CamaroJoe

but you have to make contact with the other person first...try to be around them if possible, even if one of you resents the other. if there was something there before there's nothing that says there can't be something there again.

Just pretend you don't need the other person. But if and when they come on to you 'again', accept it. But kind of play it off a little (be hard to get) at first to make them want you back even more. Usually, a person will want you more if they feel you don't need them. i'm sure you've heard the cliche: We all want what we can't have ...and that plays a role in my second sentence. g'luck

The feeling is normal, but all i can say (with my share of heartbreaks and breaking of hearts), time heals all. It may take years or maybe even just a few weeks, but eventually, with distance between you and the other person, the feelings will more than likely fade.

I have no trouble at all finding the words to ask someone out. And all my relationships have started out by 'us' hanging out and then after a while it was always implied that we were a 'couple'. But words of committment were never said. My question is, how would you go about asking to be with someone? Would it be right to be as blunt as 'Will you be my girlfriend/boyfriend?' Or should it be more of a subtile approach, like asking 'What are we?' Let me know what you all think...or just let us all know how you asked or were asked for i know i'm not the only one with this problem of words.

one more thing.....for overweight people, i know this sounds like i'm being an a** but money is a one thing that women love. Not all women, but a lot. Take for instance all these rappers and movie stars who a really obese but have all these women hanging on them..why? because they're rich and they have confidence. it's a cruel world we live in but it is the world we live in.. just be a confident, sweet, a-hole lol i know that's an oxymoron (sp?) but once you get the hang of it, you'll understand what i'm talking about. g'luck!

I don't know many lesbians.. But I'm not sure it's good to perpetuate the stereotype that bisexual people love to have threesomes or multiple partners. Just because someone has chosen an alternative lifestyle, like being a lesbian or gay, does not mean they are no longer monogamous. lol I wasn't implying that he had to join or in anyway that she wanted him to join. But maybe i shouldn't have assumed that she was still going to stay with him? ...but that's for her to decide. If she wants to be a lesbian and divorce her man, then that's fine. But if she still wants to be with him (as in being bisexual) but also have women in her life, then i'm sure her man won't mind, unless he finds the other woman unattractive. but if not, and she wants to be strictly with other women, then that's her choice and i think she should tell her man and get on with her life and sexuality. in no way was i intending that she needed or wanted an orgy type sexual life just because of her sexual preference.

check this out, all you have to do is walk into the room like "you're all that" but don't act stuck up or b****y, you can still talk to people even if "you're all that"...and smile. Also, when you talk in front of a crowd talk loud like you want everyone to hear and you don't care what they think of you. And if you are talking one on one with a guy, talk a lil' loud so they can hear you and a few people around you also, but have a sweet tone. confidence will show

First of all, most women don't really care if you are over weight...of course they prefer the sexy, (muscular but not TOO muscular 'i've heard chicks say that muscles are bumpy and gross')...but if you have a natural charm and a commanding (confident) personality, then they'll love you. How to overcome your shyness by yourself is to force yourself into situations that make you converse with people. I used to be shy up until the past two-three years. Jobs really help. That's the best way. Talk to everyone you see at work, you pass them in the hall just say "hi there, how are you?" or if it's a guy "what's up?" ...then you can do it at school too. Then eventually you'll find that you can go up to anyone (including the hottest chick you've ever seen) and just start a lil' conversation with them. It doesn't have to be major and you don't have to spill your entire life on your first conversation. No girl will ever judge you by your looks if all you are doing is talking to her like she's an equal. Then once you get confortable with her and she with you, you can flirt and finess and see how she reacts. Power and confidence is everything...even if the perception is false. always remember that. hope this helps...

who cares? you can always brush your teeth and use mouth wash....lol jk no, on a more serious note, if you are into that, then you don't really think much about it. And as long as there are no STD's involved, it shouldn't be that serious. You just have to make the judgment for yourself. g'luck witht that.

ssssssget 'em!!! lol

There is this chick who liked me 3 years ago. Well, i was with a chick even though i flirted with her all the time (which now i kinda feel bad for) and she was with this dude. Since then i've had another g/f but we've split and she's single now also. All of a sudden we started talking and she said she wished i would have let her kiss me way back when. Then some how we started talking talking. And she would, every now and again, try to make me feel guilty about "not wanting to kiss her". Well, our conversation got kinda heavy with the subject of "sex", which i find kinda weird talking about it before actually doing anything. We still haven't kissed yet; we are so busy with school and work that we dont really have much time to spend with eachother but we try to make time as much as possible. Anyway, the conversationg went to her mentioning that we should be "F*** Buddies". I've never head a chick mention that (i have heard of "friends with benefits" but never have i heard a girl mention becoming one)....so if anyone can shed any light on the matter of her sincerity?...it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

you should tell him immediately....well, if he's like me anyway. And if he is, he'll love it! that is if you've turned bisexual and not all the way lesbian where he can't join.

First off, where exactly are you finding these girls?

I just have to put my 2 cents into this one. I had this g/f for 3.5 years. I could never make her cum. When I did any foreplay she would ask me to stop. Either she was nervous about it or just, i don't know lol Anyway, I dated this chick from February to April and in about an hour of regular missionary intercourse, i made her cum 6 times. I don't think there was even one time where she didn't have multiple orgasms during sex. So, I guess the moral of my story is: it depends on the person. I don't know if it's psychological, physical, mental, emotion or all of the above. And I have to mention this: The girl i was with for 3.5 years was 4 inches taller than me, the other was the same height. And she also told me that I was the first person she ever masterbated to. So....I hope that helps?

I've known this girl for over 3 years (actually all my life but we weren't exactly friends till then). Well, back then she used to really like me. But I was in a realationship with someone else but I still flirted with her a little but I don't think I totally lead her on. Then she started dating someone and we kind of stopped talking altogether; for no particular reason. But since then we've separated from out partners and kind of started talking to eachother again. Last weekend we went out and saw a movie and then went to a get together type thing with a bunch of people, ate and talked. Then went to Starbucks afterward with three others and did the same. On the way home however, she was complaining she was cold and inquired for me to keep her warm, which of course I did. Then we decided we would hang out some time this week when she had free time, which was wed and thurs, but i haven't heard from her at all. She got online once but left without saying a word to me. My question is, should I persue her? Try to get her to hang out with me when we both have free time? (we're both in school and work so our schedules are a little off)...And how should I go about doing that without pressuring her or even looking desperate? Thanks for any advice..

yes, just leave it be and see if he calls. But you just have to evaluate what you want also.

I doubt that was the whole reason why he called you. But word to the wise, whens someone asks you questions like that they are trying to get you to talk to them. And short answers are never good. If you want him back or just want to start hanging with him again, then start talking to him. When he asked what have you been doing don't go "working" ...be like "not much really, just working a lot, what about you?" this way he'll see you are willing to talk to him and he'll be more comfortable with you and be more open with his feelings. hope this helps.. ~ Camaro Joe

yes, wait for her to call you no matter how much it eats at you. She liked you from the beginning, remember? And just cuz she gets mad at you doesn't mean that she doens't like you. Wait about a week and a half and see if she calls you and then you can talk about it. But if she doesn't call you by then, call her! And make sure you two talk about that situation before you get off the phone. Don't let her avoid it either. If she tries to avoid it and there is absolutely not budging her then just let it go and leave her alone. Act like everything is fine, maybe even let her see you hanging out with another chick but don't make it seem like you are dating her or anything. Unless ofcourse she one of those "i don't care" type women. Then that won't work. g'luck! ~Camaro Joe

dude, evey girl is different. Just have to experiment with things with your girl. I heard oral is good for that. The chick that i was with recently, i could make her orgasm as many times as i wanted by just missionary intercourse. Not trying to boast, but i made her orgasm 6 times in one hour during regular sex one time. But the girl i had before that, i couldn't make her orgasm for anything. Plust everytime she felt like she was going to she would tell me to stop....weird.. n e way, g'luck with that! ~Camaro Joe

I say cheating is anything sexual at all. But, if you two have not made a major committment (marriage, knowing that the other person is a jealous person, etc..) then i guess it's all good. But personally, when i'm with a girl, i'll never even kiss another chick. But that's just me.

My g/f broke up with my last sunday saying that we need to work on being friends and that she didn't want me totally out of her life. She basically said she didn't want to be tied down to anyone right now and that she's still in her partying stage (she drinks and smokes a lot and has major money problems). We were only together for like 2 months and the first month was amazing. And then she started acting distant and like she didn't want me around much. But she wouldn't talk to me about anything or tell me what was wrong. So she finally ended it and now I'm over the break-up. But I still want her back. Well, this past weekend she called me to come and get her a few things of hers and she asked if she could use my computer and while she was there my friend Brandi showed up. And then she sat for a while and then said she had to go and just left, i dunno if she got jealous or not. Then i went over there the next day and she was at the pool and i stayed a few minutes but had to leave and so some stuff. But I told her if she wanted to hang out later to call me. *she acted like she didnt want me to leave*... Then later she just showed up at my house and i took her out to eat and then we took a walk and she acted like she used to when she was around me when she first liked me. And then she stayed the night with me. And she told me that she was sorry if she was ever mean to me. Anyone have any advice on what this might mean? Or if she might be wanting me back but is embarrassed to say anything about it? Or is she just at the point of her life where she doesn't want committment? I'm just all confused right now. There are other girls that like me and I don't want to get anything else started if there is any chance of getting back with her. Thank you for any responses..

It all started when I got a job at the hospital and there was a girl named Christina that worked there and I thought she was the most beautiful thing ever. But it ended up she liked me too from when she first saw me. So she eventually invited me to her house and i stayed there for about 6 weeks straight. The first month was awesome. But then she started to not care what i thought about certain things. For example she smokes weed and parties and when she does she's really rude to people and a smart ass. So we would argue about things like that. But before the arguments she would tell me she's falling in love with me and wanted to get married. Then I got attached to her and she quit the hospital and it all when down hill. She asked me to leave because she was having her sister visit her. So I did and imet her sister and then Christina started to act like she didn't want me around at all and would get off the phone quick. She broke up with me this past sunday and i'm kinda over it but not really. I want her back really bad because I know we could make us work. She said she didn't want a b/f and that she was still in her partying stage. Any advice on what I should do? I haven't talked to her since sunday and I want to some how make her want me back but i don't really know how to do that. Anyone have an ideas? (i think she still cares she just got scared when i cared and she's insecure and doesn't believe that anyone actually care about her) I know this is long so I apprecaite ever response and anyone who takes the time out to read it. ~Joe ps.. We were only together for 2 months and i always made fun of people who fell in love that quick and got upset over break-ups that soon, but now i understand!

My main problem is that i work and go to school so i don't really have much time to go out. Not to mention the fact that I don't really like going out by myself, ya know? to a movie, or eat or something like that. I'll go to the beach and hang out places like that by myself, no problem. But I was just wondering where most girls like to hang out or where do they go to meet guys? And when i do find the girl I'd like to talk to, how do women like to be approached? What would be a good pickup line or conversation starter? thanx, ~Camaro Joe

lol, i had to reply to this post. This is what i've learned so far.... Woman, in the long run, want a comfident man! And at first the person has to be some what sexually attractive to the female. If they are not, it will take the male longer to get the female's attention in that prespective. Now, you can be shy in a sense, but overall you must be comfident with what you do. If you are not comfident enough with yourself to stick up for yourself even if you know you're in the wrong, then the female, for the most part, is going to think you are going to be too scared to stick up for her too. And that is not good. And you can be comfident and in touch with your feelings also. That just shows that you are comfident enough in yourself to let people know how you feel without worrying about what others will think. All you have to do is be yourself and believe that you are the man and no one has the the right to disagree with you without you sticking up for yourself. Also most women would rather be appraoched. Although there are some who will approach you. Even the ones who like to be approached may like a guy so much that they get up the nerve to talk to the guy first. well, i hope this helps whoever needs it. ~Camaro Joe

Well, I'm a 20 year old male who looks and sounds like he's 16. Well, i know there really isn't much I can do about my looks, but is there any way that I can deepen my voice?? Does anyone know any way of doing that? If so, please let me know. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. (it was kind of embarrassing because I called one my my friends, who's a girl, and this was the first time she would have ever heard my voice. And one of her friends got the message and said I sound like i haven't reached puberty yet...no i take that back, that's VERY embarrassing, and one more example: I talked to another friend on the phone for the first time, who also is a girl, and she said I sounded like her brother. And I asked how old he was and she said 16, also embarrassing).