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A beautiful girl can make you dizzy Like you've been drinking Jack and Coke all morning She can make you feel high Full of the single most commodity known to man- Promise Promise of a better day Promise of a greater hope Promise of a new tomorrow This particular awe Can be found in the gait of a beautiful girl In her smile, and in her soul, and the way She makes every rotten little thing about life Seem like it's gonna be OK ---these are some lyrics i read...just wanted to share them with everyone--- and remember ladies- we all are beautiful women!!!

Hey, if you wanna talk one on one about your feelings im here to listen.. Didnt you say taht your gf said last night that she needed to break up bc of her eating disorder adn depression?>

Hey. Its tough and can really mess up your head when someone cheats on you. The fact is that he said that he didn't love you like he used to, and doubting what you guys had together so many months ago. After you tossed him out, he was able to feel what life was like without you. And probably misses you and your son immensely, maybe realizing that he does love you more than he knew. But it is so hard to trust someone after they betrayed like that. You did the right thing I believe by telling him to leave, and taking care of yourself. It is very hard to listen to your head when your heart is screaming so much louder. But you have a son, and a future you need to protect and look out after. Of course, having someone to share your future with is something people really need in life also. I think that if he really wants to be with you again, don't let him back so easily. Give him a lot of time to regain his trust, aand his place back into your life. I dont know if you should move in together again, bc if he leaves and flakes out the 2nd time I can imagine your son will be completely heart broken as well as yourself. So tell him that you have to see that he means what he means. And once someone cheats on you, it makes you very insecure and paranoid they will do it again. If you believe that he won't then you would know better than any of us. But sometimes it is more rewarding to not make urself vulnerable, drop the people who may hurt you and focus on your life improvements.. well gLuck to you!

Well dont rush yourself mikey.. Can you really say that you love her already?? So you have your crush, now act cool. Maybe she likes to go out at night, just party with girlfriends or maybe she does have a bf. She could be interested in you because you nice or because she digs you. Either way I wouldnt call her too much.. Give her a chance to get back to you esp. since you have been initiating everything. And since you see her at work, you have a very good way of charming her. Take it slow, see what signals you get..teach her about computers, laugh be happy but dont make a move till you think shes into you too--at least this is what i would do. And have u actually given her a chance to call you bak? like a few days? how long did u give her til u call again..relax it will work out.

i guess a lot of people are feeling down lately.. Sorry I cant help out here...just wanted to say HI though... and hope i hear someones happy story soon.

she was probably pissed that you wouldnt let her leave really... ive done that a few times too.

hey! u sound upset- so im here if you would like to talk to me. Yeah, definitely be there for her and dont be mad at her with everything she is going through she probably just cant handle things. But pushing too much wont help either...U'll know what to do, trust yourself.

i'm sorry to hear that. You must feel really hurt right now and kind of shocked. I can completely sympathize with you. If she is belemic though, then maybe you and her should focus on getting her help first because it is a very serious issue. And that is probably something that she needs to control and fix before becoming involved in a relationship. When a person has problems that are very serious in their life, they can't really focus on someone else that easily. I know it sucks to not know way you have broken up with someone- the same thing has happened to me. BUt i do believe that you should try to support this girl, be a friend and help her with her depression and eating disorder...if she will let you in her life of course and she will let you help her..just tryy. I watched someone go through that, and they were in a lot of denial but its just so not healthly physically or mentally. She needs to get welll-she needs to heal and she needs to build herself up before she can be there emotional for someone else. I hope this helps you a little bit, and you can understand what im trying to get at here.. GL!

Ok well I used to be able to give my ex bf a boner just when i kissed him, and wore a hot outfit. That's all it used to take.. Just some simple making out or just looking relally good. Sometimes its all about what you say too that can really get a guys mind run wild-- Use ur imagination!!!!

haha where do females liked to be touched? Well where should I start? I dont know how detailed you would like me to be with this answer. I'm guessing you want to know how to get a girl aroused and excited. Well personally speaking. Kisses on the neck, especially the back of the neck are very nice. Being touched throughout the body...hitting those key areas which I hope i dont need to explain. It's very hard to specify where to touch a female. You can Pm if u want to really discuss it. But in all honesty I believe that the sofest gentlest touch in the heat of the moment is sweet and leaves the body tingling and can make a girl want more. And of course the more aggressive motions are cool too, not too rough but that is always good for some girls. And then sometimes too relax a girl, a nice massage on her back is real sweet. And some girls like to be touched somewhere on their face, cheeks or chin. They like to be grabbed sometimes..But every girl is different!! just put your feelings into your touch as corny as it sounds.. But dont be too nervous or mechanically, it all has to flow and be gentle and loving..

Hey... Was there a specific reason you guys broke up? How long have you guys been broken up for? Well maybe ur ex gf has the good intentions of wanting to keep some kind of relationship with you, but usually and especially right after a break up its just very tough and hard to keep some kind of friendship going. Sometimes each partner needs a little space of his or her own before trying a friendship- And generally I have heard that it is usually a failure. Im not saying that you shouldnt be friends with your ex. But it sounds like she is just all talk and little action. You probably may want to be friends with ur ex in hopes of getting back together. But maybe she is just focusing much on herself, and her own pleasure and doing whats good for her right now. And i bet her canceling on you is hurting you and frustrating you a lot more =also sending mix signals. I think that you should focus on making yourself happy and creating the most pleasant situation for u and u only. That means not making yourself vulnerable to her. If you dont want to completely lose your ex gf from your life..u dont have to. BUt telling her that you cant keep freeing up ur days for her, and her never following through. That you have your own life to lead..And when she is good and ready to actually see you and i mean good and ready- she should contact you. You've tried but if she wont follow with the plans theres nothing you can do. And maybe shes just scared or reluctant to see you because she doesn't know what to expect. And maybe she doesn't want to hurt you and thats why she keeps saying that u'll see each other.. But you know that everyone is a mystery and has their own plans in mind. So its just a hutch- But you have to do what is right for you.

hey 2clueless!!!! I have been in the same situation.. My ex was the instigator too...he would be the way making the relationship move as fast as it did. And after being away from each other for a month..He decided that he couldnt handle it anymore- and he just didn't want a girlfriend as simple as that- he had too much stress in his life.. DId ur ex just simply say he was looking to find himself? or just want time alone? I often wonder the same questions you do. Maybe they are scared. Maybe they feel that they really might commitment with you and aren't ready yet to be so serious. Maybe they feel that they could very well have a future with you= but they are scared of that and they feel they need timeout before it becomes that serious. I dont know just guesses really. But i think it has something to do with being afraid. Are you guys semi-young ? or at the age to become more serious? I have heard guys say, maybe we got together at thewrong time and our paths shall cross again, or its meant to be we will be... Cant say I believe that though. -GL

He is right!!!! She should realize how she lost someone so good... :silly:

Hey... The only thing I can say is tha I used to put stuff like that in my profile about me ex. And I don't quite totally understand those lyrics, so I can't give you good advice about what they mean (sorry). But I can say that when I put lyrics, or just quotes in my profile to try to prove to my ex that I didn't want him or that it was over...it was exactly that. Me trying to PrOVE to him that i didn't want him. So what i'm getting at is that I feel when people put stuff like that in their profile, It's not so much that they are saying I'm over you I don't want you -- its kind of like they are proving to themselve that they don't want you. But they are thinking about you and you are still on their minds, or else you wouldn't need to mention something like that.. You get what I'm saying?? WEll sorry to cut it short, my moms nagging at me...My ex wrote lyrics about me in his as well...I dunt know..maybe we can talk later and I can explaining better... and it may just be lyrics that she likes ---mayeb she just likes the song a lot..who knows.. Dont think too much of it in the mean time... SmilE

hey GUys... Just letting a little frustration out here.. GRRRRRR im just so fed up with everything..!! Just so fed up with caring so much, and wanting things to go well and just not having any patience waiting.. I feel like there has been no progress in anything, and i'm not getting any satisfaction and I just don't kno anymore....this sucks SEnsing my majorr frustrationsss?

Hey.... Thanks for your advice. But I honestly don't do anything to deserve the stuff he pulls.. You may think there is a reason he reacts like that but he just has these problems...Sometimes he just gets into these really bad moods, and when i dont do my job by making him happy when he is in these moods...He just acts like a jerk too me and distance himself.. He has a really short fuse and when anything pisses him off, not just me..he just bottles it up then lets it out.. I know what your ex did is a different situation but we are totally different girls.. And trust me, I just tried to please my ex- sometimes i overanalyze stuff he says and i take it personally because i am extra sensitive...but i never intentionally pissed him off and hurt him.. I just didn't want you to think something bad of me... Perhaps... MOre advice is welcomed...

I'm feeling just so frustated tonight for some reason. I had posted a few new topics about my ex today explaining things. And for some reason I'm just soo frustrated with everything he has been doing. And i'm getting angry but above all confused- I'm frustrated over his ambivalence with me.. His hot and coldness... Him taking out his bad moods and anger on me--- saying that i don't make him happy when hes in a bad mood, but when hes in a good mood he always says hes always happy talking to me. And he takes a lot of his anger out on me, and he says its because he takes anger out on people close to him.. Above all I am so confused...and I feel all these emotions inside yet i still feel empty and numb. I guess I was looking for someone to talk to on here, some help, and to vent.. I just don't know how to handle my mood. Nothing really offset it- just i guess bottled up emotions...

Hey Nick.. Quick question.. How long were guys broken up for before getting back together again? And how far apart were you 2 while you were each working? I know how you are feeling..But I haven't come up any answers yet... I'll keep working on it.

ThankS guys!!!! Your posts really do help me out a lot.... I really appreciate your time and lending me advice.. I hope i can do the same for all of you!!!! It really does help me a lot.. Wishing everyone the best and lots of smIlEs!!!

Ok. I'll try to make this as short and brief as possible. I don't know who is familiar with my story or not... But basically the ex, broke up with me and drop me pretty quickly after we slip for the summer, 3 months..hours away from each other. After soo much of him being hot and cold towards me while at school- wanting and not wanting...He finally says, that he is too stressed to have a gf and knows himself, and knows he isn't ready for one right now, and cant think about someone else b4 himself. He says that gfs are complications- requiring work and stuff. MY probelm was how he came to this conclusion, bc months before he was the one who wanted to be more serious and he was very happy and content - and then all of a sudden it was this. Well my ex was very confused, and wanted ot try to get back together eventually..but the minute I got mad at him bc he did something really disrespectful -he just blows up on me and says it was a bad idea.. OK, so after more on and off-- more of him saying he misses me and wants to see me,, and then the few days lying low and not talking to me so much.. He eventually says that he regrets evrything he did to us, bc we'd probably still be together and maybe its just the wrong time, and if its meant to be it will be..and maybe our directions will cross again- he doesnt know if he's gonna lose me. OK. Well he tells me all of this 2 wks before summer again. Said he always had those feelings but never talked about it. Until now, 2 wks before summer. I think that his feelings sparked because of this dream he had with me in it, and it made him realize wat he missed it a stupid way. Well since summer was coming up again, he and I both agreed that it didn't make sense to start anything at the moment bc we were going to be leaving again. But we still spent a few more days together. And when we were together things were great. We got along well, felt the same chemistry. And we both say that somehting just ddoesn't wat to die out between us. When we said gbye, we didn't talk about how the summer was going to be. DIdnt talk about whether we'd speak or not.. He is the kind of guy he likes to take it one day at a time. Now it's been about 3 1/2 wks. We have only spoken about 3 or 4 times online. Usually he ims me hi, and our convos last about an hr. But everytime he is at home, he just seems different to me. He still enjoys talking to me, but he's less emotional...less talkative sometimes, and stops calling me cutie, and sexy and stuff. I mean I don't know if i'm being stupid here. He's not a phone person- but keeps saying he will call. We still have 2 months left. And when i ask him why he's stopped saying stuff like that and being distant..he just gets defensive and says hes teh same, he hasnt stopped saying anything- just hasnt spoke ot me in awhile. Meanwhile he agrees that itss weird being so far away, and gets jealous if i have dates, and says he does think about me. But is his distance just me being extra sensitive...or is it normal because he is at home now leaving in a separate place. I'm not sure what to think about this guy...He's got me so confused.....

Hey Just... Thanks for your reply to my post.. Much appreciated.. I tried writing you a PM but i dont know if you got it.. MAybe you will read this first. I feel really bad because I know exactly how you feel too.. It is just awful. It seems that our exs, shouldnt even have to think twice about us..we are both good people.. I know our ex's are different people. But maybe since niether of them are straight fwd abotu what they want..and we know what we want, we should back off entirely. I wonder what would happen if we just stopped doing are usually things. Stopped caring, stopped contact w/ them all together. Just stopped aside for a few months, and showed them what its like when we arent there for them. Isn't ur ex out of college for now? I mean if she sees your not there for here, wanting her maybe she will wake up. Maybe its good to test the waters with other people.. but i sometiems even wonder about fate, and people meant to be with eahc other. It's tough I kno..and im a little scared about what time will bring. But maybe knowing what else is out there, and figuring if these guys are the 1 is a good idea.. I don't know really. But i do know that there are people who def treat us better. And we are too good to just be put aside and not top priority.!!

hey guys... I was wondering what people thought about a situation. I got involved with a guy a year ago.. And the time that I met him, he had recently be trying to get over a previous relationship that lasted about 1/2 a yr. From what I was told, he was in love with this girl at home but she had cheated on him, and that is how it ended. He seemed very upset by her cheating, and very hurt. Although he didn't say anything to me, it seemed like the thought of her and the situation always kind of bothered him, like he wanted to cry but didnt want to show it. A few months later we started dating , and it turned into a beautiful serious relationship. It ended once we separated from college, and were at our separate homes, 4 hrs away from each other. He broke it off with me, and never gave me a reason no matter how many times I had asked. He just said he didn't know, something just clicked for him. Inside, I didn't understand because he was so eager to stay together through the summer, and was jsut as happy as I was. After the summer, back at school..we began talking again and he was very on and off about wanting me back. He just didn't want a relationship anymore yet regretted what he had done to us. Anyway, I am very confused by everythign he has been doing and saying this last year, after our breakup.. I guess my question for you guys.. Is whether he could have some major issues, with insecurities and trust, from being cheated on. Despite the fact that he had said he did trust me, is it really possible that he could just be still hurt and messed up from everything? He does a good job hiding his fears and emotions, so it's hard to tell. But we had gone from being with each other everyday to not seeing each other for a month. Do you believe it is a possible reason? Any other advice about my ex, would also be appreciated... THANKS!!!

Schziophrenia? I Dun't know but I can ask you the same thing. I think you are verrrry angry and need to run or something to burn off your frustrationg.. It isn't healthy!!!

Hey... Well I'm a woman...but I just wanted to say that we are not the enemy. There are many females who like sweet caring guys, not all of us like the jerks..Do you really want ur ex back? I don't have much advice to offer you because unfortunately I am going through the same thign right now with my ex bf. I could spend the time complaining about him but I wouldn't want to bore you. I just thought it mite help to hear that someone is going through the same situation as you are right now..BUt within time it has gotten better for me..And I'm less depressed and stuff.. If you ever would like to talk or vent I'm always here..Just PM me or post again.. And maybe this girl just doesn't know what the hell she wants,,,but games doo suck I agree!! GL

i think it is as simple was her wanting what she can't have.. Taking your for granted and feeling scared without, and maybe not finding anyone else as great as you or who let her do whatver she wanted without fighting back.. I think you are much better than that..deserve more and should just stay away from her. I know it hurts but deep down you must know you need more and deserve better!