Blue Dreamer

Its been a horrid and expensive winter in Central Oregon, though temps are finally lookin good and we may hit the 70s in the week! Woo-Ho!\\

Ability to get a job in an unlearned field is based on true passion in my experience. Without passion, it will be tough. I went from management information systems to appraising real estate for one reason. I was passionate about appraising. I was a complete idiot about how the field worked in many fashions yet I put my heart into it, learned all I could on my own, and my passion was clear with all interviews. I am know licensed in my state and looking to run my own business. Its all about passion.

There are many sources online providing GED minimal education required to pass the exam. They will teach you exactly what you need to know to get a damn good score. Test youself and invest a few bucks to get your GED. Will pay you back in multitude format (cash) in the future. Good luck.

Give me a sec Wilhelm, sorry to invade the thread.

I dont buy that for a frickin second. You may have issues which I concur with, but you dont sell so full of negativity as Kevin T does.

Never judge a man by his post count. Has minimal value. Nice to see someone understand. Thanks for the post Wilhelm. Shiznit

Long loony post. You have been warned. I’m a frickin genius, so all I say about human life goes J. Please don’t listen to me, for real. Just read on for joy if you dare scientific boredom. Kevin seems to have subconsciously trained himself to constantly think negatively. He sells negativity like it is going out of style. It seems to stem from a complex of up and down life experiences to make things more difficult for himself, especially girlfriend/wife wise. All humans train themselves through experience, some positive, some negative. Key being focus on the positive and ignore the negative. Various negative influences when Kevin was younger, including himself, have taught him to think falsely about himself and others as a result. Negativity seems to represent the vast majority of his posts on this forum. It’s natural for him to have a negative perception of himself, others, and his own future. He struggles to improve yet seems to know no different. Kevin will likely live out the rest of his life without female companionship for one main reason. He has told himself he will. He has told others in his world many times he will. His continuous negative outlook consumes him deeply. He is successful though, he has done good work convincing others like me of his self defined failures. Kevin knows many singles live excellent lifestyles because they allow themselves to. On the other hand, he can have exactly what his conscious mind wants everyday. That includes a hot, brilliant, sensual female in his life everyday. Great sex, someone to talk to, someone to connect with on a deep level, etc. Its always there waiting for Kevin, when he truly wants it. He must get pissed off though. Pissed off enough about his current actions and daily thoughts to decide to grow up and change his focus from his current negatives to his potential positives. His negatives take him where he is currently going. His positives will take him where he wants to go. My best for Kevin. I know he wants the best. Only Kevin will determine his future, be it good or bad. We can advise all we want, yet our advise means nothing unless he takes action as a result. My lecture, Shiznit

You deserve no lynches. You seemed to be more worried about her family and others in the church than you are about her. Find the best time for you to approach her and jump on it. Take advantage of the fellowship my friend. I dare you to take the step and just say hi when you know you can. Of course there is no guarentee but so what? You must say hi as a friend at least. If shes lookin at you, thats a good thing, which you know. You both seem to have alot in common so use it to your advantage. Dont worry bout how people speak, thats not you. Believe in yourself. No worries man, you will do fine.

There is absolutely nothing incorrect with your mindet. Your mister perfect, yes the one you will be bonding with in the near future, will be your mister perfect. You have evey right to be right on, you will find him if you want to bad enough. You always define yourself. You must realize it takes time and serious effort because you are rare and you are looking for a rare male. They do exist. I am gonna clear some possibilities out. Do you offer all the benefits you expect to receive from your prospective mate? Like attracts like, does not come any more simple than that. So many peeps on this forum complaining they can only meet others inferior to them. If you dont offer everything you expect to receive, there is your sign. Money, of course, has no value in a relationship. You appear to offer great benefits to your boyfriends so I am gonna assume you have connected with some males missing some of your benefits. Accept it, and always learn from it. Give it time, effort and love. You will be prospectively rewarded. Always know, like attracts like, there are excellent males.

Thats plain beautiful and absolutley correct. Smart Queen!

Suicide is a sin only if you think it is. Suicide will only hurt you, or someone you know, in the long run if you or they think it will. It does not matter one bit what others, like me, tell you. Our responses are just perceptions, not reality. Suicide is fortunately a choice just like all other actions in life. Suicide is a tendency of a self developed thought. I guarentee that the masses commit suicide as a result of inaccurate negative perceptions and understandings of themselves. I wish I knew why you would ask such an irrational question about suicide. I hope you eliminate your concern as to whether suicide is a sin or not, thats the least of concerns. Suicide is a sin if only you think it is. Only you can make that decision. It is your decision to give your power to another. If I were God, any act of suicide for irrational reason, would by far be the worst action any human could take to improve their future. Running away from reality deserves no respect, and I would hope my God sees the same. That is hope, not reality. Humans must always strive to better themselves, no matter the difficulties. Clearly life is a frickin **** for many at times. I had considered taking my life years ago. It was short lived and probly the best wake up call I could have asked for. As a result, gettin through those times is what makes it all the more worth it. I will have many times in my future yet I have no worries. I favor the challenge for the first time in my life. It feels weird but damn good. Gettin through those *** times are the keys to achieving. Life is perception and we all have perception. Thank God and myself for that one.

Your relation with your boyfriend seems strong. Its been 18 months apx since you've been together, so kudos right there. Whats 5-6 more months? Youre right, it will be tough, but that toughness will only make you stronger and make the relationship stronger also when you do move over next summer. You really should take care of your debts now and you have that option, so jump on it. If I were in your shoes, I would stick it out til summertime and take care of what I know I need to. Think about how great it will come summertime 07' when you move over, debt free and have a bit of disposable money also.

I agree with honey. I think at some point in your life, you went through an experience or maybe multiple experiences which you have essentially latched on to. #1 goal -- You must work on not allowing yourself to be overcome by these situations. You have these feelings as a result of your own past experiences. Just an example of helplessness. My friend directs at the humane society in Tucson and Ive seen enough suffuring to be come accustomed to the suffering of animals. At first, it was tough, but realized its a part of life. I held strong a few months ago when I went to appraise a home and found out it was a shelter for dogs which nobody would take. All this house was was a place for blind dogs, three-legged dogs, dogs nobody wanted, etc. It served as a home for dogs thousands of dogs that nobody would accept into their own homes. Really sad to see all those dogs there because no on would adopt them. I got through it though as I realize thats a piece of life. Same goes for human suffering. Its normal for peeps to have the experiences youre describing if they have been raised in an mostly/entirely different environment that did not include as you describe. With respect to people, many with power do what they can to take advantage of those without power, generally money driven. Its not right, but its a part of life. The key is to understand that and use that understanding to your advantage, not let it get you down. Its a fear like any other fear. You deal with it by facing the experiences which intimidate you head on and ultimately learning to accept them and learn/grow from them. Will build your confidence. Best of luck to you.

Right on man. You'll be fine askin her out. You have a good mindset which can only make you stronger.

Exactly, how does this female pass your test? How can you make a statement like that and at the same time defend her as you are in this thread? Outside of what you perceive to be love, why would you even want this kind of a lifestyle? Dont limit yourself. You really need to examine your priorities.

I dont know, but seems like shes taking advantage of u cuz she put herself in a predicament with that place. She should know her limitations. Did you both sign the lease? Doesnt seem the case. If the lease is in her name only, she is right bout ownership regardless of how much you pay. Anyways, why is something like that so critical? You guys are renting for crying out loud. The relationship clearly has other more important issues which need to be resolved. Smart man if you find your own place for now no matter what.

Males needing porn when they have a girlfriend is evidence of an insecure male. Why should a boyfriend need porn if the relationship he is in is of any true value to him? They are influenced by the external environment which includes influence by a non satisfying girlfriend/wife. How long has porn been around? Thankfully, the truth is males did just fine before porn ever existed. Othewise, most of us probly wouldnt even exist today. Porn is a want, not a need. There is no valid excuse for a boyfriend to use porn, unless he's in Iraq for an extended period of time.

Many people act they way they do based on experiences right in front of them instead of what they truly believe. As the time increases where the experiences are out of eye sight, it can easily fall out of mind sight. The learned subconscious experience may result in "because they will never see it is ok to forget and maybe even disrespect." They'll never know, right?. Yea that was random. Its always good to be aware of what going on in the external environment, but if you believe you are as distrustful as you describe, you must must start with your internal self. Lack of self trust will naturally result in lack of trusting others. Your fathers actions were/are likely a big impact on your perceptions, but that does not define the kinda life experiences you will be exposed to unless you allow and put yourself in those environments. I no nothing about your boyfriend so I believe you must not make those kinds of assumptions about your boyfriend. But if you are are seeing continous signs of him disrespecting you, you must take action and let him go. Cheaters tend to be what they are, cheaters. Its tough to live by the LDR concept. A true LDR appears to be the essense of trust. Either way, you seem in a position of daily struggle with yourself. I think you need to begin with eliminating your own demons which will build your own understanding and ultimately your own self worth and trust. Not simple, I know, but worth doing. Good Luck.

Wow. Youre right, I didnt really understand you. Im not convinced that you were truly happy with youself in the 1990's as you claim to have been but I dont know. Im saying that from my own experience. Youve lived a decade of life single as have I. Ill have to get back to you cause Im currently in the same position you are when it comes to building relations with other people. Except for a few peeps, Ive been shutting out society since I went to college in 1996. The reason I replied in the first place to this thread is cause I understand why I act the way I do and why I am where I am today. I know what I need to do to get myself out of this rut. Im currently workin on self love which I havent truly had for many years even though I told myself I did. Always had a good excuse to not go on a date or meet other women. Anyhow, I realize now that self love is the key to developing a good relationship with another. I hope you love yourself as you say you do. Youll find love or love will find you in due time.

Read slowly and really absorb what Im telling you please. I know you dont want to hear or believe this but you need to hear it. I guarantee you that the anger you experience right now, which you blame on others is deep down truly a result of your own past/current actions in your life and perceptions of yourself. You always define your happiness. No questions asked. If you think others assist to define you and your happiness, you are incorrect. If you really love yourself, which you clearly dont right now, you would not worry about how others treat you or perceive you. You are putting your happiness on other peeps shoulders. You cant do that. You define your happiness at all times. You must take take care of yourself and the problematic issues in your life right now. Im dead serious.

Geez. Youre perspective is simply wrong. If you continue to perceive life as you do, you will remain as you are 2day, alone. You need to move on and forget about this guy. Who cares? Hes an insignificant piece of a large puzzle. Doing so should only make you a stronger peep. Just so you know, I had the same F U attitude for years as you do now but I have learned with time how wrong that attitude is. I am damn shy but so what? That does not give me the right to make judgement of others as I used to without knowing them for real. If you want to forget, which I dont think you really do, then just do it and move on. Stop whining and do it. Most importantly, dont let your experiences with this guy reflect on how you perceive and treat other guys in the future. If you do, youll never fly out of, or at best, be redirected to the airport youre stranded in now.

Right on vandgsmom! Youre a smart women. Using a stool as a tool is a good rule.

Interesting. A thread over 3 1/2 years old. Anyhow, to support the prior post, Im a tall male, short females can be very attractive for sure. Then again, so can the tall ones. Put simply, a persons height has no true value.