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  1. TRAUMA
    sounds to me like you are full of FEAR..no offense...Just so u know, nothing that we migth say here or book you migth read will prepare you 100% on the committed life.(marriage)..Once you fall in love (or lust) you will forget everything we migth say here..but, the experience is good.. I will give you some examples of "my marriage situation", ..or maybe some pointers of the thing I believe are crucial for the "pertnership".. for what I have learned thus far ,marriage is like a "corporation", per se . or a small business...Most important: COMMUNICATION..in all aspect of the word..respect for each partners ideas.. and ..NO SECRETS.. (in other words TRUST).. I keep preaching this here. believe me I have implemented this in my life and yes, it works..For exmple, your friends, should be at least acquainted to your partner.. at least..if not .Why the hell get married!.......Finance. very imp. Thank GOD, no prob. there for us...dont be selfish w/ money., but not materialistic either..Hey! are you understanding..this is going to be LONG..maybe I should resume it , and then write back!!... am i helping????
  2. TRAUMA
    OK! ..Just because shes not your wife(yet)..you can not demand..(and i mean "demand") a stop to this nonsense..But she is someone you care about, thereforeeee she should respect the way you feel about this "phone B.S...understand???...She should tell this kid that "his phone calling" is pissing you off, and thereforeeee, if hes got something to say to her ,it can be said in your presense..and dont fall for the "privacy" B.S. Remember this: Theres NO SECRET in a healthy relationship..Good luck!
  3. TRAUMA
    Get rid of the middle guy, and go find out on your own...since it is what you want to do. Be honest. and sincere and polite. and just ask..it is called "communication"..if he rejects you, well you have no choice but to move on baby...Good luck!
  4. TRAUMA
    Dont get upset at "others" for taking sides. They dont know the root of the problem in the relationship...It happens. If therapy did not work. God bless you both and it is time to move on..Good Luck!...
  5. TRAUMA
    Evil?? Please!...You haven't done any wrong....Reading your significant other's mail is not a crime (in my book)..I speek from experience . Been in your shoes before.. This "privacy" between couples is totally B.S... There should not be ANY secrets in a relationship!.. PERIOD!!...especially in marriage..You can either: 1) Confront her about your findings and be honest...after all you were concerned about her.(and look what you have found)..OR 2) Play dumb and live with the uncertainty. Your suspicion will grow by the day and you will not be able to sleep..because of "privacy".. Good Luck my friend...NO SECRETS..
  6. TRAUMA
    I agree with heloladies21.....soo many women out there...dont waste your time here...
  7. TRAUMA
    For the sake of peace..dont do it!...especially since your husband forgave you..You got to realize that what your husband did and is doing to work through YOUR mistakes is in my opinion one of the hardest thing a human can do today in this lifetime...I admire him, for being ..kind, noble and ...a man..(he's got balls of steel)..I am not sure I could do it. Its HARD!...Forget your past..by that I mean that looser ex of yours, and please dont hurt those who love you , again.. good luck!..
  8. TRAUMA
    O.K. give him his space for a while and ...see what happens. how long is a while??..maybe it does nt matter... move on, with no regrets or hard feelings. thats my advice....wish you the best!.
  9. TRAUMA
    do not spend a freaking dime on a wedding...(with someone like this). and dude?...you're not being a MAN..do you un/stand?? ..it seems to me she's got control of the relationship. (if she can have a relat. w/ another dude). thats totally unacceptable. You got to put a stop to this rigth away. and on top of it, you got to put up with her rejections??..no way man..!!! Get rid of her...sounds easy for me to say..but, she is going to extremes,and you dont deserve this.!! Love your child (always)..but forget this B....! Can you afford to move away from her?? i mean financially ..forget love..theres none here. sorry. You need to wake up .. I hope Im helping here..???
  10. TRAUMA
    why get involved with someone you cannot trust??..forgetabouther!!life's too short for insecurities!..
  11. TRAUMA
    It's bad if you're going to sit around and wait for a reply..DON'T..what you did was enuff..(something off your chest)..it's another day now..move on..You'll be alrigth!..good luck.
  12. TRAUMA
    talk to him.. dont be afraid...part of the reason why he's got this problem stems from lack of advice from a friend or someone who can hear him out..Tell him your concerns and of course he's got to admit he's got a problem and wants to change..(for his own good.) Visit link removed this site has helped me start to make a change..Good luck!!!
  13. TRAUMA
    when the mood was rigth???...do it before the wedding event., that way at least he won't think is b/c of "the wedding"..(and freak him out.)..my advice, tell him exactly how you feel..and honestly ask how he feels in return, and be prepared for an honest answer..anytime is a good time to tell him..at a wedding I think is the worse...it doesn't seem sincere, but thats just me..Good luck..!
  14. TRAUMA
    What's the matter??..I know you can find some good advice here for whatever is ailing you. please explain.
  15. TRAUMA
    Hey, you did not loose anything..OK..everything happens for the best. it is just another fragment of your life. I know you'll find what will bring you happinness. Good luck!!!
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