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Good for you.. remmember Who ever hurts in relationship is always right.. so you are right.. MOVE ON. forget the past.. GOOD LUCK..

Just be her friend... but dont initiate any contact from your side.. let her call you.. keep conversation small.. and treat her like normal girl..no jokes no topics just hello hai..if she ask you to do something for her just say I am kind a busy or just make soft excuses. and never tell her that you have g/f or busy with some girl.. If you need her back.. otherwise who cares... Dont let her know that you are soo easy to get.. GOOD LUCK...

Dude, I would say Just leave her and put her on no contact phase.. If she meant to be for you she will come back.. but mean while dont bother her dont put pressure on her bcoz you cannot make her to love you..I know its hard for you but its better for your future .. just let her go..One more thing its really normal in relationships..every girl go in this PHASE.. but remmember no body is perfect.. so she is also not perfect .. let her try.. keep in no contact if she tried to contact you reply her just be normal and kool.. Act like a MAN.. and never ever become her friend .. bcoz she will hurt you more in future.. just leave her.. Meanwhile enjoy your life.. go gym, shopping.. be kool .. do party , travelling just dont think abt her.. the more you think the more worse situation become.. BE STRONG.. GOOD LUCK... ~Sid,,,

Wait 3 more years.. then you both will ask "Is there any place we cannot do SEX..." Wait.. maggie18 sounds good. ~Sid..

ohh.. Your husband must be LUCKY person.. Here is one more BIG question !!!! "BUT WHAT IF HE LIKE YOU, THEN HE CHANGE HIS TASTE like you change PIZZA" ?? same like other girls .. No offence, Sorry your reply doesnt ring my BELL... Thanks... ~Sid...

The main issue was on .. "why girls like something before then they dont like it" .. Is it a game or something..?? AND As you said ... "I've lived without sex for TWENTY-SEVEN YEARS! " I would suggest you better go to doctor imidietly .. You might have some sexual issue..

Yup.. I had a ex g/f and now we talk like once in a week,,mostly on weekend sometime.. last weekend I just asked abt the sex we used to do and we both are laughing .. she said I didnt had sex after we breakup and we breakup alomost 8 months.. I said on her face that Its not true.. just wondering.. we use to do Oral sex twice in a week..May be girls have more controll then boys..

If girl had a oral SEX in her life and she said she liked it..and Now she dont want it can girls live without SEX for about 8 months ??..

Friend, I advice you that dont go on assumptions like that.. and never ever talk to your spouse abt that.. just let him go.. but keep your eyes open..confront him when you have some strong proof..otherwise your relationship will messed up..it happens when spouse are not mature or have self confidence..its not yours fault..be normal with him.. everything will be OK.. GOOD LUCK..

Dude, I now its really hard to forget some1 you love.. but just think is she loves you?? if yes then why didnt she contact you soo far,, why she never wants to see you.. I hop you understand.. man life is very small.. just enjoy it and forget the past like a worse dream.. start loving yourself.. go shopping,, the money you spend on her spend on yourself.. buy kool cloths ,, dress up yourself.. go gym..get some activity like playing pool , gambling...partying partying partying.. And the one biggest question of your LIFE.. ARE YOU LOOKING FUTURE IN THAT TYPE OF GIRL ?? !! comon man you can do it.. enjoy and take it as a good experience of life.. MOVE ON BUDDY.. there is somebody waiting for you!!! take care and wishes you HAPPY NEW YEAR... ~Sid...

Dude, I would suggest you to become friendly with her but not her friend.. and when you think she is ready for relationship then tell her your circles and limits that for healthy relationship dont try to cross the limit.. and in the mean while you have to be really carefull dont get involve in her too much and dont make her feel that you are soo easy to get back together,, give her little bit hard time to spend time with you and enjoy with you..dont give her expensive gifts and stuff.. just be normal near her.. let her initiates her feelings first.. She is just amature and need attentions all girls like that.. let her reliazed that you did a mistake.. And for you just love yourself and go shopping , gym and built your self esteemed It might happens next time so you have to get ready yourself for next time.. Just be normal near her and calm and kool.. Wishes you GOOD LUCK and Happy new year.. ~Sid..

After breaking up 4 years relationship and 1 month N/C my fiancee want to start over again.. we breakup bcoz she was become really mean and selfish to me and she said I dont have any feelings and Let your love free it comes back it meant to be..and due to her attitude with me I hurt badly deep inside and almost tears comes in my eyes bcoz I was never expecting her like that in my life I tried my best to keep the relationship but she always remain ignorant..giving priority to her friends.. Now she wants to come back after 1 month N/C and saying that I only wants to hangout with you and go movies and want to spend new years with you..But i react very clam and kool and said I request you to give me some time and I need to think abt it that are we looking future in each other and If you keep calling me I will go more far from you..and I respect you and I just want to give you an open options.. But the thing is that I really loved her alot and I cant see her suffering and in pain..which I dont know she has it or not..and I want to keep more N/C with her abt 2 months after coming back from vacation on 6th of feb 2005.. So i want to get advice that did I said right ?? PLEASE help me friends... ~Thanks...

Dude, These type of situation is normal in any relationship.. The only way to come over her is NC .. give her 3 weeks and try to kill time somewhere ..like clubing , gym go shopping but keep no contact.. let her call you.. and be kool.. give her time to think abt it,,, if she meant to be then she come back.. just take it as a experience in life.. keep in NC phase.. i know its hard but in order to come over her you have to do that.. and dude the more you call her the more she will give you hard time.. be kool and calm.. Wishes you goodluck.. Happy holidays.. P.S i did NC 3 weeks with my g/f we breakup badly no chance to come back..but yesterday we was together on beach and her head was on my shoulder..

Thanks Mentor.. I am avoiding her more..but nor rudely...

we got breakup after 4 yrs relationship..and after 4 weeksd N/C she called me back and wants to hangout with me and want to go on movie and shoppings.. but i dont know whats going on ..and when I tried to ask her about why she breakup and become soo mean and selfins with me..she said just forget the past and lets start all over again..I dont know how to deal with this situation..I am just thinking that If she did breakup again then ??...or why she did breakup .. why girls do that.. PLEASE NEED ADVICE.. Thanks...

Dude, I know its a pain.. but to overcome on her the last thing is "NC Phase".. NO CONTACT...If you see her again just make yourself normal near her..and you better make your mind busy somewhere like going shopping, go gym, clubing partying..and look for some1 special for you.. Just ler her go..you cannot do anything just jealous and make yourself bad.. be kool.. live happy.. and love yourself.. get some1 who case abt you.. GOOD LUCK...

Thanks for reply hockeyboy.. No,, i just want to minimize the communication,, just want to show her that I am good without you..Yeah I am trying to play the rules.. but I am just confused that why she called me after 3 weeks.. Is she just checking me that what I am doing and feeling..or something else..

After breaking up 4 years relationship I go in N/C phase with my fiancee,,It was really hard for me and depressed condistion ,, but enotalone.com helped me alot and my family supports me to maintain myself.. Yesterday night 11:00 pm i was watchin scare tactics on TV i got call on my cell phone,,and I got shocked after looking my caller ID i didnt picked up my cell phone then after minutes I got call on my home phone i didnt pick up and then again she called me on my cell phone also didnt picked up.. like after thinking 3 minutes I called her back and here is the communication,, Me..hello.. she ... hey me .. how r u ? she,, i am fine.. me.. Is everything OK .. u called me..I coulnt picked up my phone bcoz I was in restroom.. she.. aaooo..yeah I just wondering that its been 3 weeks we didnt talk.. me... OH ic.. she.. did you register for class for college.. me .. I did... she..how many.. me ... only 1 class..bcoz of job.. me.. how your work going.? she..yeah its going fine I might have to work on friday chrismas eve night also bcoz they are soo busy.. me ..OH she... hows your MOM and DAD.. me ... they are fine.. me ... I need to go now.. she .. ohh ok.. me .. bye she... bye.. She was really polite and calm and me too.. I am confused what she wants?? is my N/C works?? or should i keep in NC condition with her.. ? thanks for everybody helped for that on this site.. ~Sid..

So what if she have b/f.. just keep hitting her mind to become yours g/f..and let her b/f become member of enotalone.com... lol GOOD LUCK...

Friends, What if you had a SEX (only Oral Sex) with your g/f and then after sometime when you intiates sex she starts saying not right now after married..And i want to do it but not right now..?? what does it mean ??? NEED URGENT ADVICE..

I think the problem b/w you is trust.. You better talk him about future and your relationship with him that how much you want to be with him.. and sometimes bring a gift for him..like shirts and things he like.. when he calms down give him massage on his head..may be he is over depressed with his past affairs.. just keep him busy with new things for a whiles like planning for vacations and weekends plan.. Give him sexuall desire as much as you can to make him feel comfortable with you.. As a wife and husband you both should have Mutual Respects for each others..try to built as much as you can... Please its my request that never ever break relationships..try to make it.. I hate Divorce and seperation.. Wishes you GOOD LUCK and Happy holidays..

Dude, She just want to see that are you still intressted in it or not.. you better keep her in NC and look for something else in life.. let her do what ever she want and dont never ever contact her,, just be normal and simple near her and treat her like normal girls..You better start loving yourself and dress up good.. be kool,, do shopping try to keep your mind busy .. THE MORE YOU THINK THE MORE YOU MAKE IT WORSE.. let her come again and become SOBER near her.. GOOD LUCK..

Steve, I would suggest that keep your self busy with your stuffs, If she need her stuff back she will contact you again,,she might be checking you that you are still avaiable or not....Just be kool and stay calm near her and show her that I dont care if you leave me.. Dude never ever become her friend bcoz she might hurt you again.. just let her go the way she is.. just be normal..If she wants you badly she will show... JUST WAIT FOR GOOD TIME.. GOOD LUCK!!!

Thanks for reply REALITYMAN.. I thin No contact will work only for 2 to 3 weeks,, after that If she dont reliaze and calls back to wotk things out then its ends.. 90% chance that there is some1 giving her time and emotional satisfaction... and girls with low self confidence is like that..What we can do buddy.. I am just looking around for some1 else to move forward.. thanks.. GOOD LUCK,,, Sid

Friends, After breakup of 4 years relationship i didnt contact her since 2 weeks ,, the reason of breaking up that she starts saying the I dont have feelings..and you cannot force me to love you.. Just be my good friend..and I tried alot to make her happy and understand but she starts becoming wiered day by day.. yesterday I just went in her home with my brother and she was looking at me and she totally change in dressing like very simple and start wearing glasses...before she use to wear short shirts and make ups and jewelleries..is she showing me that I am changed ??and there is nothing behind the curtain or she just want to show her family and relatives that I am not intressted in anybody else.?? I DONT UNDERSTAND THAT?? she didnt contact me whole 2 weeks,,