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Day 2 Can't stop checking her Facebook, which is good in a way, because her new boy is in town and she says she is feeling "confused" on her profile.. Looks like no contact is having an effect already and it's making me feel better.. I don't know how to read into it though, I know its about me, but I don't want any more false hope... I don't contact her at all, but if she initiates contact I go along with it. She called over to drop some of my stuff off and I asked her what she was doing with her new guy this week, to which she replied "I don't know".. I was going out with some of our mutual friends and she looked a bit upset about staying inside.. If she initiates contact, shall I ask her why she's confused?

Day 1 So this is what it feels like at the bottom.. I've got nothing left.. Facebook is the killer, I can't stop myself checking it.. She sent me some really sweet messages which are probably going to give me false hope..

Hi thanks for the reply, no I'm originally from the UK (which is how I met her), although I moved to SA soon after we met.. When I returned we got into this present relationship, and yeah I guess I should get her involved before I even apply which is fair enough.. Im surprised she's never picked up on my desire to go back though

Hey all Well a major problem thats been nagging at the back of my mind is one concerning me going to university in South Africa whilst my English girlfriend stays in the UK. We see each other every day (I'm currently living in the UK) and have been in a relationship for a year now, so its fairly serious, and I could see myself staying with this girl for a very long time.. However, I don't want to let the relationship get in the way of me doing what I want to do, so I'm pretty set on going back to SA. First of all, I guess it would be best to ask what she thinks about it? (I havent applied yet so it isn't set in stone or anything).. I'm going to let her decide whether she wants to continue the relationship, I would love to and think we would be able to do it, but I would understand if she didn't like the massive distance (7000 miles) between us, and only seeing each other every 6-7 weeks.. I guess beggars cannot be choosers either, so this is entirely her call.. Anyway this makes me feel like a total jerk, but I haven't been able to bring myself to telling her yet.. I guess I'm scared of what her reaction might be, but I haven't had to do anything like this before.. I guess I'd just like some advice on bringing it up gently, after all, I haven't even been accepted yet, so don't want things to end between us just because I brought the subject up Cheers all Rich

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Hey all I fancy a change, and my dark brown hair is boring me.. Id quite like to get blonde streaks/highlights in my hair.. However I don't have the time or money to go to a salon, so I will have a go at doing it myself Anyway being a total newcomer to all this I don't have a clue about how it all works.. What do I need to go and buy? And where can I buy it.. Also what are the procedures?? Ive noticed some people mess up and their hair turns out ginger, how do I avoid this?? Many thanks

Just dont do it... it is so frustrating.. and if you don't get her back it could really hurt your feelings.. The biggest mistake I made was staying in touch with my ex.. Move on.. If they got rid of you, they cant have it all their own way...

I split up amicably with my ex who really wanted to be friends... I went along with it for the best part of a year... it was a bit like going through hell, being tempted, then pushed back, like a puppet on a string.. Ive now done a "runner", and she won't be hearing from me again... Anyway, as you go through life you learn lessons.. The biggest lesson I have learnt is to take the hint when someone you love with all your heart throws it all back in your face.. and run... In the end you will feel better for it.. Just my two cents.,

She just stopped loving me (Great...) However she did say that she thinks things would have been different if we had been much older and more mature (Both 17 at the mo).. Thats why I think things might change in the future... Only time will tell though It doesnt help that she goes to school near me and is always around town... Ive started being really bitter towards her because I feel like I am being used, and Im not getting what I want out of the relationship... So that doesnt help things, especially as deep down I love her... Anyway the pain is still there, but I know I am getting better.. I know she misses me, and that is her problem to sort out...

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Hi all Well I got dumped by an Ex I still love and care for deeply... However she is in the "Would like me as a friend" stage.. I cannot and will not settle for "friendship" when I have strong feelings for her.. She cannot have her cake and eat it... NC is impossible because we live to close.. However I have given up all my cricket playing, and have given up going to a Red Hot Chillis concert so I don't have to see her... She always wants me to talk and be there for her (doormat I guess).. I need to tell her how I feel.. Im not sure what I want to achieve with this really. Ive all but given up on her coming back, but I still love her, and she is still really fond of me (from what I hear).. I came up with a few words which I want to tell her on MSN, this is how I feel summed up in a sentence or two.. "You know how I feel about us Anna , but I'm afraid we can't go through with this while you always get your own way.. So take it or leave it.. If you dont know what you want, you should give yourself some time to decide" Is it worth telling her? Ive been ignoring her recently which I kind of feel bad about.. I just need to tell her where this relationship stands... Feedback, as always, appreciated...

Id love just to be myself, and go up and talk to her.. But im not really sure she is interested.. Shes been great with me for ages, but recently has been bitching about me behind my back... So I don't know what she wants really..

Been following this thread, in exactly the same situation, so PM me if you want, would be interesting... Davo, you just have to think of it this way...You love her unconditionally right.. Why should you have to put up with second best?? Ive become very cynical recently, but I refuse to be content with a "friendship" with a girl I have put my life into.... Sounds like a silver medal to me... Hope all goes well, keep us posted... You have to stop being a stop gap and live for yourself.. Remember this whole thing is hard for you too.... All the best.

Yeah I cant help but feel for you guys... I know it all too well, I mean why do I have to make out that the girl I have a crush on is the most beautiful thing in the world?? I know there are plenty more fish in the sea, and there is plenty of time, but sheesh, love does suck sometimes I really should do something about things!