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Hey all- I started taking effexor about a month ago. I was taking half of a 37.5 mg pill every other day. Then started taking it everyday. And now I am taking the full pill. It has only been a few days on the full pill. Ever since I started taking the effexor I feel ridiculously exhausted. I have never felt so tired. My eyes feel heavy. And I've been sleeping a lot. My doc said to give it some time and it should go away. I also have dry mouth. Has anybody on effexor felt the same way? And has it gone away for you? Going to work is becoming such a challenge. :sad:

couchlove- i know how you feel. Parents going through divorces is so rough! My parents have been going through a very slow separation for over 4 yrs and it drives you so crazy. BUt i left everything bother me when i was in school and i didn't do so well on some exams the first few years. Looking back on it all now, I really wish I didnt let everything bother me and i just focused on myself. I agree with robowarrior- u should just go to the library everyday and avoid the issues at hand right now. Things will still be around when the tests are over but focusing on school is so important right now. Maybe at the moment it doesnt seem to be significant to you at all but trust me, u'll wish u had years down the line. Do what is best for you.

hey- well im 23 and never met anyone at bars. i meet a lot of guys through other friends. But besides that I would try hanging around the bookstores or coffee places. Or maybe the gym? i hope this helps you

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I think I need help. I found out that my fried just 21 years old died this past MOnday. I've known now for two days and I'm in such shock. He was leaving to drive back to college from his home the day after thanksgiving. He was only 5 minutes away from his house when he got into a car accident. He was conscious and called his parents when it happened but was taking to the hospital. Monday he passed away from internal injuries. We were better friends 2 years ago but he is my close friends best friend. We all shared a lot of times together. I did not get to see him in over a year cause he wwas overseas for the whole year in college. I wanted to see him this year in school but we had not found a time to. He wasn't my very close friend but I did spend time with him. I feel really sad and keep crying on and off whenevr I think of something he used to say. But part of me feels like I didn't know him well enough to feel this strong feeling of loss. I think the fact that he was such an intelligent incredible guy who is my age, and was going to graduate in May is really what is hitting clsoe to home. ANyway, I never had this experience before. My grandma just passed away also but this news is hitting me like a town of bricks. I don't know how to handle it.

hey.... me4ta- I kno you are right..I really shoulda kicked him when he was down because he deserves it. But i've been trying to seek some kinda closure between what went on. We sorta just dropped talkin to each other, and nothing was said. I guess I still have a place in my heart for him and I just couldn't tell him to f*** off. But i know he deserved that. I think above all this whole thing feels unreal to me because it happened outa nowhere and I was kinda taken a back. And still am. Don't really know what I want to do. I just don't want him to throw my life off track again. In a perfect world I'd love to meet for drinks discuss the past and feel like that chapters closed but I know that could never happen. So maybe I shouldn't talk to him at all. And i do know that nothing stopped him from talkin to me prior..and i did have every intention of leeting him know this but I was saving it for in person if that ever happeend.... ughhh

well thanks you make lots of sense. And you are right about bad girls. He has always gone for them, and has always gotten dumped by them in the end. And he has always dumped the good girl first. Crazy world we all live in huh? Thank you for all you help though. You rock.

Yeah you are right. I'm so happy you were able to give me some advice from a guys perspective. He hurt me so bad I should have just told me to leave me alone and let him feel lonely, but I'm too good of a person to do that. I had one more question for you though. He has made many many comments in the past about me being too good, and having an excellent head on my shoulders and so on. Sometimes I feel like I was too (not trying to sound conceited) good and level head, and innocent for him. We are two different people, hes a pothead, and im straight when it comes to all that. He has had the sexual experiences, and he was my only one. Would this be something that spooks a guy? Holds a guy back from wanting to be with her? Whether it be cause of a fear of being unable to satisfy... I don't kno.

Your explanation seems like a good one. He did just get dumped like 2 days ago, he told me. I guess in a way I can felt rejected again because he said we were better off as friends. It's weird to me when someone thinks of you so highly, as he had said. And is physically attracted to you but doesnt want to be more than a friend to you. I never understood that. So that part feels strange to me.

So my ex bf and I hadn't spoken since April when he started dating someone out of nowhere and dropped me for her. He just imed me today after all this time of nothing...and started to tell me what happened. We end up taking for like 2 hrs. And during the convo he apologized a few times, said i deserved better from him, and that he was looking to talk to a friend, and misses the friend part of our relationship and said somethin that we were better as friends... and this talk confused me. I was tryin got be the better person and talk to him normally to try to gain some closure. BUt i have no idea why he kept sayin the friend thing so much? For someone who was just dumped last nite after a 6 month relationship (and he really liked her) this seemed weird. Any thoughts? Should I meet with him for a drink to catch up if he persues? We are back at school for the last year living 2 blcoks away. See previous posts if you need more info. Thanks!

Hey!! RUNN AWAY dont walk but RUN.... If he doesnt want to committ to you, but still is ok with having sex id seriously just get out of there. He shouldn't be able to have you that way, unless its mutual.. And i'm so passionate about this particular topic because i did the same thing and elt it happen for 2 years after our break up. In the end, he never gave me what I wanted no matter how many times he said he was going or he wanted to.. And he ended up sleeping wiht someone else after those years we spent fooling around, droopped me in a heartbeat, and is now with ehr as we speak. I realize that no one guy is the same,...and ur case could be very different. Just take my story, and think real carefully...because I got so messed up over doing that with him in the end and suffereed badly.. . GOod luck...

Hey Toni, Often I heard from many people that there really is no such thing as closure. Well my brief story is this: Met this guy freshmen yr in college, we went out for about 7 months. He was my first sex partner so there was a huge emotional attachment there, whereas I wasn't his. We were very different but we really loved each other in the beginning, maybe too much too soon. When summer came, we lived about 4 hrs apart and eventually he broke it off for me just because he simply couldnt handle it... (Never got a real explanation for that) Now I am going into my senior yr at college, and me and ym ex had been in a very odd friendship where he basically kept me along on a string, saying he wasnt ready to commit again but soon, but then he didnt have time, but he still cared...back and forth like that. I was naive, and believed that he really did love me and stuck with it...through a lot of emotional abuse too that came with it all. Basically he got what he wanted from me, sex and companionship when he needed it.. A little over 2 months ago, my ex dropped me suddenly and made it publicly known that he spent the night with someone else, and continued to leave this meesages online that he was happy spending time with this other girl.... A FEW days after he slpet with me and I poured my feelings out too him... He didnt think he was at fault, he even tried to talk to me a week later but I was cold and distant.. Then decided to blcok him online and not talk to him ...Well its been over 2 months of NC.... I feel better but it seems like I've been trying to create my own closure and its just not happening. I believe that my ex is still with this girl and is happy with her... He has attempted to speak to me once in the 2 months and I ignroed him... Basically, I dont know how I could get the right closrue I need to forget him. I dont know if I should speak to him again or what.... What do you think about this situation?? Any input could be tremendous help.. THanks in Advance.

I just wanted to say that I was dumped, and i stopped talking to my ex for about 9 weeks. And he contacted me, although I did not respond he still did it. Just to let y ou know, the dumper does do it though I'm not really sure why.

Okay. Well everything eevryone says is really true. I never believed that this would happen to me but it just did. When you finally feel like you are totally getting over your ex, and are happyw ith everything in your life, and like other guys... they come around somehow. I didn't think my ex and I would ever speak to each other again.. If you want the details of our history feel free to read my past posts if you have patience. But basically he has someone new, for the last few months. He was very rude to me the last time we spoke and after experiencing more pain than ever before, i decided it was better if we didn't talk at all this summer. So i had blocked him online, the only way we really communicate when we are at home (neither of us are phone people). So, i just started working at this job and I have been having fun and talking to a lot of different people. Even developing crushes, and having a very happy dream about one in particular just last night. My ex bf just imed me under his other screen name that he barely ever uses. Its been 63 days, i thought it was just dead but he imed me .. "ha..you did block me." and then i signed off not knowing what to do but signed on because i did not want him to think he affected me.. and tthen he imed me.."that's waht i thought.." and that was it. I didn't say one word to him, nor did i block him. I just didn't care to say anything to him because I feel like I am so strong and have gone so far already, why ruin all of that. And I didn't want to block him because then that shows there is still some emotion. Well i don't know why he imed. Not sure if I really care. Just think its funny how I truly believed we'd never speak again, and when you move away from them they just know. I guess from here I do nothing and Just keep on progressing away from him. But i wanted to share my little story for all those who have kept up with my posts. On a last note, I wasn't even happy or excited that he imed me. I was mostly unaffected, and I guess thats because I really have let it go. If anybody has comments, i'm all ears.

Hi girl.... MY ex is seeing someone new also so I know how shocking it feels at first. PM if u want to talk... I feel your pain.

Hey...yeah, its true. There isn't much you can do because the shape and definition of your jaw is all genetic... I took a bone class in college so I definitely know.. Maybe losing some weight well help but i doubt it. There is also chin implants that help define the jaw but I don't know if you'd be into that.

OH and please i just saw his profile.... on his screen name... I had him blocked but i saw it under my other name... and it says this... "it started with a look, grew with a joint and a night well spent. it keeps getting better." ..this is about that girl obviously and he never had anyhting about me in his profile... what do you all think?

Hey.. well i was talking to a really smart friend of mine and told him how it really hurt to know my ex bf was now with someone else..imaging they are so happy together, doing the things he never wantd to do with me and laughing and kissing...Yeah just thinking the worst possibly thoughts of course. Well I told him i felt like i was lacking something that this girl had and thats why he didn't want to be with me. Well he said that I should flip it around, and say to myself that its not that she has something that i don't have..but its more like he is with her because I won't be with him the way he wants me to be.... And thinking about what he said, really made me feel a lot better. It makes sense to.. He started getting serious with her around the same time I told him I didn't want to have a "non serious" relationship with him.. Of course teh thoughts of them together do hurt, it is only for a few minutes rather than a few hours.. And now its been over 7 weeks of NC. So it helps.. Basically the reason for my little story is to throw out the idea to everyone that maybe people who are healing from break ups and blaming themselves should try to see things for another perspective. It is not your fault, you should not feel rejected..it is there fault.. Just think about the situation from a neutral point of view. Put a different spin on things.. Even if you don't fully believe what you are saying, just hearing out loud a few times will make you feel a little bit better.... Healing takes a longg time for many...but i believe its such a big mistake to take the blame for the whole situation and put yourself down like i did for soo long!!

Hi. I was in the same boat as you. And you know I could never not talk to my ex bf. Well two years passed, and just a lot of emotional b.s. continued-- in the end it just hurt me so much more and he used me big time. I wish to god I'd just stop talking to him after the intial breakup.. BUt now I have saved whatver was left of my dignity and i'm happy to say today is the 7th week since i have spoken to him.. I had to block him, otherwise i would not have been strong enough to not respond to him online. So now I feel a whole lot stronger than ever before, and there are times that really suck and you wish things weren't like this but what keeps me going is knowing that if i made it this far, i can keep it up. Honestly, if he cares he'd find a way to reach me but instead he has someone else. So Yes....i do recommend you NCing now. The quicker you start, the better it will be in the end. It sucks, but you can do if i can... gl

Hey guys. This is goin to be a quick post. Just wanted to say that I was finally convinced to see a therapist because my heart act from my ex and my family problems just become to much to handle. This person I met with is wonderful.. I've only had 3 meetings but I feel a tremendous burden lifted off my shoulders. I see things a lot diffferently now and just having outside support like that really helps. So my advice to any of you experiencing too much on their plate right now is to consider some kind of coach or therapist to help you plan a way to recover. It really feels good have someone who will listen to you with open ears.. Just something to consider...

wooh. it really sucks to know that my ex has someone else who he cares about on some level and she cares about him (probably more). But either way it just really really sucks. And i'm definitely feelin that today. due to the summer, they aren't in the same town but I'm almost positive she sees him on the weekends. And it kills. I blocked him online for the past 6 1/2 weeks in hopes of seeing him make some kind of effort to contact me but nothing has happened. He is with ehr on some level just forgetting about me. And what hurts is that he started foolin aroudn with her right after he fooled around with me. We were still in some weird relationship for 2 yrs on and off and then he just dropped me one day, and tried to pick me up again a week later. But i denied him, and was cold to him. Now we don't speak whatsoever, i won't unblock him adn thats that. But i dont know her, i do kno her screen name, and i see these away messages and stuff... and boy does it hurt like i keep saying.. I think the worst part is that she is like my replacement and now he don't need those things from anymore.. He probably gets the kind of relationshiup he wants from her that i didn't feel comfortable with ...lots of sex, pot, and just foolin aorund and being laid back. But all of this just blows my mind and really came outa nowehre... Grrrr

hey..well i get my own highlights done at a salon but they do look hot on guys in my opinion Um the only thing im thinking of is maybe using a womans color product and buying one of those boxes that have the little plastic tool that is easy to use so the highlights are spaced at evenly. I don't how to describe what im talking about exactly, i just saw it on tv and looks like a mini rake... I kno I sound crazy but look over the shelves and see if u can find it... GL

Hey ya'll... Hope evryone is doing well. So it's been 6 weeks of no contact with my ex bf who broke up with me. I just blocked him online. Last I left off with him, he made sure to rub it in my face and let me know that he had someone else whom he has more fun with and moved on from me....or so this is what he said. I wasn't sure how serious he was about her, and i still don't know. But before he said all of this he wanted to know if I found anybody to "occupy" my time with since i didnt seem to care about him anymore... We had this weird friendship where we spoke a lot, hung out, and fooled around a lot- on and off for about 2 years post break up. We go to the same college, but since its summer here we are in our separate homes for the next 2 months. No contact feels good for the most part. I feel very strong, and my head is starting to clear up. I do think about him a lot less but sometimes I feel bad that things had to be the way they did... And maybe deep down I thought he'd email me by now to see what was up..cause he has before. But he may be with someone else right now who keeps him feeling wanted. Plus NC is hard sometimes, because that other person might think you really don't care about them anymore. Since i do not feel as strong as I can feel I think continuing blocking him is a good idea. I wish we could talk but I know he wil only try to hurt me.. He made these two attempts online to talk to me, and i was short and cold to him because of something he had done. Anyway, what do you guys think? And is it stupid to think hes wondering whats goin on with me but is to proud to email me?

Hey..well i can say is that my ex broke up with me and started iming me also several days later....and i got new for u...2 yrs later.... HE STILL IS!! He claimed to still care about me but wasn't ready for any commitment.. So ya kno, after lettin ghim lead me on I finally put an end to the garbage and blocked him online, and we haven't spoken in like 6 weeks...and it feels pretty good. So i think our ex's still do it because maybe they want to feel like they are still wanted, and maybe not so sure of their actions either and just want to keep us around. Its hard to pinpoint it, but it depends on wat ur ex says...so pm if u'd like.. GL

Hi. Well lemme say that i know your thoughts about NC...and wondering all these things. I wonder teh same things, i really do and i have these moments of weakness where I want to break it. But i say that if i made it this far theres no sense ruining all that. And thats what I think goes for you too... Im not sure how long you have been not contacting him, but i cant tell its doing good for you. I just don't you should talk to him until you are absolutely over him, ya know so you wont be the slightest bit vulnerable and ruin all the progress you made. And being completely void of all those feelings may take a longggg time or may never totally happen, but I think you should just hang in there until he does something if he does. And i believe that it would be better if and when you 2 run into each other that weekend.. Just kinda let nature take its course, i know how you feel so PM me if youd like.. Gl