allsOp
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The night before winter break I went out with all of my friends to the bar for dollar bottles and came back and talked to this girl that I have been attracted to for a long time (both of us were in relationships at that time) but couldnt do anything. It was just a mere attraction. That night we began talking and talking and what was previously unspoken was spoken. Before this occurred, my ex and I had talked about getting back together and that was going to be the highlight of her break. We ended up seeing each other a lot over break but never really officially got back together or anything. This girl at school and I still talk all the time and are both attracted to each other, but I dont know if I am still in love with my ex or still want to come back or pursue this new girl. I am not asking for answers or anything, but more in the realms of advice in the sense of how do I know what will make me happy? What would you do in a situation like this do figure out what you wanted? What would make you happy. Danny
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Last night m girlfriend and I were talking online about what we did this weekend. She was showing me pictures and she said oh that is the guy who was hitting on me and followed me around the party. I asked what happened. Not in the sense as did she hook up with him, but how did it end, Instead she got really mad, and said that she was on a leash and that I could not trust her. I only asked because I care. This was in her blog last night: It almost makes me want to go out and hook up with this one guy. I would never actually do it, but in my mind I play around with it. Let me write that again, I would never actually hook up with another guy, but when sh*t like this happens inside my mind I start playing with the idea and what the consequences would be, what it would be like... it is the romantic part of my brain. Romantic being the true definition of romnatic being "Not based on fact; imaginary or fictitious: e.g., His memoirs were criticized as a romantic view of the past. Just to get back at him or something. I dont know? Was I wrong in asking what happened? She said never talk to her about this issue either. I dont get that. We are in a relatiionship able to talk about anything I thought, but now this. I am so confused. Anyway, this all ended with her telling me to f-off and i love you and she didnt talk to me the rest of the night. What do I do?
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I dont think things will improve if you dont confront her with your feelings. A boyfriend in jail, if she is as nice and good as you described her than she should have nothing to do with the guy in jail. He is violent, or something, and that is not right for any women.
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Alright, it is not neccesary to shave. Ok on to fingering. I would say that more often than not fingering is not the best route. Try working the clitoris, which is above the vaginal opening. You will find it. It is like a penis and becomes filled with blood and increases in size when aroused. If you are set on fingering her you want to ease in and push up towards her belly button and come back. Sorta like a come here motion. This should hit her G-Spot, but above all else ask her what she likes and what feels best. Communication is the way to have a relationship especially when intimacy is involved succeed. Good Luck
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How do I help? Anyone please respond
allsOp replied to allsOp's topic in Health: Body, Mind and Spirit
thanks for the advice. She is still in the hospital, but not inpatient. She is in what is called partial. She eats all three meals there and receives counseling throughout the day. Thanks for the advice again. danny -
It is called depression. I fought for awhile and have finally overcome it. See a psychologist and see if you truly are diagnosed, but if what you described is you, then you are depressed in my opinion. Get help, you can have your life back again. I know it is hard, as I have been there myslef, but any question that you have feel free to email me at email removed or pm (i dont check it much though so...thats why I gave you my email. danny
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My gf has been bulimic now for two years. I am trying so hard to help her get through this. She just went inpatient in the hospital and I went to see her everyday and supported her. I have always been there for her, but what can I do to help her recover and not have a "setback" too often? She has been out a day and is already craving food and afraid of eating but is fighting the thoughts. She is feeling guilt over eating. excerpt from her blog: Because right now the only honest and sensible answer to not binging is not eating. I'd rather not eat at all than to fail, no, be "set back" by the onslaught of another binge. Not eating isnt good either. What can I do? Any advice is welcome. Thanks in advance, danny
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thanks for the adice guys. i talked to her last night, and it turns out we both pushed away from eachother. it was an f off on her part, and i want to help on my part that she wasnt ready for. we talked and understand why it happened. thanks for everything guys.
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my gf and i got in a big fight today about underage drinking. and i was sort of preaching to her that it wasnt right, and especially at the location and time in which she was going to do it. she kept looking off in the distance and seemed to me that she wasnt paying attention. i asked her "are you listening?" and she replied "no." i had my hand on her hip or side or something and i lost it and turned away, and in doing so i pushed her away. i immediately went to a bedroom (we were in a suite with a bunch of other people) and lied on the bed face down and cried my eyes out. she was so mad. all i wanted was her to hug me. she did right before we left. what do i do. i didnt mean to do it, and there is no violence in my family. do i need help. i love this girl to death. i just wish i knew what to do. i am going to apologize to her tonight. oh yea, i failed to mention that this was in her blog. that is how i found out about the situation or else i would have apoloigized right there.
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i feel like the scum of the earth--i think i have led her on
allsOp replied to allsOp's topic in Getting Back Together
you asked how little--nothing major we just flirted for 2 weeks or so, and she came over to my house for 2 hours, but other than that we were jsut in a group. and i just realized that going into a different relationship feeling the way i did about my ex would not be the thing to do. -
Its been 3 weeks since my gf and i broke up, and we are both just realizing that we broke up due to the emotional stresses in her life. i dont want to go into them in detail, but she has bulimia and depression. neway in the past 3 weeks i had a little thing for this other girl, and i am now just realizing that i am not over my ex. we have talked a lot recently and want to get back together. she asked me if i could forgive her for messing things up. i told her i already had--isnt that the basis for love?--forgiveness. we had everything, and she finally realized that, as i have realized that i am not over her, and dearly want to get back together. but i led this girl on, and i dont know how to make things right. a lot of people are going to be mad at me, but i think it is better of me now to realize that i am not ready and have feelings for my ex, than a week or a month into a relationship that i think i rushed into to cover up my feelings. i feel like the worst person alive. i dont know what to do. i really havent slept in 2 days. please help, danny
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alright. my gf and i just broke up. i loved her dearly, but it was mutual. we just fell apart. it was for the same reasons as my girlfriends and i have previosly broke up. commitment. i am in highschool, but am looking for a serious relasionship. one that has a future and is not just for highschool. i have been heartbroken twice now because i want commitment and my gf doesnt. i feel so bad. is commitment in highschool too much to ask? all i want is someone to share life with. someone i know who has the same aspirations for the relasionship that i do. how do i find out if someone wants commitment or not? hope that makes sense--im sitting in a pile of my own tears right now thanks danny
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alright, let me get this straight. If this is incorrect post a reply that is a little more clear. You have been dating a guy for 7 years, but realize now that you love his uncle? If this correct, post a reply, and ill think of what i would do. danny
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My girlfriend and I are both 17 and have been dating for almost a year now. She has all the preconceived notions of how to change her life for the better. She is set in living in Chicago because its "Chicago" and wants to get drunk. Thats the one that bothers me. I dont have a problem with a drink here or there, but getting flat out drunk at 17 I do have a problem with. So anyway, we got invited to a party last night where people will be drinking and most likely getting wasted. I really feel bad about going, and honestly dont want to go. How do I tell her how I feel? How do I know she just wont do it behind my back? She is really set on doing this. Its one of her preconceived notions. I dont know how I could look at my parents after doing that. I love this girl deeply, but if this is how its going to be I dont know what i want. Having the girl i love or feeling so much shame and guilt that i know i cant take. I love her so much, but i dont know what to do. Please help. thanks danny
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Thank you so much--that was the inspiration i needed--you truly have helped me so much--that advice is invaluable--i cant thank you enough you've made my day!