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  1. sidhat
    Mine was really devastating.. keep vining vining and vining near everyone that she cheated on me and blah blah blah,.. I pushed her really bad way..now in the phase of seperation.
  2. sidhat
    Thanks OceanEyes,, I am about 60% over my fiancee and still cannot handle the situation that she is keep saying to all family that she wants to marry me and its my luck If I get marry with you ..So my situation is really complicated now.. stuck b/w mine and he family.. But i need something to erase her memories and built self confidence .. Yeah you are right I should take things slow now.. otherwise again endup hurting myself or some1.. Thanks..
  3. sidhat
    I am talking to a girl online and she has told me that she just broke up with his b/f.. and really heart broken.. So I m little bit confuse that how to take her and keep going with her and make her comfortable and relax with me.. Any advice will be appriciated... I will meet her after 2 days..
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    Dude, I had a same situation and I know she was with some1,, and when i found out that she is intressted in some1 and trying to dump me ,, so i changed my attitude toards her and make her more comforatble with her space to enjoy with him bcoz I already decided that she is not the one for me no doubt i loved her alot but miss commitment is not tolerated.. So now you have to think from your brain..be her victim but in the sense that you have to be let yourself down that way i did myself near my ex fiance.. and keep loving her and make her feel secure and comfortable with me and never repeated the past and 1 night I finally got sucesss to let her down and finally she was towards me more physical then the other guy.. and then I told her that my game and told her that the way you played with me and now i played with you.. and leave her crying.. So its up to you.. Revenge or Forget. Once a girl mis commit then you cannot do anything to het her back .. there is only way to get her back is if she keep stay single after breakup or dumping.. You have your own choice.. Good luck..
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    Dude, I was 204 lbs when I was with my fiance and she cheated on me so in 4 months my weight is 162 lbs.. I think that the best way to reduce the body fat. Tension, Depression, Frustration and infidelity.
  6. sidhat
    Dude, Ask her directly..
  7. sidhat
    Dear, The only option is Communication you have right now..the more you communicate the better you have idea about the situation otherwise one day you will leave with alot of question.. Here what I think you should do.. 1/ Calm down yourself and try to change your mood ,, anger management is very important. 2/ Make a plan for weekend with her out of city somewhere where you both are relax and can have fun. 3/ Ask her that is there anything you feel I fail to provide in this relationship. 4/ Make her comfortable with you to talk and discuss the issues. 5/ Try to solve all the issues with remain unsolved. You pushed her away now you have to take her back by your positive actions. Be happy near her. Try to convence her for counseling. Only you can save your marriage so try to handle the situation and keep us update. Good luck..
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    Dear, I can understand the situation you have is really hard and painfull for you.. I would suggest you to think from the brain not from your heart.. bcoz in thses situation heart always messed up.. you have to put her in the same situation that you are in so you can see that how much see miss you.. If there is no body behind then you are in a good position. Dont pressure her to come back.. You need to give spark in your relation.. Do things which you didnt do when you was with her,, like plan for vacation, hiking, gym, make yourself intressting...something to make her intrest in you again. If you thinking for NC for getting her back then It will be really hard for you because NC is the way to forget your ex and get over your feelings and emotions about some1.. So think from your mind .. Good luck..
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    After 3 months of breakup yesterday on work, Our new secretary around 2 months in our department came to me and ask for go out for lunch I was depressed with my past but after her offer I make myself comfortable and agreed to go out with her.. she was telling me abt herself at whole lunch time that I have 1 kid and my husband is really lazy and doeant like to work and alos dont care abt me alot.. and blah blah blah.. and I was just keep listening to her.. and then we both talked more and when we get back on work at the main entrance she said these word to me.. " Would you like to take care of my feelings and needs ? ",, and I was really shocked and just smile and she said I will see you on Monday..and her eyes was soo sprinkling.. I dont know exactly how to take it ? what she wants actually ?? how should I take these words in which sense.. ? Please any advice will be appriciated...
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    Dear, WELLCOME TO ENOTALONE... So, This is simple a phase I was also one time become like that .. I bet you fell like doing nothing and really ignorant ,, but its really problematic phase.. Its all because we lose intrest in ourself and lose self respect.. I would suggest you to get active more and the best way to cope with it is join gym and stick on diet. You will overcome on this situation .. take care Good Luck..
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    Dear, Communication is the key of healthy and long lasting relatioship.. But if you both dont talk and dont resolve the issues then it will become more .. I would say wait for his call and when he called you tell him that I dont wanna repeats things which makes us fight but I would like to resolve issues with you for better and strong relationship.. Dont worry things will work out.. take care and smile..
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    DEAR, You know her better than us over here..but these mind games are very very confusing and painful..so better be carefull before get in anything with her.. she might wanna keep you as a time pass or as a friend for benefit..getting back like she just wanna hangout doesnt make sense.. unless she sorry abt why she broke up with you and leave you with pain.. I would say if she called you again just say hello hay and say I am busy so later.. let her think that you are not soo important and doesnt deserve to hangout.. take care,,,
  13. sidhat
    Dear Ahmer,, I would suggest taht you have to bring sparks in your relationship on that point girl really thinking alot and relationship has a REG FLAG.. so u better take care of your relationship as much as you can... you have to respect her feeling if she wants something more out from that relationship do it.. take her on vacation somewhere and lond drives make your self attractive and need to come up with changes,,, SEX is really important but also emotional supports are the walls in your relationship.. tell her to keep everything open in relations.. try to communicate as much you can with her and make her comfortable to express her feelings to you.. dont just let her go.. show yourself that you r happy with her and she is really special in your life.. By the way where you from.. ? Good Luck,,
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    Dear, Its happens to alot of peoples.. Its not her issue that she is leaving you,, its yours that you have to sort things out and the more you communicate with her in a clam down and smily way she will feel more comfortable dealing with issues.. you have to bring spark in your relationship.. you guys really need time for each other .. try to make some vacation plans together and fun having trips .. and keep up that way.. tell her that you love her alot and make her feel special. Convence her to go on counsiling with you.. Dont worry things will work out.. Keep smiling and manage your anger.
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    Dude , You are in the same situation like me.. its been 3 montsh me and my fiancee separated .. but sorry to say if the relationship ends up due to abusive or cheating behavior will never glow again..I also want my fiancee back like crazy but she never wants me back she was soo loving and respectable for me.. I missed her alot and the memories with her when she really wanted to be with me and i was just soo ignorant and abusive and meesed up my self with tensions and stress.. Now she moved on with some and she had a fear to tell me that I m in to some1 else..and our breakup was really bad. I dont know I just keep working on with my life and going back to school to keep myself busy as hell.. But i get a big experience out of it that we cannot take love as granted. take care .. Good Luck,
  16. sidhat
    Its been 3 months of seperation of 2 year relation with my fiancee but I am still in the pain an stress and feel guilty alot.. I really meesed up with my love of my life.. I reliaze that I was abusing her emotionally not giving her much time and fails to make the boundaries for strong relationship,,and 1st year she was really good with me and help me alot with my stress, tensions and angryness.. she wrote me letter and drop on my bed and I still have it in ehich she wrote that "I know we fights alot and this is whole new area for you and nobody knows how much we love each othwers and you are my final and last destiny for my life.. i love you " and I was not giving her much importance..busy in making money also become ignorant.. Now second year she find some1 else and start liking him and move on with him.. and one day caught her and really pissed on her and open everything near her mom and family,, that she is doing that.. then I relaize that I messed up so i went ack to her and said sorry abt that and she was really pissed on me .. and starts revenge..and then she starts abusing me mentally and emotionally.. I was really hurt and feel betrayed and start tryinh more to let her come back..but keep this thing going 8 months and then she end up cheating on me..She finally asjed for forgivness and I forgive her but.. and now we separated and also family wants to do that and they said just be separated for year then you both decides.. But i miss her alot and really regret myself.. Now she is out of sight and I dont know where she is and how she is doing.. Should i contact her ? or should I wait for 1 year to see what happens.. Its really hard for me bcoz os this I shattered my self confidence and self repsect and feel really low self esteemed..
  17. sidhat
    Dear, I feel sorry about your situation.. but NC actually is not for getting back together, is for healing yourself and take care of your emotions and become more stronger form inside.. I was thinking same as you are th abt NC when i break up with my fiancee, and I break the ICE.. and had really really bad experience by that and shattered my all confidence and self esteemed...and end up on cheating.. If he moved on with some1 then never ever bother him and you better move on too.. i know its not easy task but its not impossible.. get your self busy,, do alot of workout,, make your self happy..and put smile on your face.. You will get over him.. Take care
  18. sidhat
    The best ORAL you can give your b/f is suck it and rotate you tongue around it.. my g/f make me crazy for that. Good Luck..
  19. sidhat
    Dude, Why you want to break up with her ? If you are thinking to breakup then take things slow and dont just breakup with her.. bcoz she will be hurt alot bcoz she ended her relationship bcoz of you.. so I dont know exactly until your reason for breakup.
  20. sidhat
    Dear, You shoudl better take things slow other wise you will end up hurting yourself or some1 else again.. I would say tell the other guy straight that I still have feelings for my ex and i want to take things really slow and would like to be friends.. hopefully he will understand your situation.. Try to make your self happy , straight up your life , do things you like to do most and make your room beautifull and clean,, and dont hear sad songs with gives you depression..and most important join gym and keep good diet and commit on it then you will commit and regard yourself very well. And hopefully things will workout. Good Luck,, and say good bye to depressions. and always put smile on your face even you dont want to. take care..
  21. sidhat
    What were the so called reasons you were dumped? Actually i was not dumped and become friend for benefits after breskup. Not giving her much time, lack of intimacy, jealousy input by her, lack of communication. Start making alot of money and saved 100K in year and was thinking abt my future with her and when I came back to her i was too late. Cannot influence her, no spark in relationship.. took her as granted.. Shows stress and tentions near her.. doing alot of over time. and fights At what point did your ex start chasing/calling/texting you? After breakup we both chase each other and coming back in cold relationship..I came back becaude it was my mistake so I wanted to prove that I love her alot. What had you said or done before the tables started to turn? Dont know exactly. table didnt turn in my situation its totally fliped. What was the frequency of your contact with them before they started chasing you? It was like 100 mhz... very forcefully..trying to change alomost everything. Had you tried no contact? Yeah when she said I need a time and space for abt 3 weeks the she called me back and said I want to do workout. What were the first hints that they are showing interest again? \ No intrest all are lies and flirting. How long had it been since you had split up? Finally we separated on 14 Feb 2005 (Valentine day) .. when I caught her cheating on me. Finally and confront her. How much chasing had you done previously if any? Alomst 8 months. [/b]
  22. sidhat
    I think thats cool for you.. you will get good grade now!!!
  23. sidhat
    first of all why you post this in SELF INJUURY forum.. and second is she is just waiting on you to call her out.. so do it as soon as posible .. otherwise she will keep her arms folded for you.. Good Luck..
  24. sidhat
    Dear, If i m in your shoes I will leave her on her own and start doing my important things for my life.. I know will be hard for me to forget the memories but I start try to occupied my mind too busy so i will hardly think abt her.. studies , job, exercises..all I can have for me .. and start improving myself.. And simple and short do NC and improve your self and dont get in any relation until you think you forget her completely.. and then enjoy yourself.
  25. sidhat
    Dear, I was in the same situation like you and end up really bad and hurt .. its better you asked her seriously and gently that what she want and "tell her that I love you alot and always will and the i will committed with you until you give up on me.. so please dont bother me ..if you want to come back then come with open heart and we both will solve issues together otherwise leave me alone and live your happy life.. your hapiness is my hapiness..thats it.. and put your self on NC... If you keep putting yourself on her hands then she may think that you are easy to get and I can do what ever I want and cross the limits... Iwould say leave her and try control your emotions and feelings.. and see what happens.. totally NC with her.. dont give her chance to talk with you .. Good Luck..
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