CamaroJoe

Feelin' like I don't wanna be livin', better off dead without no bread, have you ever felt that feeling? Unsatisfied, feeling like you wanna die... Has anyone ever felt like this?

Anyway, I worked with that girl yesterday, the same shift and everything. She came in, I said "hey" she said "hey" and that was all that was said in an 8 hour shift between us on a friend basis. Normally it's like "hey how are you?" "fine, urself?" blah blah... but not yesterday. She looked to be in a bad mood too. So anyway, when we left that night, she was like "bye" to everyone and just walked off. I then later asked my friend if she saw the way she was acting towards me and she said "yes, usually you two would talk a little when she went to the back, but today it was nothing. But she wanted to leave early because she had family in town and I wouldn't let her. So she was probably upset about that". well, anyway, i come to the realization that either she wants to be left alone, is playing games to see how far I will go, or just wants attention. So, any inquires or questions are welcome, advice too. If you want to know the whole story, just ask or im me.

This is the entire story from the very beginning. It's going to be pretty long. If you read, please reply, I'll take all the advice I can get. Well, it started like this: I've liked this girl for almost a year now. We both, two months ago, had our previous relationships ended. Then, I approached her. Well, first another co-worker whose also a female, told her I liked her, then I told her I liked her (we work together), and she basically said she felt weird. I didn't know how that meant but then I wrote her a letter to better explain myself and I told her in the letter to call me after she read it. She called and then she basically just told me that I had bad timing. Well, I waited a couple of days and then I asked her for her number. She gave it to me and I called her a few times and we talked for hours, I think twice. During the conversations I found out that she might be moving away to college. But I really like this girl, so I hung on the operative word "might". But even if she did, I'd wait for her because she's the most wonderful person I've ever met. So, after that, she went a few weeks without answering her phone, come to find out she was really busy with school and she had to study a lot for her exams. Then, I asked her out and she said when she was done with school, she'd have time. So recently, i asked her out again and we went to the movies and then afterwards we talked for a few hours. Then the next night after work we talked for about an hour. Then after that she kind of started acting distant. At work, she'd talk to me normally, but then after work she'd hang around another co-worker, which I took the hint that she didnt' want me to walk with her.... (one of our managers was there so she probably just didnt want her to know, actually I know she doesn't want any managers to know). Anyway, when I drove off, she was in her car, I waived and she honked her horn and smiled. The next day, I asked her if she'd go out with me again, she said yes. But she's not answering her phone. So, a couple of days later, I asked her why she hasn't answered her calls or called me back and she just said that she wasn't talking to anyone. (she she's said before.) So, then i asked her if i called her that night, if she'd want to talk, and she said "maybe" and smiled. Then i asked for a good time to call her and she replied "you'll find out" and smiled again. I was like WTF? She just playin' with me or what? Well, before that, she was being a little flirty and talkin' to me normal. So... i called and she didn't answer. Well, this is basically where I'm at. And we work together tomorrow, any advice to what i should do? ps.. I'd like to ask her to be with me, but I don't know how long to wait or to say it? (But I know I only have like 2 months left, if she moves and like I said, she's worth waitin' for)

you already said that. lol

Do you think I should stop calling her? I call her like, maybe once a day. But I don't always leave a message. I know she gets them. She just says she's not talking to anyone and that's why she doesn't return my calls. Do you think she's playing games? or is she serious?

well, a good thing is that she already told me she likes me. What about that?

BTW, she'll be back in two years. Plus, she gets time off and so do I. She just needs to give me a chance..... if she likes me enough. Cuz I feel it's right and I can wait forever. So.... That's my situation.

See, she is probably moving away to college, but she's not sure. And I know she likes me, she's already told me. Maybe she's playing games but maybe she doesn't want to start a relationship just in case she moves. But why can't she just tell me? Other than her not really returning my calls, she still flirts and talks to me at work. It's kinda weird. And I feel bad that i'm talking to her cuz she's moving and I don't want her to think I'm trying to hold her back, but I can't help how I feel. But I know how she is, she puts school and work first. And that's fine. But then again, some times I don't know if she's playing or being serious. Any advice on anything? Like how I can talk to her since she doesn't talk on the phone much, or what i should say to her and how i should say it without scaring her off or looking desperate? Anyone? ps... But when we talk, it flows and we never get stuck with nothing to say. We get along perfectly and, it's just awesome.

Also, I asked her if she'd go out with me again, and she said yes.

Well, it started off like this... I told her I liked her and asked her for her number. She gave it to me and then we talked for a while. Then recently we went out and saw a movie. And then we talked for a couple of hours afterward. Then the next night after work we talked for about an hour. But it's been only recently that she's done this. But she's done it before also, but that was before our date. So I can't tell how she feels and stuff. But maybe, I should just leave her alone and if she comes to talk to me, then I'll talk to her about everything. Does that sound good?

yeah, thanx. That sounds logical. I was thinking that, but see the thing is is that I know I don't have much time. But you're right. I'll do that then.

Well, this girl and I have been talking off and on for a month or so. But lately, she hasn't answered her calls or called me back. Then when I ask her why, she just says that she hasn't been talking to anyone. So, I asked her if I called her later, if she'd talk to me and she just said "Maybe" while smiling. Then I asked her what a good time would be to call her and again while smiling she said "You'll find out" What's up with that? Also, See, I really like her and when she talks to me, it seems she really likes me. But she's probably going to be moving away to college and I want to ask her to be with me before it's too late, what do I say and how do I do it?

Maybe so. lol But she different from any girl I've ever met. Not only is she cute, sexy, beatiful, nice smile, eyes, hair, everything physically attractive, she's also smart, sweet, and has a sweet voice. So it's not like I shouldn't like her. I'd say any guy that looked at her would be physically attracted, and then once you get to know her, it'll be even stronger. She's just.........amazing. Plus I can speak to her on a level that I couldn't with most people.

I agree

Well, her b/f broke up with her after 2 years about a month and a half ago and I broke up with my g/f about a month ago. Like I said before we talk on the phone and she flirts at work and she come to me and asks me to come talk to her and stuff. And then she'll ask how I'm doing when I come in, but she hardly ever answers her phone when I call, and when I asked her about it she said that she'd only do that if she wasn't around it. But sometimes she doesn't return my calls either, like I said before it's usually late when I call, so I don't know if that's a sign that she doesn't really want to be bothered and that she just wants to be friends or if she really doesn't get the messages until later and then she's busy or whatever. But then when she sees me she'll smile and we'll talk and all. But also, everytime I ask her to go out she'll ask "when" and then she'll say she'll call me and I wait a couple of days and she doesn't. So I'll call her. But I don't know how I'm suppsed to take that. I just can't seem to find a way to get her alone so I can talk to her about this and then if she doesn't want to get involved with anyone right now, I can try to hid my feelings or change them and just be her friend. Any advice?

That would be good. Do it at the movies. How would her dad find out anyway if she doesn't tell him? And why would he get mad over a harmless kiss anyway? oh well, i guess some people are just like that. And if you are really insecure about it , just ask her not to tell her dad or brother and tell her why. I dont know how she would take it but, g'luck!

thanx. lol man, that would be really shitty of me if I actually ask that of her. I'd hate myself for something like that.

You dont' have to ask. Just do it. If she doesn't want to, she'll pull away and you'll feel stupid but everything comes with a price. But if she doesn't mind, then she'll kiss back. But I wouldn't come right out and stick your tongue down her throat. Start with a peck.. You just need to have courage. Most girls would rather you just come out and do something like that then to ask.

Kddmsu, I would NEVER ask that of her. Now, if she had a choice to stay or go and still get her education and she asked me what she should do, I'd ask her to stay but I'd still say that it was her choice. But coming straight out and asking her to stay never crossed my mind. I can do the long distance thing, I mean we're young and two years isn't that long. I did a long distance relationship twice and they both worked out. But after a while both relationships just didn't last. But I know it wasn't because they were long distance. But yeah, I'd wait for her.... Definintely.

just tell him how you feel about him and that you want to spend more time with him, and ask him if he still feels for you like he used to. You just have to let him know how you feel and see how he reacts. It might be good and then again it might be bad. Either way, at least you won't be worrying about it anymore. G'luck.

oh, no, I totally believe that if it were meant to be, it will. But that's basically what I'm trying to find out. I mean, we get along perfectly, we can talk about whatever and never have an argument. I mean, she knows how I feel I just don't know to what extent. But I'd rather tell her in person, and ask her how she feels in person, so that she can't procrastonate the subject. I don't mind giving her time to think about it and all but if I wrote her a letter I may never get a reply, if the answer is bad. But I don't know how to ask her without coming straight out with it. I just don't want to make her uncomfortable.

Ok, I'm in a huge predicament. I like this girl, and I think she likes me. I've approached her and we've talked a few times on the phone each time for over an hour. We met at work and everytime we see eachother there, we talk. But I don't know how much she likes me and all. And plus, everytime I ask her out on a date she'll ask me "when?" and then I'll call her but everytime I get a hold of her it's real late at night and she's has to get up early. But the worse part of it, is that she's probably going to be moving away to go to college for 2 years. And I need to tell her exactly how I feel and see if she is willing to be with me and wait. Because I can wait. She's like my dream girl. Any advice on how I should approach this? I really need some help.