because they ask out the wrong kind of girl (obviously) but if she's running with you, and talking to you, and hanging out with you, she must like you in one way or another. I think you should just ignore the "what-ifs" and just tell her. Good luck!