jessicabrynn

Thanks a lot for all the sincere advise. I have decided to go NC. I thought about it a lot and realized I can find a better man

I thought I was over him, but now he tells me he misses my friendship. It was a 1 year relationship that ended because he wanted a change in his life. We were perfect for each other, but he made the decision and has stuck with it for 2 weeks now. I miss his friendship as well, but I am afraid that it will mess up the chances of us getting back together in the future. Can someone speak of a positive experience becoming friends your x boyfriend, and then ending up back together?

The break up was so shocking. My boyfriend broke up with me after a 1 1/2 year relationship for reasons I just can't understand. He said I was the perfect girlfriend. He loves me, loves being with me, and is having a rough time with the break up, but he says he needs a change in his life, he wasn't ready for a long term relationship, and he would rather break up now before we became even more attached. We were a great couple. We laughed at the same things, had common interests....just a really good match. He said so himself that he thought we were made for each other. 2 weeks before we broke up, he had 2 friends pass away in an accident. I spent every night at his house because he asked me to, and because I wanted to be there for him. He was upset that these friends left him, and said "don't you ever leave me." Now that I think of it, he probably just meant "don't ever die on me." He said after the deaths, something told him he needed a change. He said he needed to do some soul searching. He wants to be friends with me. I don't think I should do that. I think I should give him that space. Maybe then he will realize he wants/needs to be with me. But I don't know. I think it could also do the opposite.....make him forget me. He is the kind of guy that talks himself out of doing something that his heart wants. He is too disciplined sometimes. I think he really wants to be with me, but he is fighting this feeling. I don't know what to do to make him want me