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Just curious, what's the longest bout of no contact any ones heard of where the dumper makes contact? Once again just curious. thanx much.

Once again, Am i the only one who sees it, people on this site actually, take time to help, congradulate, and compliment other people for no good reason, the people here are wonderful, and need to understand how wonderful and move on to bigger and more wonderful things, than sulking about a person, who obviously was not aware their is actually proof of how incredible they are, right here on enotalone. thank you to everyone, this site is evidence that all is not lost.

"nothing will pull you out of a hole, like working hard at work worth doing" Theo Roosevelt, Find something to invest yourself in Overland Park, it's similar to not putting all of your eggs in one basket, don't put all over your love in one person, spread in around to everyone that needs it, think of yourself last, you will see change, in everything.

i lived in Kc on 10th and broadway for 2 years, the royals are not good, that was enough to make me want to move back to st.louis..........the plaza is wonderful around the holidays, so you guys got that going for you................along with all the motherfing fountains.

In no way am i downgrading the anquish, man......it's friggen terrible. And i don't truly know any of you, but what i do know is your on this website, you have feelings, we are the people who care, we are the ones who posses love, and we want to give it away.................which would leave me to believe the people who are on this site posess a power which if directed could do tremendous things.

Hello to all of you wonderful people, going through, in what my opinion is the most ballbreaking emotional torment a person can encounter, nothing else on earth which i have endured even begins to suck the joy out of everything you do in the same manner as losing the person you think about everynight before you go to bed, and every morning when you wake up...........................but it does not have to be like this. Please understand, several months ago i was a slobbering mess, the woman of my dreams had left me, and all i had left was a big friggen pile of questions, the first of which, was "what did i do wrong"?. But things change, in my opinion, life is not long, it is short. And, by the time most people understand this, it's to late. Don't waste your time trying to control uncontrolable situations. I mean there are so many things in life we can't do anything about, so quit worrying about those, and start focusing on things you can do something about. Look deep, deep inside, to that person, the person you've always known you could be, the person that when you were younger you imagined yourself being, and unleash yourself. The last thing the world needs is more people wandering completely self absorbed, put others first, speak and act from a position of unconditional love. Pick a issue, that you feel strongly about and attack, wether it be battererd women, or homless children, or gun control or whatever. Make your life matter!!!!!!! Don't waste it pining. Use this situation as a spring board to become a humanitarian, use all of this energy, and apply it to something greater than yourself, start a non-profit foundation, volunteer at a soup kitchen, or homless shelter. Be generous with your life and love.......and think of a bigger picture than just yourself...................people need help, and now you have time to help them, take advantage. Life is short, make it count................. Someone else doesn't want your love, screw em' there are plenty of people out there who do.......make a difference, and i promise someday you will look back, and wonder how you were ever so upset over something like a relationship, which was never meant to be. Your life does not have to be like this, it can be like whatever you want. Be genorous with your love..................many, many people need it. thank you

Today after four months of being broken up...................well, let's just say, one of mutual friends did some pokin' around on my behalf, but not at my request..................she asked my exwomanfriend, if she could see us getting back together..............her reply was "i don't think i ever really was in love with him, so no." The response to this seems obvious enough........just move on. However this is right now, insanely difficult, and i just don't see how i'm going to get over this.................being rejected by someone, you gave your best to be with.............i'm just a mess, and am asking for similar stories, advice, and support which may help me through tonight...............and for the first time tomorrow truly believe that it is over. thank you all so much.

4 months, haven't talked in 2 months, it has gotten much better, with a good deal of help from everyone here, but i am a bit worried about this. And i don't want to act, i just want to make an impact, and i am quite curious if little contact, and or attention to her during the deal, would be the way to go.

thats' what i'm talkin' about..........thats' some friggen good advice.............apprecitate it.

thanx much, not trying to make her notice me, and just enjoying the people who are there is my current plan, however, the fact that i am already thinking about this can't be good....................so i would like to go in with a strategy, of less is more............not quite sure how.

Hello to all of you wonderful people. Just asking for a little advice once again............................ An invitation to a birthday party on November 4th has arrived..............................my ex woman friend will most assuredly be attending................i am partially over her........but still think about her......um....well......all the time..........just curious about a bit of strategy no matter how misleading, to make her notice how I am behaving and also limit how much attention i pay to her.......she is beautiful, and i imagine it will be hard not to look a bit.........but i can't let her catch me. Anywho, we haven't seen each other since the terrible day, and i would like her to think about me after this evening.........and tips, pointers, or overall strategy would be appreciated greatly. .......i aslo can't bring a chick, we agreed that i would not, and she would not bring a date to mutual friend gatherings. yall is the best.

To all of those who have advised me..........thank you............and sorry. after 6 weeks of solid nc, i wrote an email, insanely benign, actually pretty friggen funny i thought. Anywho...........I went to my favorite bar to have a bevy, which happens to be the bar we used to frequent, i went there the other day, and ran into a bunch of her friends, subconsciously, i think i wanted to again. Well, i ran into her sister,(my luck is awsome..........or terrible) who asked me if i was dating anyone. Good sign.................yeah?..............no.................she said good. Well somehow we got into a in depth discussion about our relationship, it may have slipped out that i was in no way over her, and that i was actually still quite in love with her. I'm quite sure this information will get back to her. Just asking for some knowledge here...........i promise i'll listen. A. Will this have the same outcome once she hears about it, of sending flowers and begging her back? B. Should i just take a crack at getting her back, now that the fit has already hit the shan? C. How much, would you, if it were you read into her sister saying good, to me goin' on a couple of dates with another chick? D. How big of a weak wuss, did i come off as, by being willing to discuss my feelings, and then divulging the sacred info? thanx again......................and again.............1000 heads are better than one.

Give them yours, and go with old faithful, give me a call sometime.

melrich is a friggen' stud, i know you do this out of the kindness of your heart, but i'd pay green money for advice like that....................................actually.......................i have.

Not to be a chump brothers, but karma, is a nutty thing. A. what if it was you with a chick, maybe your in love with her, then some other guy moves in and starts firing. You may say let the best man win, or you may say, that's a big problem with the world today, no one gives a sh*t about anyone else. B. Can you trust a chick who leaves her boyfriend for you, i would think the odds of her repeating the behavior are probably better, seeing how you know for a fact, she's done it at least once. C. If this is a untrustworthy young lady, your doin' the guy a favor. but don't think that if this is a descent relationship, and the guy cares for the girl and does what a man should do, that this won't catch up to you. Life has a way of reciprocating everthing.