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Hey Hannibal, Sorry to hear that you aren't doing so well. I wish there are things that I could say to make pain go away, but there isn't. I know you still think about the good times that you and your ex had. But maybe try to think about bad things that she has done to you. I'm not trying to tell you to hate your ex, but to understand that she has move on. I know you feel so helpless right now, but all this go away with time. Just hang in there and know that things will get better.

Hey alomedia, I agree with Echo and that even though you didn't leave your wife for her. It's still really alot of pressure for this girl because you guys slept together while you were still married. I just think she is just little scared right now from all this. Give her some time to think and also time for yourself to recoup from the break-up. Hang in there and hopefully she will come around.

Hey HKK, I'm sorry to hear that you are so sad right now. Learn from this and restart the NC again alright. I know right now is really difficult time for you, but hang in there. All this pain and sorrow will eventually go away with time.

She was definetly trying to get reaction out of you. She wanted hear you beg her to come back and that how much you have miss her. You should be really proud of yourself being so strong and not let her immature/ insecure emotions get to you. She is not worth of it! Can you say "NEXT"

I have to agree with eveyone and that I think is too soon for you meet her. You are just not ready at all. I know you really want to see her because you miss her so much. But I have feeling that you meeting up with her will do you more harm than good. I think you know that deep down and that is why you freak out canceled Wednesday plans. Hang in there and be strong for yourself.

Thanks, I'm recontinue NC thing again, I just miss her alot that is all. I told myself to be strong not pick up her phone call or answer her email's. I will definetly read some of your post, thanks!

Hey sukerbut, Good to hear that you are doing well now and getting on track with your life. Hopefully with time, rest of us will be in your position also.

Hey need1ozHope, Good to hear that you are doing better although you still some ways to go. I'm recontinue my "NC" after 15 days NC until she broke the NC rule by coming to see me at my work. She is so selfish, anyway like you I think things will get better; although I'm still sad from this. Time will heal all pain, right? Hang in there and be strong for yourself.

Hey Casket, First off I like to say that your question is not stupid. I know you are going through alot of pain right now. I know that there are many of us and myself included has endured this type of pain once or twice in our lives. I know that right now you can only think the good things that she has done in your relationship. I wish there is magic word that I could say so all this pain would all go away. Try to focus on something else beside this and stop beating up yourself with this. Hang in there and be strong for yourself.

Hey HurtDude, Don't let her control your emotions. NC is actually for you to heal from all this pain. I know is really hard and that you really miss her right now. I know the feeling because I'm doing the NC myself. It's really diffiuclt because our ex's constant pop up in our minds and reminds us the wonderful time we spend together. The best thing is to let go and if she really want to be your friend then she will contact you. I don't think you are ready to be just friends with your ex. I think it will make it worse, so please take this time to heal from this. I recommended not to write the email. What if she doesn't answer or she answers coldly to you. Once again you be crushed and we don't want that to happen do we? If you really want write down all your feelings on paper and then burn it. It's good to get all your emotions out and that you will feel better. Hang in there and be strong for yourself.

Hey Nikkers, I think you made right choice of continue on with "NC". Give yourself time to heal and prepare for what ever the future holds for the both of you. You don't want to rush back then have it fall apart only months later. I truly believe that if it's meant to be for you guys to be together. Two of you will come together as one again. Hang in there and be strong for yourself.

Hang in there and be strong. Don't let her see that this is you really bothering because it will boost her ego. I know it really hurts right now, but with time all the pain go away.

Hey red10, You are right that "NC" is the way to go. I know that during this "NC" thing, what if he gets mad or forget you. Well, you have to know that "NC" is actually for you. NC buys you time to heal from all this pain and anguish that he brought upon you. I know is difficult to do, however like you said; you need to do this for yourself. You are never alone when you are on this forum because you found out that people really do care and understand how you are feeling although not exact to your situation. Pleaes use this time to heal for yourself, if your ex does forget you then is his lost. "If you truly love something then let go, if comes back to you then you know is meant to yours" Hang in there!!!

Very inspiring and powerful 1love2k5. Keep them coming!!!

Hey Vanilla, Thank you once again for answering to my problem. Even though I'm really sad about this, but life goes on. I will move on and everntually the pain will go away with time. Have you founded out whether or not your boyfriend credits transfer over? Keep me posted. Take care and thanks once again.

Hey Jessica, Coach is right! I'm sorry that you have to go through this right now. I'm going through kind of myself also and I know is painful right now. But you have to give him space right now, if not you push further away. Give it some time and let things progress. Just hang in there!!!

I think you should move on and start the "NC". You need time to heal from this and hearing her voice from time to time will not help. Like heloladies 21 said; "You will just be stringing yourself along" I know is difficult to move on because I'm in smiliar situation like you. Just hang in there and be strong for yourself.

I agree with roofergirl and that just give her space. I know that you are really hurting right now. Trust me all that begging and crying is not going to get her back. It will push her further away from you. Give her space and start the "NC". Just hang in there and be strong for yourself.

Hey Sunny, I recommended that you should not find some rebound to ease your pain. It might ease your pain for little bit, but I know you feel worse after words. Focus on yourself and how to heal from this. I think others would agree with me that finding some rebound is the wrong way to go and plus is not fair to that person. In way you are just using them and so you really no better than your ex that cause all this upon you. Just in hang in there and be strong for yourself. jl301

Hey Msnak, I just spoke to her and I think is pretty much done. I just can't take it anymore. She told me that she is very sorry about hurting me. She has really strong feelings for me and I do believe that. She cares about the ex, however she says that she is beyond the point wanting to be with him. They are together because of their daughter. She told me that I deserve someone better than this. I'm so tired of women telling me that and I just can't catch a break that is all. It has been affecting my day to day function. I can't lose focus right now because second semester of law school started again. School will keep me busy, but I know that I will still think of her though. During the five weeks apart from one another and that I have to be honest. It has been torture for me also. I think taking break is good idea, so should I start the "NC". Thank you so much for replying to my problem, Msnak. May I send private message, if I need your advice again. Also, if you have anything, I would love to help or just listen. jl301

I actually live in Overland park and yes the Royals are horrible.

Once again, good point Goofy. So you live in St. Louis huh, I think Kansas City is better though, J/K!!!

Hey goofy, Great post, it will take time to heal because the pain so great. But your words are really inspiring and that I will take it to heart. I just feel much pain right now and it just really unbearable. Life will be okay because I'm going to make it through this. jl301

Hello everyone, I want to update you all because alot of things has happen in the last couple days. I really got me really confuse now, so please help me!!! Last Saturday, she came in to eat at the resturant that I work at. She was with her kid and brother. They want to sit in my section, however my section was full, so they had sit some where else. I was surprise, but happy to see her. She still look beautiful as always and her daughter was walking now. It made me realize how much I miss them. She seem happy to see me and we gave each other hug. I just ask her how she was doing lately. It was good and by the time she was leaving. She looked all sad and I ask her why she sad. The reason is that I didn't kiss her when I saw her and that she felt that I was being cold to her. I told her that I was happy to see her and that I really can't kiss her during working hours. She understood and gave each other big hug before she left. She told me that she will call me later on the week. Monday: She calls me and I pick up. She told me that she wanted to tell me the real reason why she stop talking/ seeing for five weeks. She says that she doesn't want to do that anymore because it so much torture for her. She also told me that she stuck right now and don't know how to get out. She told me that the reason the ex (her daughter's dad) hasn't move on yet is because she depend on him right now to share finacial burden. They are now splitting the bill 50/50. However, she says that she feels so empty living with him. She says that by the end of the year. She will be financially okay functioning by herself. She doesn't want to hurt her ex, but she knows that she doesn't want to be with him. I just don't know what to say to all this. Please help me!!!! There are so many things that are going through my head right now. Part of me is telling me that she could be just string me along. However, the other of me is saying that she is really in burden right now. What should I do? I really like her, but it just seems to me that I begging her to be with me. HELP!!!!!!! jl301

Please don't call. Start the "NC" immediately. I know is painful right now and want to hear her voice so bad. What is the point of you calling her, if you are going to get hurt everytime you do. I know is really hard to let go, but is for your own good. Hang in there and be strong for yourself. jl301