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  1. Zaphod
    Be slow with this new girl too - a month isn't very long after you've split with this "Becky". Seriously man, anyone who blanks you isn't worth your time. You have to accept who she is now, as opposed to who she was way back when.
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    You can't stop thinking about a girl that blanks you in a pub? Don't beat yourself up about the stuff you've done - it happens. I find abuse is usually hurled by one or both parties. You can't turn the clock back and reverse it, all you can do is make sure you don't act like that in the future. Alcohol + anger/emotions don't really mix - but you know that.
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    Without contact that could be construed as slightly sly, from a man's point of view. Sure leave the stuff on his doorstep but I think you must contact him first to check it's going to be ok, he's going to be in, etc. etc. I know it's NOT sly, you and I know that, but he doesn't.
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    Yeah mate a bit of push-pull. Back off a bit, give her space to think about it. It's not a game exactly, but there is a way to play it. If you crowd her out, se'll get freaked out. Take your holiday and forget about her for a week, then try IM again - btw - IM what is that? Instant messenger? My my I am getting a bit old for this stuff. One alarm bell struck me - her saying "but you don't know me" - if she fancied you, I'm not sure that would be the response...... but I hope she does fancy you, I'm just saying - I've heard that line before and in my case it was I think that they were a bit uncomfortable that's why they said that. I reckon she thinks you've got a bit familiar too fast. Back off, be there but be in the distance.
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    Wahay! One for the humans!
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    Move on man. You can get better friends and a better g/f than that for sure. If I was your friend, sure I might have got together with her, but ya can bet out of respect for you I would have waited longer than one week, certainly. He is within his rights to go out with her, it's just very insensitive of them to go for it one week after her splitting with you - doesn't this fellow worry that she's on the rebound as well?
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    The best thing you can do IMHO is try different things out, and let him know which things feel the best - try ordering him abotu a bit - men like that! (Well I do anyway). To have a woman shouting out demands is IMHO a real turn on for a man, also you can gradually gear things towards what you think might work for you. In other words, open communication is what I'm talking about .
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    Question for you toy women - do you find that after acheiving orgasm for your first time with use of a toy, then after tht do you find it easier to orgasm with a man?
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    Try baby oil
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    Hmmm.... I have a situation not dissimilar to yours. My g/f finished with me a couple of weeks ago, and shortly afterwards started hammering on about "just wanting to be left alone" and "just wanting to chill out" without really explaining things properly to me (I'm still a bit hazy about it). We had about a week of contact and swapping stuff, then we left it on her saying "well I'll phone you or you phone me then" - I haven't actually got that much to say to her at the moment, and have been NC for about 4 or 5 days now. So kind of parallel to yours. To tell you the truth I'm not sure either and kind of have the same question as you. I think if it's been a while, if you want maybe do a light hearted "hi, just calling to see how you are" and MAKE yourself cut the phone call short before you really get talking about anything, perhaps. Just to show you're still thinking of her but giving her the space. If you are in the same position as me, a bit of space is good at this point. Personally due to recent behaviour I feel I could do with some space to just observe what my ex does, or doesn't do. I feel I don't know her as of late.
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    IMHO - what I'd do is wait until mid week or next weekend, I mean you could be really really busy or something right? Then I would just send a message saying "hi, just saying hope ya doin' ok!" or something similar. I'd just give it maybe 150% or 200% of the original time you said. Gives it more chance of him contacting you That's just my opinion.
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    I second guess that my ex is sure I'm going to phone her or something when she doesn't want me to. Little does she know that I have no intention. We agreed not to talk for a while, she said to me "I'll contact you or you contact me" - I have actually not that much to say to her even if we were to speak! I think we were talking about being friends. I figure if she really wants to speak to me she'll phone me. To which I shall remain friendly and neutral. I am actually quite enjoying not speaking to her atm because she used to phone me three times a day.... !!!! Not being particularly impressed with your partners recent behaviour and not having that much to say to them atm anyway sure does help you get through the NC thing!
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    Even though it's the man that often makes the first move, I have a theory that it's nearly always the women who initiates the relationship - i.e. it is her pulling the strings really. Maybe with that one look she gave you three weeks ago, or something like that. Something very clever.
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    Hmmm.... funnily enough when I was a younger man I'd find that women would become interested in me for being the only man in the room NOT intersted in her , you know like at college and stuff. weird - I didn't know how it was working at the time, but managed to pull myself who many considered to be the most beautiful girl in my college by using this method (she came after me) - haha wish I'd known then what I know now. Acting nervous - not necessarily good. Acting HUMBLE and open minded and polite - now that's a different thing.
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    Why are nice guys "boring" ??? Is it not possible to be nice and exciting as well?
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    If she really wants to speak - at least she could do you the courtesy of making a real phone call like a real person rather than hiding behind texts ..... How does she know for sure you even got it rather than it disappearing into the black hole of lost texts on the network? You could use that to your advantage and just claim you never got it, if you don't want to answer..... Think of it as a test Texts are good for some things but shouldn't be used for actual conversation IMHO. I find it rude when people throw me these massive long texts when they could have phoned me up.
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    Also, I'm going to have to move soon, her situation is much more steady. Gotta think of the cat's welfare I guess.
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    Nah unfortunately this is the way it has to be. She is his primary keeper I suppose, he is used to living with her. I just have to swallow it. I think currently I'm missing the cat more than the g/f.
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    Now all this breaking up with ya partner nonsense - well we all have to sort that out. I have now been about 4 days NC and it's going ok. I miss my CAT though - me and my partner have spent months taming a stray cat, such a cute thing, chunky thing would sit on yer lap and purr for 2.5 hours non stop. ALways wanted a cat like him. We had a life planned for him together. He is such a cute thing - sits on yer lap and purrs - chunky heavy cat. Guess who's house he's ended up at? Not mine. Bugger.
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    LMFAO! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA Although some aspects of Shotokan training like semi locking the limbs for stuff does take it's toll - I have been doing it 15 years, and it doesn't come without it's price - dodgy shoulder, bad knees, bad back LOL. Funny little art it is - extremely misunderstood too. You can use some aspects of your training though I've found - logical thinking, keeping a cool head under pressure. I must admit though - when I split with my g/f two weeks ago having said that I was in a complete out of control nosedive - but I think I have tried to use my "cool head under pressure" to only make that last two weeks and not 6 months or something. You know what I'm saying I have a feeling things are gonna be fine and dandy for you
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    A sentence we should all remember
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    BTW - I do Shotokan Karate out of interest.
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    Orlander - you have your martial arts to make you strong. Same here. The martial arts don't let you down . Yeah they always give you the guff about not wanting to find someone else too soon, then they find someone almost immediately - heard it before myself a few times. You're a free man! Is the only way to think of it. All her bad points this guy is now lumbered with (and she must have a few). Meanwhile you can look forward to something better. I know it sounds hard now but speak to us in six months - I bet you'll feel the same. My ex from about 4 years ago is now married, and I feel sorry for the bloke - I wonder whether she's shown HIM how materialistic and naggy she can be? HAHAHAHA My ex from two weeks ago - well I expect her to soon be with someone - as is usual. Even though she says she's "not into a relationship" kind of atm - we all know that's guff don't we. Meanwhile - I have lots of pretty women to admire - and so do you. So get on with it.
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    I have a '79 Wine Red Deluxe with original electronics (minibuckers and stuff). You??? And g/l with everything - I don't know what your post was, didn't see it.
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    Day 3 or so of real NC for me - we had a week or so of swapping stuff when we split so NC was difficult. This is a girl who COULD be a future prospective friend for me as we have a lot in common. However I have to have time to see how I feel about that as I am still pretty bitter about our break up and need time to get over that. When we spoke a few days ago she said "ok well I'll call you or you call me" to which I cheerfully replied "yeah ok" and then she sounded a bit confused that I wasn't trying to arrange a time or something. It seems to hit 'em when they realise that in your mind you've severed the break as well (she finished it). We kinda arranged a couple of weeks or so. In my mind I don't think I'll be in a hurry to call her, I estimate she'll call me. I wonder what the best amount of time is to "avoid" (lol) her? Advice?
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