Downbutnotout

After reading my own post this situation is hopeless.

Little background would help i guess, She was first married when she was 18 and had a daughter, they got divorced after 4 years and she got into an abusive relationship with some guy, so abusive that she feared for her daughters safety and gave custody to ex #1. Along comes ex #2 they have a child together things go sour and she splits from him they where also together for around four years. I started courting her during their breakup and eventually we got together and got married. This child has been through the mill and she is very protective of her to the point where she lets her do pretty much anything she wants. Imagine a 9 yo telling u to shutup and mind your own business. Screaming god dangit and telling my son age 5 to shutup and just be very mean to him at times. When i try to correct this she screams at me to leave her daughter alone and that shes not really doing anything wrong. She believes all people including kids have the same rights, so kids have the same rights as adults you dont get respect till you earn it. Shes atheist im more spiritual. She was very kind and thoughtfull in the beginning but once i started gettin involved in the child rearing of her daughter we started fighting. I eventually started to not get involved in anything and always felt like the outsider. She would always say the kids come first so basically i was number 2. Now dont get me wrong but i believe that the parents should be on the same page and the children are very important but if the families driving force isnt happy what do the children see. So after four years of this we get divorced. Anyway, we got back together 9 months after the divorce was over, we both admitted that we still had feelings for each other. She didnt see anyone during this time, i however did and i ended the relationship with my gf at the time to get back together with the ex. Basically things went fine for about 3 months then it started all over again. Then 2 weeks ago she said I need to talk to you, she told me it wasnt working again and life was to short for her to be unhappy. So here i am with a break up again. My mind is screaming at me to get the heck out, but my heart is with her. Its so hard because i love her and love my son and yes i love her daughters too.

ya she said i could see him whenever i wanted to. She told me she wants me to date other people. I asked her why, she said i think it would make you feel better. Im a pretty decent looking guy, never had a problem finding women to date. I have a solid career in the medical field i make decent money. Why would she want me to date other people, the i think it would make you feel better line just doesnt seem quite right. Is this her way of telling me i need to move on?

What do you mean by her having to much control over the relationship and what is the plot on desperate housewives? She taking my son over to meet his daughters today. What is going on. Any advice? And why do you think she is only gonna see this guy for another month tops?

I just need to know if i should stay to the end of the month or get out now.

Ok so we where married for 4 years broke up and got back together 9 months after the divorce. Its now been 2 years and she told me 2 weeks ago we are breaking up. Heres the hitch. We live in the same apartment still. We have a 5 yo son together. Shes started seeing someone else now and I want to be here for my son. The lease is up on the 10th of June. I dont have any family here so i have no one to stay with. Seeing her get ready to go out on a date is tearing me apart, its driving me insane. Should I just tough it out or just get out and so i dont have to deal with the pain. What about my son? I need help my heart is breaking. I am mess, I want her to say she will get back together, I love her so much. My mind is telling me its over but my heart wants her back. HELP!!

I was raised to always work things out. Walking by someone and chatting a few words about how disgusted you are with what hes doing is not talking. Sit him down so its only you and him and tell him how you feel, really feel. Then tell him what you would like to see happening and ask him if he gets what you are saying. Guys arent like women we dont read into things we take things at face value. People always say communicate but when your telling your boyfriend/husband something about what your feeling or how your mad about something all we here is blah blah blah. If he loves you or cares about you he will listen. SPELL IT OUT FOR HIM HOW YOU ARE FEELING!! Trust me i wish my ex would of done that to me otherwise it just goes in one ear and out the other, especially if you have been married for awhile or together for awhile.

Ive been married to my now girlfriend. That is we where married then got divorced then got back together again. She now doesnt want to work things out anymore. She is "dating" or has gone to lunch with another man a few times. We have a child together and I really want to work things out. I still love her very much. She said if I had changed a month ago she would of tried to work things out, now she says its to late. I believe in the family and im willing to do anything to make this work. I called the guy she was seeing this morning and told him how I felt, that I still loved her very much and wanted to try and keep my family together. We get along great as friends she feels that she doesnt have that spark for me anymore. Should I keep fighting for what I believe in even though she tells me its over or just give up and move on?